Any challenges in these final months?

posted 3 years ago in April 2014
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@ShabbyChicBee:  Could you go with her but just window shop? I would probably be like “well I’m broke right now but we could go just to see” personally. Maybe she’ll offer to pay for something once you get there! 🙂

i feel like we have all the time in the world still, but I could be wrong! We’ve got all the major vendors booked except the florist, but I’m pretty sure who I’m going to go with, and the officiant… we met with the minister from my mom’s church but she almost seemed like she didn’t want to do it because it’s a bit of a drive to our venue. But she scheduled us for a second meeting so I guess she’s planning to do it. 

The one thing I can’t get done is buy a dress and it’s making me miserable. I’m literally losing sleep over it :-/ The worst part is I can only go shopping once every week or two, so most of the time I’m just helplessly worrying while the time is just zipping by. And of course every consultant is trying to scare the crap out of me saying I need to hurry or it’ll be too late. 

And the other thing that’s stressing me out some is the honeymoon. We are so all over the place about destinations that we can’t do any preliminary planning. I’m torn between wanting to go all out because it’s once in a lifetime and wanting to just do the bare minimum (ocean + sand) to save money. 

We’re coming up on our halfway point lull time soon though, right?? I want my lull!!!

Post # 5
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5087 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m currently wondering if I should do std cards at Christmas? My other option is just skip them & send proper invites at Christmas because by then it’s only 4 months away. So confused. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@ShabbyChicBee:  I thought January would be a good time to send the invites out. It’s enough time I think. When are you thinking of? 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Soon2BD-CBee:  I too am planning on completely ignoring the STD cards. I know that I am behind on everything!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@tiff-tiff-tiff:  what have you got left to do? Don’t stress, it’ll all come together. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Soon2BD-CBee:  I am literally behind on everything. I haven’t started a thing.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

We ordered postcards from VistaPrint s our save the dates- we got 100 for $20, and they were gorgeous!

I feel like a slacker, but I also feel like the wedding is SO far away. We have most of the major things booked, venue, photographer, DJ. The only thing I dont have done that I’m kind of stressing about is reserving a block of hotel rooms. The majority of our guests are OOT and none of my family members have big houses, so we need a hotel with some kind of general gathering space that we can use as a meeting place, and I just really dont know how to go about that.

We JUST booked our honeymoon last week, but I feel like we got duped into it. We didnt have a honeymoon budget set yet as we were waiting to sort out our wedding finances first. FI’s dad asked about our plans and what we were thinking, then his travel agent emailed us a bunch of resorts and told us to choose one (no prices listed), so we told her our favorite of those listed. later that night he called and said “you’re leaving on this day to go to such-and-such resort, your flights are blah blah blah, everything is booked, all you have to do it get on the plane”. 2 days later he comes into town and goes on and on about our great honeymoon and what a great deal his agent got, and that we just have to pay him back for half…. its only $3500…. W. T. F…. this was never mentioned before he booked it. We’re going to have an incredible honeymoon for the price of a good one, but still. I was SO not ready to book it without our budget figured and he didnt even discuss it with us before booking!

Woah… totally threadjacked…. sorry! First-world problems rant over!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Charliejeorge:  no a thread jack at all. Your 1/2 of your honeymoon is my entire wedding budget…lol. I would so upset if one of our parents booked my honeymoon without me & then ask me to pay half. Darn! I’m very impressed you’ve got all that done. 

 

My new update is our registar is available we are paying the fees tomorrow…woop! *happy dance*

Post # 14
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Busy bee

i am waiting for my dress to come in! it was supposed to come in 2 weeks ago, and it hasnt showed up yet 🙁 i called the dress place today, and they said they’d check on it for me.. but it makes me a little nervous. does that count as a challenge? haha

Post # 15
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Busy bee

oh, and like many of you bees, i am on a tight budget so we aren’t going to start planning our honeymoon until our wedding is just about over so we know how much money we have left!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

@Soon2BD-CBee:  Bah, thank you! I feel like a total spoiled brat complaining about it, OK i KNOW im being spoiled, but FI and I have 7 parents between the 2 of us. His dad has BY FAR the most money and he’s contributing less than anyone… i would have completely appreciated him paying for half had he discussed it with us first. It’s his money and he can spend it however he wants, and he by no means owes us anything because we decided to get married. BUT he never considered that we have a LOT of other things to pay for right now, we’re renovating, hopefully buying a new home, the wedding… he just made a lot of assumptions about our finances, and made decisions about OUR money and came to town acting like a huge hero for getting the same deal we would have got on expedia… I know i should be grateful, and I am, but I’m also mad that he made those decisions for us then asked for a big chuck of money after the fact.   

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