Post # 1
After our vows, I would really like to have a short unity ceremony. I’m in love with the idea and found exactly what I would like to use for it!
My fiance thinks the idea is totally cheesy and says thats the one thing he doesn’t really want to compromise on.
Anyone else have similar stories come up during wedding planning and then have success convincing their fiance/husband to agree with their idea?
Post # 3
You shouldn’t have to compromise on the optionals. If he doesn’t want it, then don’t do it. It’s not necessary.
Post # 4
I lost my fish in the centrepieces because only Betas would live (they breathe from the top of the water so they’re okay in a small bowl) and he thought there were ugly.
But I won the Balloon table numbers. He thought balloons would make the wedding feel “cheap” but after discussing with a company and showing him photos of how the Balloons would look (and using circles, not tear-drop balloons) he agreed to do them.
He felt that casual engagement shoots were odd and they should be more formal. I convinced him to just have fun and we’d look better being more natural. He was still skeptical (I chose a paint fight engagement shoot) but he went along with it in the end and had a blast, probably even more fun than me.
If its something important to you then fight for it, if its not, let it go. The fish I always wanted but realized they weren’t as imporant as him being happy on the day. The Balloons I fought for because it was the ONE thing my father suggested for the wedding and I really wanted my father’s input to be appreciated so I fought long and hard (several months!) to get the balloons.
Just remember you should be finding things you’re both happy with as its not just your day. I have my Fiance involved probably more than he would like to be, but in the end he’s happy when he hears that most grooms don’t get any input or they just get steamrolled by the bride. You’ll remember the day more fondly if you’re not broke and you both have fun and are relaxed, the little details will fade into pictures 🙂
Post # 5
Our whole wedding was a compromise because I wanted something smaller, cheaper and involving less effort. He pretty much got exactly what he wanted because we could afford it, and I didn’t want to take away the big wedding experience from him just because I could have done without.
But I did get to have a Jewish ceremony. (He’s not Jewish.)
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
@virgomasala80: We’re in the exact same boat! I wanted to write our own vows (or at least additions to the traditional ones) and do some sort of unity ceremony, but he isn’t keen on the ideas of either. He is worried that if we write our own vows it will be like the first wedding in wedding crashers (super cheeeesy) and he just doesn’t see the need for the unity ceremony. The only unity ceremony I like for ourselves so far is the Unity Cross, but those things are expensive!!! So we really might not do one lol.
I think you should sit down and have him lay out his concerns or hesitations, and you lay out why it’s important to you… but you also have to rate it for yourself if it’s so important it might cause a disagreement, or if you can really let it go to make your FI happy.
Post # 7
our date. fi is in the military, so we had to accomodate the wedding around his work schedule and my grad school.