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Yep - I'm keeping mine. Didn't seriously consider changing it.
This was a VERY hard decision for me. At first I said I was keeping my name. Then I said I was just going to add his name to the end of mine and use both as my last name. Then I said I was going to use my last name as a second middle because I still didn't want to give up any part of my name.
Then I had to book a plane ticket and make a freaking decision. So I decided to drop my middle name, take my last as my middle, and his last as my new last.
Once the wedding happened (just a few days ago) I got SUPER excited and I'm now totally loving going by MyFirst HisLast. I already changed my emails and my signature at work! Can't wait to make it all official :)
But I will say this... it was a long (16 month) process to get from Point A to Point B... and you need to be comfortable with whatever you decide.
I'm keeping my maiden name for acting purposes, but hyphenating mine and his otherwise.
I'm keeping mine, but I'm also taking his. I know, I know, it's a total cop-out! But I'm graduating from medical school in two months and have dreamed for 10 years about being Dr. Mylast. Plus I love my name, my family, being "a ___ girl," etc. But I also want to be part of our new family and share a name with my children. I could use his socially, but I want my passport to match my kids' passports, to not have to explain that I'm actually part of the family but for people to just automatically know it.
So I'm hyphenating legally, I'll go by "Dr. Mylast" at work and "First Hislast" socially, and my documentation will reflect both of those personas.
It's not ideal, and I'm sure it'll get confusing, but I've thought through every possible permutation and I feel good about this one.
Yup. I'm fine with people referring to me as Mrs. HisLast casually, especially when we eventually have kids, but legally I'm staying Ms. MyLast. I don't see why I should have to change my last name if he doesn't have to change his, we're not the type to make our own new last name, and all my academic and professional achievements are under my maiden name.
I'm keeping my name for professional reasons but I wouldn't mind being called Mrs, I'm just not legally going to change it. This has been an interesting convo with FI for awhile but he says it is up to me. Some of my family are upset because they think it's part of getting married but if I end up doing anything, it's going to take me awhile to warm up to the idea.
I'm doing both. . .sort of. Legally I'm changing my name. Socially, I'll use his last name. Professionally, I'm keeping my name -- for now. In the job I have currently, it's easier and safer to simply keep my maiden name. If I move on to my dream job (self employment) I'm undecided as to what I'll do with my name then. For now my professional license will remain in my maiden name. We'll see what the future holds.
Names are a really personal decision. There is definitely no right answer for everyone. I have friends that have used all the options and each has a reason that absolutly makes sense. It's a matter of what works best for you and is the most right decision for you.
I'm keeping mine. I like my name. I don't like his. But, I made him a deal: I'll take his name if he lets me name all the children. ;) Devious, I know. As for future babies, they'll be "Theirfirst Mylast hypen Hislast."
I am keeping my last name. He understands that it is important to me but was still a little upset.
I am kinda bummed about this, but I am going to take his last name. My last name is supper unique, and I love that I am most likely the only MyFirst MyLast ever. If I look up my last name on the internet or in the phonebook I only find relatives of mine. His last name is very common, you probably could even guess it within 5 tries or less.
The reason I am going to go with his last name is because I have it in my mind that we cannot have different last names. I have even tried to get him to take my last name. He will not do it. 
Definitely not changing. My last name is already "Dad'sLast-Mom'sLast", and my mom never changed her last name. I have no idea how I would come up with a name compromise that would work, what little professional standing I have is connected to my name, and like a PP said, my name is super-unique, no one else has it. Plus... his last name is just not the smoothest. I won't mind if someone socially refers to me with his last, but I'm not changing it in any capacity. I think he would have been charmed if I'd wanted to change, but he knows me well enough to not have expected it.
I'm not changing mine! It was a pretty easy decision. I wouldn't feel like myself if I took his name. And he doesn't care in the slightest, and has even said that he'd be a little sad if I changed because he likes saying "Myfirst Mylast."
Honestly, the only reason I didn't change mine is because it's too much of a headache. I was going to do what my mother did after she was married and swap my middle name with my maiden name and add DH's last name--so I would be MyFirst MyMaidenName HisLastName. But, the clerk at the probate court misspelled both of our middle names on the marriage certificate and it's a big hassle to change it. So legally, I'm still MyFirst MyMaidenName, but socially I go by MyFirst HisLast. DH doesn't care if I ever legally change my name.
I'm keeping mine! FI knew it when we were dating. I've made that pretty clear to every man I've ever dated. I was born on my maternal Grandpa's birthday. I have his last name. My mom gave me her last name... it was because her and my dad weren't married (he died when I was really little). I think its cool that I have my Grandpa's last name due to the birthday and I also think its cool that I got my name from my mother (we aren't super close I just think its cool because my name came from a woman instead of a man). So my name isn't changing.
We have had some discussions about the children's last name and right now its going to me mylastname-hislastname (I told him since his name ends in an "s" and is therefore "pular" it has to go on the end- I'm not sure he bought that but he does love me :D )I'd perfer them to just have one name so its less complicated when they want to get married... but I've heard some horror stories about kids last names not matching their parents when flying overseas... that you have to take a birth certificate and really prove you are the parent. So I think if we both keep our last names then the children should just get both to avoid problems like that.
My FI would take my last name if I really pushed him-- he said he would when my Grandpa was dying. I have a very unique last name, and not many carry it on at this point. MY FI last name is very common and his family is huge, so its not a lot of lost for his family as it is for mine. But I would feel like I was being unfair to him if I did that because I sure don't want to give up mine, so why should he have to give up his?
We haven't told our families, but I guess they will figure it out at some point :P I'm sure his mother is going to looooooove it- not!
@Miss OBG: Same here, but sub attorney and law school for Dr. and med school :-)
And as other bees have said, I'd go from sharing my last name with only my relatives to sharing his last name with half of the state. No, thanks.
I kept my last name for a few reasons...
Both hubby & I work in the same industry, and I'd like to keep my work mine. Plus, I'm one of four girls... I like my last name and I'd like to keep it. (Plus, why should it be an expectation that I take HIS?! why can't he take mine?!)
Not to mention if I did take his last name... my first & last name would rhyme... and that would just be silly.
At first my hubby wasn't too keen on the idea, but it was just as quickly forgotten. It doesn't bother him at all that I kept my own name. (Plus, we both get to laugh a little when people are like Mrs. M & Mr. F, or stumble with what to call us)
Keeping mine. He's Belgian and apparently in Belgim no one changes their name, so he would think it is wierd if I did, plus I don't like his name :p
Keeping it professionally only. I'm a writer and have lots of google results that I'm not about to throw away. But I think it's important to have the same name as my kids because it keeps things from getting confusing and having to prove my identity and relation to them.
I kept mine. My husband didn't care. It was a non-issue for us. One of my male friends thought it was horrible though - he said he would never marry a woman who didn't take his last name. He just felt so strongly about it!
I'm so glad this isn't an issue here in Iceland.
Last names here just indicate what your fathers (or sometimes mothers) first name is. Eg. My last name is Haraldsdóttir because I am Haraldurs daughter.
I'll be doing the same as Cornflakegirl. I'm an actor, too. For union purposes I will stay who I am, but I may hyphenate his onto mine legally. I haven't totally made up my mind.
I am actually very surprised at the fact that I now want to change my name to his. I have a strong feminist/independant side to me and always envisioned that I'd keep my name or hyphenate, but after we got married, I really want his name. Plus it's really cool and French:)
It funny he keeps saying, "you don't have to change your name" because he knows how independant I am and thinks that it would somehow take away from that by taking his name. It's cute, he wants to make sure I know it's ok if I don't. Makes me want to do it more (maybe that's his plan lol).
I have no idea what I'm going to do. I want to change it so that we have a "family name" once we have kids.. but I really do not like his last name. It's the #2 most common last name in North America, and it's doesn't sound all that great with my first name.
I have no plans! He knew that years ago though... doesn't seem to matter one way or the other to him.
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I think I am keeping mine. My name rhymes and it's easy for people to remember. I don't think it will bother me if people call me Mrs. HisLastName socially...but I guess only time will tell!
I actually made a poll about this a while back!
Im going to keep my name, but if we have children they can have my FI's name.
I kept mine. No regrets. My husband didn't care -- his mom kept hers. And in my line of work (academic), it would have been unusual for me to change it. I'm fine with going by his last name socially and most of my extended family thinks my last name is his (I'm too lazy to correct them). If we have kids, we might hyphenate their last names.
I'm keeping my name. This was something that I have been thinking about for awhile, but I like my last name and I am used to it, and I'll be using it professionally (hopefully someday when I finally become a Dr!). I may consider changing it in the future when we have kids as I want to have the same name as my family, but for now I really want to keep my name. It also helps that FI doesn't care at all and respects whatever decision I choose :-)
I am definitely keeping mine. That's not up for discussion. Good thing that FI is 100% in agreement.
Not sure what we are doing yet. We want the same name and the babies to have the same name, so we think I might keep mine and my husband might take MY name. We just like my last name a lot more, and he has plenty of people to pass down his last name while I don't have anyone to carry on my name/family tree. So hopefully we will keep mine together.
I am keeping my last name as I am the only child of an only child and want to keep the family name going for at least a little while...
I'm keeping mine - i always thought growing up that i wouldn't change it and i never considered it - especially as i'd sound like a cartoon character if i did change it now. Our kids have hyphened surnames which sound good together and i've kept their first names short and simple:)
I've been married 2+ years and have yet to change mine (though my business is Maureen [husband's last name]" because it sounded better/included him). When I finish my second degree and start work in that field I'll go by my last name.
I'm keeping mine even though I can't stand my last name... I actually would prefer to change my last name to my mothers maiden name! But my FI last name is too long I cant stand it... he always has to tell people how to spell it and stuff... ugh, not for me!
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