Post # 1
Hey girls –
I must say that when I first got engaged, I was thrilled about marrying Mr.Hoboken but not at all consumed by the wedding itself. I really thought I was the "un-bride" because after all, I’m not one of those girls who has been collecting and scrap booking wedding ideas since birth and since I’m getting married abroad, I’m not planning a typical wedding reception so the party planning aspect wasn’t a draw, either. Heck, I planned on getting married in an off the rack, non traditional wedding dress and I told my two best friends/"bridesmaids" to buy whatever they wanted to wear that day in any color that suited them.
That was in March. Flash forward 4 months and I’m now obsessed with all things wedding – style, decor, inspiration boards, photography, engagement stories, accessories – but most particularly, I’m obsessed with reading wedding related blogs, websites and magazines!
Today, I forced myself to gather up all of the wedding mags I’ve purchased over the past 4 months so I could go through them and take out the pages I’m interested in and recycle the magazines instead of housing 27 magazines in my 700 sq. ft apartment – yes, TWENTY – SEVEN different magazines, including nine from the UK! My wedding mag collection is taking over my home!
So yep – this un-bridey bride is officially wedding obsessed. Has anyone else who started off like me caught this fever, too? If so, please share your story – think of it as a support group!
Post # 3
yes, that is so me! Luckily I’ve convinced myself to keep certain un-wedding aspects, like letting my girls pick their own dresses and shoes (giving them a color and telling them to have fun at whatever store) but then I come across the cutest idea in a magazine/blog/google image search and think… okay, now how do I work this in?
I started blogging so I’d have somewhere to express all my ideas without my FI being annoyed… I have also started making the shift to design magazines because we are going to start furnishing a house from scratch (literally, all we have is a bed, a nightstand, TV and TV stand) next year!
PS you can TOTALLY send your wedding mags my way. 🙂
Post # 4
I’ve gotten WAY more involved and stressed about it than I ever thought I would!!
I think part of my problem is that I have a really hard time making decisions (in all aspects of my life). I obsess about making the right decision, even if it’s just deciding what to have for lunch. So, even though I don’t particularly care which shade of grey my tablecloths are, I still had to decide and then my OCD kicked in and I was obsessed with making sure I pick the "right" shade. I’m also trying to be cost-efficient and that is causing me a lot of stress. I spend way more time that I should shopping around and I’m slowly learning that it’s just not worth it sometimes.
I’m SO ready to be married and I’m glad we are doing a traditional-ish wedding but I’m really not enjoying planning it 🙁
One more month and then I can go back to being the old, non-obsessed-with-weddings Daisy!
Post # 5
Yes. Part of it is that it’s a lot of money to spend, and I’d like to make intelligent decisions about spending it. I don’t have a lot of wedding magazines, but I’ve spent my fair share of time researching venues, photographers, trying on dresses, etc.
@cinemaparadiso – my FI also gets annoyed if there’s too much wedding talk. Thank god for weddingbee.
Post # 6
Ms. Hoboken, this was hilarious. I know exactly what you mean. I never dreamed of a wedding dress, ring, flowers, any of it–and now I can’t stop thinking of all that! I think it started first with my blog and then it just got out of control–now I check my blogs 3-4 times a day … and Wedding Bee a LOT more. I often want a break from it all, but I always come back more obsessed than ever!
Post # 7
Im pretty unbride regardless however I have always been into fashion and decor and creating things. I might seem obsessed but not by choice – I just know if I dont do it myself it wont be what I have envisioned in my head – however, FI is already offering to pay whatever for certain things (i.e. invitation mailers) so I wont take on another DIY project – he says you are doing so much already and dont want to give you more. Im just detail oriented for many things especially now for the wedding.
I have a vision in my head & I guess I am obsessed with executiing it! LOL!
Post # 8
Oh, does anyone know if wedding magazines are recyclable? I’ve got a huge stack of them headed for that bin in a few weeks!!
Post # 9
I relate to each one of you – I can NOT make decisions and I’ve started a blog, too! I make a choice and then I want to change it… you should see the 100s of emails my cake artist and I have sent back and forth over the past few months and I still haven’t made a decision!
First I wanted bright colors that popped, then I wanted subtle colors that blended, then I wanted to combine the two…
To make matters worse, I’m in the midst of planning our Scottish ceremony and wedding dinner and TWO stateside receptions – one in NJ where we live and one in PA where I’m from – and I’m trying to do it all on a budget which, unfortunately, seems to mean that I end up spending more money because I’ll purchase something because it is affordable and then I’ll decide I don’t like it so I buy something to replace it!
And yes, secretly I wish I would have chosen my bridesmaid’s dresses! There! I’ve said it!
Post # 10
*raises hand* I’m obsessed and my wedding’s OVER!! Guess I’m having a bit of a hard time letting go! It’s still so much fun looking at all the amazing dresses, pictrues and projects. The inspiration doesn’t stop!
Post # 11
@mshoboken – LOL, I appreciate your confession.
Post # 12
Ps. Mr. Hoboken is not a fan of DIY or of scouring stores/internet for "deals" when it comes to buying important items. Which is why he is LOVING the Armani suit he purchased for the big day while I am "really liking" the second of the two ($500/each) dresses I bought.
Ugh – why is he always right? Man, I bet I could be LOVING the $1200.00 dress I really wanted in the first place!!!
Warning to those who have not purchased their dress: don’t go crazy, but SPEND THE MONEY and get what you really want!!
Post # 13
i’m in the same boat. i am blaming my current (and constant) obsession with wedding planning to my previous nonchalant attitude. i just say, "well, most ladies having been dreaming of this since they were little girls, so i’m just making up for lost time."
Post # 14
I’m completely taken aback at my obsession! I never in a million years imagined I would become so wedding focused. I have to research dozens of options and vendors, always fearing that if I don’t, I’ll make the wrong choice! I’ve also been surprised at how laid back I am once the decision has been made. I AGONIZED over each and every vendor, but once we put down the deposit, I never went back on my decisions. My confession- Before I myself became engaged, I completely judged Brides-to-Be when they droned on about their own weddings. I fear I have some bad bridal karma coming my way…
@ Daisy Bride – The wedding mags should be recyclable. I’ve always put all my mags in the recycling bin without a problem.
Post # 15
I’m not even engaged and yet I still have a file on my computer with 300 inspiration pictures! And an accordian folder with labels that I put things into (I cut up all the magazines as soon as I get them so the boyfriend doesn’t see them even though he’s the one who brought up getting married). Obsessed would definitely be the word!
Post # 16
Ugh, yeah. I didn’t want the wedding stuff to have any effect on the rest of my life at all, and here I am on Weddingbee during work hours while I return a vendor’s message. Sigh.