Post # 1
I am not yet engaged, and probably have a while, but like many I love looking at ring porn, thinking about what I would want, doing research. I’m quite the planner in all areas of my life, and enjoy doing it, so it’s natural for me.
I believe down the line SO would want me to help choose an e-ring, and he knows how much research (not to mention bargain hunting) I do with everything, and I ALWAYS thought I would want to pick my own, etc. But now, after overloading myself with all the gorgeous options out there, I’m starting to think I would rather just leave it up to him. Not have to deal with too many decisions, have him do the research, and just buy what he wants to buy.
Any other bees have a change in heart about wanting a big say in your e-ring? Were you glad with the direction you went (either picking it out or being surprised)?
Post # 3
I know what you mean about all the choices… it can get to be so overwhelming! Fiance and I had a very, very strict budget for a ring, so that actually made picking one out a lot easier. I had a basic outline for what I wanted- rose gold; thin, pave band; and a pink amethyst. I found a few within our budget, showed them to him and he picked out one that he said ” was very me”, and that’s what we went with. I’m really happy about it because I got something I love, and he still had significant imput in it. Maybe if you narrow down specific traits you really like in a ring, you’d have an easier time looking for one, or you could let your guy know and give him an outline for when he goes ring shopping and let the final decision be completley up to him. Good luck to you!
Here is mine:
Post # 4
My story is a little different I guess. lol We went ring shopping together–Basically I had my mind set on one ring already but when we got there I seen a bridal set that I liked & asked my hubby to pick if he was picking from the two by himself. & He picked the one I have now which was the one I had my eye on! He even had reasons–He said its sparklier & he likes the shape of it the most because its different. His exact words. 🙂 (Marquise, btw!) I am very glad at how we handled it & wouldn’t change a thing. You can always do like PP said & just send him pictures of rings that you like in a certain shape/cut, metal or style/setting & have him pick between them!
Here is mine: (Which I LOVE!)
Post # 5
I told him the shape I liked, and he did the rest. He asked me to send him 4 or 5 rings. And he’s doing the rest.
But I proposed to him first. I told him he better still ask me. But I wanted to be able to plan, since we need this before september of next year. (Long story but possibly buying a house)
Post # 6
I know exactly what you mean. I started out thinking I would do the picking (to make it easier for him) and he would just do the buying and proposing, but turns out he wants to do the picking too!
I had found two rings that I love and showed them to him. But then when I told him the size and the price, he tells me he wants to get something a little more flashy (his taste).
I’m kind of OK with him picking it though. I’m surprised he’s so into it. I was kinda of picking rings based on price anyway, trying to keep it low, but he doesn’t care as much about price as I thought. I’m excited about him surprising me with something gorgeous. Plus I started out loving emeralds, then halos, and now solitaires, so clearly I am confused ! Haha
I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t a little scared of what he’ll pick though :/
Post # 7
At first my fiance told me he wanted to take me to a jewelry store and let me pick one out because it was a dream of his, but for me it meant more if he would just pick something out and propose with it. He took it very seriously and it was very adorable. He asked me the cuts I liked and that was about it, but I got a pretty ring.
Post # 8
@shyviolette: Holy crap! That’s flipping gorgeous! Totally my style. Love all kinds of gold, pave, that shape! Beautiful…
@Reign14: I know if I sent him pictures, he’d definitely be in the right direction, but it’s scary (for a control freak like me) not knowing what you would get! I would totally guilt trip myself if I went back on my ‘stay out of it’ decision…
Thanks for all the feedback y’all! As I said, we’re still a ways from e-ring shopping, so we’ll see what we’re both feeling down the road. As usual, thinking ahead!
Post # 9
@gogogiraffes: I followed your story, love it!
Post # 10
At first I just wanted Darling Husband to pick out something really unique with a stone other than a diamond, but he knows I’m super picky about my jewelry, so after some prompting I actually ended up drawing out what I wanted and Darling Husband had it made, lol. I don’t regret it at all 🙂