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I found myself fighting and bickering over useless stuff over and over again. I think it is just the stress and we keep bumping heads. I hear eventually it gets better as long as you do not take too seriously and can try to control it. Communication is key and i find him not communitcating with me the way he should and it scares me because i am afraid he will snap and i have no idea when he will. He is going to try to work on it and that's all you can do i guess. If it becomes too severe i would maybe think twice. Weddings, house hunting etc can be fun but boy does it put alot of stress on us.
Choose your battles. That's so cliche and incredibly easy to say rather than do. I think for the most part, we realized that we were fighting over stupid things and would try to combat that as it was happening. Now, we're alright. It helps to be on the same page with everything and over-inform. That way, you both know you're heading in the same direction.
The two months before our wedding were so incredibly stressful; we fought. We got through it, but man, there were a lot of tears. There is an end to it and it's lovely on the other side, promise!
That def makes me feel better cheerful, one of my BM's said the same thing about her engagement. It's just been so stressfull, esp since we are paying for pretty much everything ourselves, and the wedding is taking place in a different state than we live in, ugh, sorry for the venting, lol.
we're 100 days out and haven't hit that point yet, but everything is so stressful, it does make sense. we're both pretty laid back so i'm hoping that it just doesn't happen, so far whenever i feel a little pissy about something he says i'm able to just let it go and move on. i agree with the picking my battles, and really there probably aren't many worth fighting for the wedding. except the bachelor party, we did have that fight! (kind of, i said i wasn't comfortable with him having a lap dance, he said he wouldn't go to the strip club, and i was mad that he'd even want to go. even though he wasn't going!)
Vent away! That's what the hive is for! Daniel Wile's "After the Fight" really really helped us. It's on amazon for $27: http://www.amazon.com/After-Fight-Disagreements-Stronger-Relationship/dp/1572300264
I want to recommend it to everyone because sitting down and reading it one day made me realize just how stupidly I was behaving and some very simple things i could do that would help my then-fiancé stop acting so stupidly too. When you're stressed, overworked, and exhausted it's really tough to step back from the fight.
Best to both of you - you'll get through it together and be all the stronger for it. Do what you can to calm each other before the wedding, which will be here sooner than you know.
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So the FH and I are fighting a lot. Have been for like the last month or so. We have about 50 days to go before the wedding, so we're getting down to all the details. Like the FH doesn't like flowers, and couldn't give two craps about them, but when I suggest making fake bouquet's for me and the BM's he gets all crabby and asks why I don't just buy real flowers. Ok, so I schedule a time to see a few florists, and he has a cow that I ask him to go with me.
So my question is, does this get better after the wedding? It's not that I am having second thoughts, I know that I want to marry him and love him and all of that, it's just this stupid petty bickering and arguing that I am having trouble getting around.
Any tips on making this an easier time for us? Or do I need to just grin and bear it?