Any Catholics allowed to do something "different?"

posted 3 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@FutureMrsT1221:  well I didnt have anything too out there… but I was in shock when I sheepishly asked if I could play my own music (as in non-church music) because I had some songs I was sooooo wanting WITH words lol…and he said no problem. That’s typically unheard of according to all the people I know who got married in church. I could have played Beyonce or blink 182 if I wanted and he wouldnt have cared.

That’s all I got lol…he did tell a couple jokes that were funny and one (could have been his accent…..he was originally from india) but he said something about the stereotype of the “women having dinner and slippers ready” when the man comes home and I (and EVERYONE else) agrees he miss-spoke and said strippers lol, I just heard the groomsmen giggling away. I looked at my DH and he had the same look on his face like “did he just say that?”…… pretty sure it was just the accent lol

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It really depends on your priest/parish.  Since your’s is a Catholic symbol, you may get away with a little bit more than with other things. 

I’m nervous too.  There is a song that my fiance and I really want (The Book of Love) I started reading about Catholic weddings, and almost ended up in tears on what they said about music (that it has to be Catholic-y)

My advice is to do what I did and ask a friend who got married at the parish, and then prepare yourself for the priest based on what they say.  For my friend, she said the priest stated all Catholic music, but she could talk him into outside music as long as she could point out why it was Catholic.  In her own words “I think I got away with some stuff I probably shouldn’t have.”  I have my “arguement” for this song being Christian ready.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@FutureMrsT1221:  Maybe you should get married on Holy Thursday and then you guys can just volunteer to go up for the washing of the feet? 🙂

I think a lot depends on the priest.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@FutureMrsT1221:  I’m interested to know what other bees have to say on this.  I’ve already resigned myself to the Catholic-only music– but I’m really hoping to choose an additional reading that is not specifically Catholic. 

Between FI and I, we have 3 cousins we’d like to involve in the ceremony as readers.  A Catholic ceremony usually only calls for two, so it’s not like we’ll be asking to REDUCE the number of religious reading, just two add one in that has special meaning to us.  I’m a huge book nerd and I’d love to use something literary.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We are doing a few cultural traditionals (arras, lasso and unity candle) but I think a priest would be open to your idea. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

This idea is cuter than the unity candle which our moms wanted but was not Catholic in tradition, even if some churchs allow it. I saw somewhere on the internet this done at the reception. We had a personalized Wedding Bible brought up and placed on the altar during the offertory, this will become our family Bible.

Like others say, depends on your parish and priest.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I think you have a good chance since it’s religious in nature. Our priest frowned upon what he called “Hallmark,” traditions such as the unity candle, sand ceremony, etc. since they were not necessarily religious.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@LilySarah:  Have the third read the prayers of the faithful. I had three readers for our ceremony.

ETA: Not sure on the non-Catholic reading. That would be iffy I think, though maybe you’ll have a laid back priest.

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@FutureMrsT1221:  I thought you were going to say something like do a reading from a children’s book or, I don’t know, have acrobats. I imagine most priests would be cool with washing your spouses feet because it’s biblical (and a really super awesome idea, BTW). 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think it really depends on the preist/parish. But I think that you shouldn’t have a problem since you want do to something that happens in the Catholic church anyways, just not ususally weddings.

 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@LilySarah:  

@Misswhowedding:  

Well what I found is it totally depends on the priest!! It’s technically not a “rule” for the church that they all have to follow, but the pastor/priest can basically dictate their preference (only church songs)…so see if you can try to negotiate lol. I have a friend who was only allowed to use songs if they had the word “God, and/or jesus” in it???

Mine was just like “I dont mind…it’s your wedding so you should play what you want”. Maybe you can “shop around” a few parishes and check out their regulations.

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