Post # 1
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
First off let me say, it is not because we are overly wealthy or anything like that. We are stable, we are older but there are several other reasons I do not really have a set budget per se.
For starters, we are doing an all inclusive (sort of) wedding venue. The venue, officiant, & photos, etc are included in the package I booked. I chose one that I thought was worth the money and it is also based on the number of guests. I was not going for a bigger package just to have a whole bunch of extras for 15 to 20 people in attendance.
Second, I have always been a thrifty shopper. For example, there are a few wedding dresses I have seen (and loved), however I know that I can buy something cheap off of David’s Bridal and be just as married at the end of the day and I highly doubt there would be any dress regret. It wasn’t until the bee that I thought about having one custom made and only recently discovered sites from China that will make replicas.
Finally, I would be just as happy to spend the weekend in Vegas and wear a cocktail dress or on a beach in HI with a summer dress and flip flops. There are two reasons for us having a wedding, my FI wants his family there. He eloped the first time & he missed having his family there with him (I on the other hand had a huge first wedding). And the other reason is our kids (the girls mainly, my son is a teenage boy who could care less) want us to have an actual ceremony so they can dress up, throw petals, walk down the asile, etc.
Just wondering if there are any other brides without an actual budget. Is it because you are in a similar situation, or because you have the money to do so? Not trying to make anyone feel like they are showing off or someone feel like others are showing off. I am just curious.
Post # 2
MrsUPS: We don’t have an exact budget either. Our parents are paying for everything, and we’ve basically just come to them with the cost of something and they let us know if that works for them or not. So far, we haven’t had any issues and they’ve said yes to everything we’ve wanted. We’re not trying to do anything crazy extravagant, and I do have a budget planned out, but it’s not set in stone by any means.
Post # 3
We don’t have a budget – though I think if I were a more over-the-top girl we would, but I’m not the kind of chick who’s going to need custom table cloths or anything insane. Basically we’ve just sort of assessed things as they came up, if it seems reasonable, we go with it.
Post # 4
We don’t have a budget either. Neither of us are over-the-top and we have a very specific look in mind. We didn’t know what costs to expect for what we wanted so its just been a matter of researching things as they’ve come up and making decisions on whether or not it sounds reasonable.
I think if I were interested in something very elaborate and big, I would set a budget but we want what we want and are flexible with respect to how much it costs.
Post # 5
MrsUPS: i didn’t have a budget per say. my mom had X amount of money that she wanted to spend. i am on the more practical side and didn’t see the point in spending lavishly as she would have had i given her free range. actually she probably should have taken me up on that when i told her she could plan my wedding and she turned down the opportunity. but i had a very elegant wedding and did not reach her limit.
Post # 6
MrsUPS: we don’t have a budget also. We been saving every penny we had simce we got engaged 3 years ago meaning no vacation it expensive gift for birthday/Christmass etc. I am not one who want everything to be top of the line. We did our research and think about certain stuff before we say yes to them.
Post # 7
Same as a lot of previous posters. We made a rough guesstimate budget when we first started (listing things we wanted and ball parking what we though it would cost) to get us to a rough number we knew we should plan for. There is definitely no saying no if we really want something because it’s not in our budget. That being said we have priority items we find worth the money and other things we could care less about that we know will save us some costs. like some of the other Bee’s said our style isn’t grandiose so it helps, it will be a formal afair just not with over the top traditional things (read I’m not a huge fan of flowers I want candles everywhere instead).
Post # 8
Same here. We have a very general idea of how much we would like to spend, but we thankfully do not need to stick to it very firmly. We pretty much evaluated every major vendor and decided what we cared about most and what they were worth to us based on that. Our photographer is more expensive than the ones my friends have used, but we believe that the high quality of her work is worth what we are paying. On the other side, we did not think that fresh flowers were worth the expense and opted for DIY paper flowers which cost a fraction of the price. It’s funny because my friends think we are going high-budget on everything, but we’re really not. We’re just paying more on a few items we really care about and spending very little on the rest that we don’t care about.
Post # 9
We’ve not got an actual budget set in stone really. my parents are paying and they have a rough isy guideline they’d like to spend and I just tell them what stuff’s costing and they said if they’re happy with it 🙂 so far so good! We’re not spending stupid money though. Like the average cost here I’d guess
Post # 10
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
Also, we are having a DW and a reception about 3 months after we come home. I will probably spnd more on that than I have on the actual wedding. But, with that, I buy a little here and there and it makes a difference. Ex. I am all about DIY, so I will be doing all the decorations, etc. I can buy a few vases this week and few next week on payday. Eventually it does all add up but shelling out $50 here or there is better than $500 or $600 at once. To me anyway.
Post # 11
We didnt have a set budget either. Our parents all pitched in a certain amount, and we had savings set aside that we could use if necessary. We’re both really practical people, and I shopped around for the best deals. I made lots of things when I couldnt find a price I thought was reasonable, and saved a lot by making our bouquets, bouts and coursages, and having really low-key decor. I also paid cash for anything I could (when I say cash I mean not withdrawing from savings). We ended up not having any wedding debt and our wedding gifts almost paid back everything we spent out of our savings (short maybe a grand or two).
Post # 12
My parents are paying, so we don’t have a budget per say. Like PP said, we kind of run things by my parents, and we tend to stay on the cheeper end of what we get, like paying for the cheeper meal option of beef and chicken instead of prime rib and salmon. Even as a kid, when looking at glasses that my mom would pay for, I would look at the price tag before trying them on.
Post # 13
We didn’t have a budget. We just picked what we liked and figured out how to pay for it!