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Just curious if there are any other Chinese/SE Asian Pregnant Bees on here?

There's a whole host of things to do, not to do that comes with our culture! Just wondering if there's any to swap notes with.

Thanks!

haha. I'm sure you'll hear it all from your mom or dad when you are. But some of it's crazy and some if it is variation of western stuff.

Like my mom wants me to drink milk because then the baby will have smooth white skin.

Not a lot of shellfish because it will ruin the baby's complexion.

And just a lot of food stuff your suppose to eat after delivery that helps you heal and prevent arthritis later in life. Bird's nest throughout pregnancy. With my village culture it's a whole chicken a day stewed in this specific oil from China and rice wine my mom makes. But my SIL is a different village and they eat pigs feet instead of chicken. So depending on what kind of Chinese you are the details will be different.

The "month sitting" no going out with baby for a month afterwards.

One month celebration when the baby is one month old.

And lots more really crazy stuff I won't post to scare the vast majority of "Westerners" on here. hehe. :D

@regberadaisy: "smooth white skin".  Hmm.

I'm Chinese but not pregnant.... When my sister was pregnant my mom told her she wasn't allowed to use knives/scissors/sharp objects because it would hurt the baby? She was also told to not look at "ugly" babies/baby pictures as it would result in an "ugly" baby. Yes, aren't these things hilarious!?!

@plantains:

That will be interesting trying to merge the two. My husband is German/Irish so he'll def have a say in some of the things I do plan to partake in. But nothing too crazy. ;)

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I think some things I will adhere to. I'm drinking milk already for calcium. I LOVE shellfish but I'm definitely limiting it to when I really crave it (which I haven't yet) because I do remember my one SIL had a lot of shellfish during both her pregnancies. And my nephews both have horrible skin, eczema and general itchiness and allergies. Could be a medical reasoning behind, could be the shellfish. Who knows?

I would like to do the one month celebration so everyone can meet the baby. But I probably won't do it right at one month. The thought of traveling 8 hours with a one month old is not fun!

Now the custom that usually grosses people out is for a month after labor you are NOT suppose to shower or wash your hair. The cold water touching you is said to cause a cold and arthritis later on in life. Um. Yeah. This one I am NOT following.

As for the "month sitting" and the food you're suppose to eat after labor. My mom has already said she's coming up to stay with us for 2-3 months after delivery to help with the baby and make sure I'm properly taken care of. We believe the care after labor has to be very careful and specific because it can affect you later in life.

And there are TONS I don't even know about! These are just the ones I've heard through my life and my mom has told me in the past 3 weeks!

@yellowshoe:

I think that one is ridiculous as well! My SIL is actually the one that brought that up to me not my mom. My husband and I both love to cook so yea...I'm not not cooking for 9 months.

@pinkshoes: lol. my mom also believes that the MAN is supposed to wait on the woman 24/7. Yes, she  calls me an idiot because I do the majority of the cooking/cleaning in our house and that I need to "teach" my FH better.

Don't worry, my sister still did plenty of cutting/slicing during her pregnancy and her baby turned out happy and healthy =)

@crash806:

My EDD is 4/30 so you're a month ahead of me!

Oh darn you! Now I want dim sum! I think in small quantities like that it won't stop me either. oh shrimp noodles, how I miss thee. It's just that I can polish 2-3 of those small blue crabs in one sitting like all the time. hehe. So I'm just watching it.

Is your mom planning on doing all the food for you the month after delivery?

@crash806:

Last time I had dim sum was mid August when my mom was here and we drove up to Toronto to visit my aunt. Mmm....now I want dim sum!!!

My mom's planning to come up (I live 8hrs away from her :( ) after or right before I'm due for 2-3 months to help out with the baby and cook "the food". Hehe.

I'm really happy she offered to do it because my SIL is due around the same time so I would never ask her to take her away from my SIL. But my mom said since my SIL's tradition is a little different (they are Buddhist we are not) her mom would take better care of her. So that my mom can come stay with me for a bit.

haha. And not bad at all! I was googling and there are so many modern ideas for the Red Egg & Ginger Celebration now! If we do it I'm hoping my ILs who live in GA can fly up for it. We'll see how it plays into their visiting baby schedule. :D I'm probably going to do it more month 2 though.