Post # 1
Hello hello lovely bees!
Not sure if TTC is the right thread to post this is, but I figured you were the most “cycle-minded” bees around so.. here I am 🙂 The hubs and I aren’t wanting to start trying for a family yet, but will probably in a year or two or.. I think we are flexible! I think it will be sooner than we had originally planned (four years after marriage? yeah… not so much.) Anyway.. I hate being on birth control. I don’t like the idea of my body not being able to ovulate, and the false hormones in my body. I’d rather have my body just get to do its thing. Plus, now that I am on Hubs insurance instead of my parents… BCP goes from free to expensive! Money I’d rather save for future baby.. haha
I know a lot of people use charting for TTC, but do any use it for FAM/ NFP? I am thinking I may like to try this.. As is, we are already using the “pull out method” along with my BCP, so on my fertile days, we could use spermicide along with the P-O M while charting, and maybe using the ovulation test strips for a few moths to get to know for sure how to read my body and charts. Is this going to be effective enough? We have tried condoms and HATE them… I don’t know how people do it! Feels like a sandwhich baggie. Not a fan haha ANYWAY. just wonering what the bees thought? I did a bit of research on effectiveness, but I just feel like personal experiences using FAM or NFP (good OR bad experiences!!) are so much better. Thanks in advance!!
Post # 3
We used NFP to hold off on conceiving until we were ready. In our case that was a fairly short amount of time (about 6 months), but it was the time we needed for me to finish my dissertation and land a job. We then were successful in conceiving within two cycles of when we started trying.
I really like how NFP/FAM helps me to be in tune with my own body – and I love how DH has stepped up and made it “our thing” instead of “my thing.” He is way more of a morning person than I am, so he takes care of writing down the temperatures, and as we got a few months into it, he started to be good at spotting the patterns, recognizing the fertile days, etc. That was really cool to see.
One reason why it works well for us is that I’ve always been fortunate to have pretty regular cycles. That can make a big difference in how reliable it ends up being for any individual woman/couple.
Post # 4
We use the POM. I don’t chart, but I track my cycle and it’s a pretty standard 28 day-er. We don’t do anythign different even in my fertile window. We’ve never had any issues. Going on 2.5 years doing it this way.
I’m with you, I don’t agree with BCP and condoms didn’t work for us.
Post # 5
Head over to the Waiting to TTC thread. Most of the gals there chart to prevent pregnancy. They are fantastic and you will learn a ton if you want!
Post # 6
@future_mrs_s: We use NFP (Billings method) to avoid pregnancy. It basically involves charting the presence or absence of cervical mucus (and the type) throughout the cycle. It only takes a cycle or two to get the hang of it and then it becomes really simple. It is an effective method of charting, even with irregular cycles.
Post # 7
We did this for 7 months between me getting off of the pill and us TTC. I charted and we used the POM on fertile days. It worked really well for us, and I felt good getting more in tune with my body and not being on the pill.
DH says I’m easier to get along with since I stopped taking the pill too. 😛
Post # 8
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@future_mrs_s: Use condoms every time or you might have an oops (unless you’re okay with an oops.) I charted to avoid pregnancy successfully for over a year. Then my body decided to ovulate more than 10 days early and since I had unprotected sex during what I thought was my safety window, I turned up pregnant. Make sure to finish your last pack of BCPs before starting to chart that way you start with a new cycle.
I used the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility and the software on fertilityfriend.com to chart.
Post # 9
I don’t really have any advice to give, but just wanted to say that I am in the exact same boat! DH and I got married in May and I have decided to go off of BCP (just finishing up this current pack and I’m done!) even though we won’t be TTC until next summer. I just bought Take Charge of Your Fertility and it was super helpful… it really spells out the FAM and makes it easy to understand.
I agree with you 100% about not being comfortable with all the synthetic hormones anymore. Good luck!
Post # 10
We used POM effectively with chatting my cycle to know when to be extra careful. The one time we didn’t pull out I got pregnant so be diligent about it if you really don’t want a child now. We didnt care because we were fine with getting pregnant earlier than planned.
Post # 11
Ressurecting this thread because I was about to ask the same exact thing! I’ve read the Waiting to TTC thread, any other charters care to share their experiences? I’d really like to go off BC and start charting, but we won’t be ready to start trying until at least next summer. DH is super nervous that I’m going to get knocked up immediately, despite my explanations of how female fertility works!
ETA: I joined FF, read TCOYF, and stalk the boards here, so I’m pretty informed about it, but would just like to hear the experiences of other bees!