Post # 1
I want to surprise my parents by incorporating some Croatian wedding traditions into our ceremony/reception. We will have Croatian music during the ceremony but I was looking for maybe a traditional song to walk down the aisle or any other customs?! I read online that men are given a stick of rosemary to pin on their jackets for good luck. I also read about a money bucket, but we won’t do that.
ANy help?? 🙂
Post # 3
@Fallicious1012: I’m Serbian, so obviously you’re my mortal enemy 😉
Since I was born and raised in a place called Yugoslavia I think this all applies. haha
The rosemary sprig is usually meant for all guests, not just men, and the bridal party is meant to ‘sell’ them at the bride’s house when all the guests first come there to get her. You can just have them available for guests to pin on if you don’t want to ask people to pay for them, and if your guests aren’t familiar with the custom they won’t know what to do. There’s also the ‘buying’ of the bride but I don’t if that’s just a Serbian thing (probably not)
I don’t know about songs for walking down the aisle, my whole family married at city hall/registry office so there was no aisle. It’s really typical to have a brass band (usually played by Roma/Gypsy) provide music for the day.. well really they just know when/where the weddings are and show up and expect to get paid. That might be a bit complicated/costly though.
A lot of the traditions are also pretty region specific too! What about just asking your parents what they’ve seen at Croatian weddings but not letting on that you want to do any of that so you can still surprise them?
Post # 4
@Ms. Martian: I’m Istrian and Dalmatian. I thought maybe we could learn the Balun, but maybe that would be too hard, lol! My Fiance knows how to dance to regular Croatian music, so that’s already a plus! Thanks for more info about the rosemary! I think I just might appoint two people to hand them out on their way into the ceremony or something? I have seen pictures of rosemary sprigs tied with ribbon, I can totally do that! I have been to a few Croatian weddings but everyone is American, so there is nothing super traditional. I emailed a friend in Croatia, so I am awaiting her reply…!!! I will mention it to them but my dad has been here since he was a teenager and my mom was born here but went there every summer for vacation, so I don’t think they’ve ever seen a wedding IN Croatia. I’m looking for small touches!
THANKS, neighbor! 🙂
Post # 5
@Fallicious1012: No problem! Haha I was just asked today if I was Croatian and when I said no they apologized like it was the worst insult in the world. I grew up in Bosnia (Banja Luka) but I spent my summers in Croatia of course!
I am thinking of doing the rosemary as well but I am worried about guests not wanting to pin it onto their clothes, I guess if it’s optional it doesn’t matter. They’re really cheap to make, you can do a ribbon or you can do the old school way with a cocktail napkin behind it and then you just put the 2 together on the day of.
Hopefully your friend gives you more ideas! I have been in Canada for almost 20 years so I don’t really know/remember much and most here are pretty typical.
I think you’re good with just the regular music haha! My Fiance isn’t from that part of the world at all so I have to teach him a bit more over the next few months since we’ll do a bit of kolo to make my parents happy 🙂
Post # 7
My Fiance is Macedonian and we are doing the buying of the bride which is crazy to me since I’m just a mutt and was raised Catholic!
But his cousin married a girl from Croatia about 2 years ago and they did a lot of cool stuff. His mom’s best friend is also from Croatia so I know a bit.
They did the rosemary but we had to pay $1 for it. And we did. I thought it was kind of cute and a way for the bride and groom to make extra money. And if I know anything about Macedonian weddings, getting money is the most important thing.
They also did the bread dance. Macedonian’s do this as well but his wife specifially told me she was doing the bread dance for her arents because apparently they made a ton of money when they got married in Croatia. They make like 3 HUGE loaves of bread and you shove money into. You do the actualy “bread dance” with the bread dance music and who ever puts money in the bread gets to dance with it in the middle.
The pig dance, which I am not sure if this is a Macedonian thing or what. But all of the groomsen and bridesmaids go in the back after they have been introduced and they get aprons and put their ties on their heads and look kind of roughed up. They come out banging pots and pans while cousins o the groom hold the cake. They dance all around the reception and people throw money at the pig. Then there are 2 or 3 groomsmen or other relatives with vodka bottles pouring vodka down other people throats.It’s so fun! But like I said, not sure if that’s just a Macedonian thing or not?