Any details ironed out without an official proposal?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
1483 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’ve basically looked into almost everything I can do short of contacting vendors.  I think that would be a little overboard for my situation.  However, I have researched the venues, caterers, DJs, photographers, etc. in my area, and I have a short list for once the time comes.  We’ve discussed lots of elements of our wedding, like the color scheme, overall feel, etc.  

A lot of this pre-planning is because I plan to sew my own dress (fingers crossed that it works out okay!) and since I know that will take up a lot of time, I want to have a lot of the other details “ready to go.”

Post # 4
42 posts
  • Wedding: August 2014

Hi! Im in nursing school and although we aren’t engaged yet (he’s been saving and looking for the right kind of ring) I used my Christmas break to decide on a lot of the stuff I wanted. Since school gets so busy and we want to be married this coming year I’ve already picked a lot of my stuff, including my dress (well it’s narrowed down to two lol). 

Post # 5
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My Fiancé and I looked at venues before he proposed…I researched other vendors (florist, caterer, etc) but didn’t contact them until after he proposed. If you are having serious discussions about marriage then I don’t see any harm with doing some research

Post # 6
8294 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

CeeceeBee:  I had some time between jobs late this winter so I just decided to go for it. Its essentially all researched and planned, venue, vendors, everything. When its official and we have a date, it will be super easy to just to press all of these buttons I created.

I definitely wouldnt recommend this to the waiting bees at large- it would be really depressing to do all that work and have the proposal not come or come in years or something.  I am 99.9% sure he’s proposing in the next few months as hes said as much, talked to my parents etc so I planned my heart out (but did not sign any contracts or place deposits obviously).

Post # 7
1483 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

CeeceeBee:  Thanks!  I hope I can pull it off!  I’ve sewn enough dresses to feel comfortable, but I’ve never worked with lace before, so I definitely need to add a few skills to my repertoire!

Post # 8
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

We did some venue research and budget talks, and I picked royal blue when I was about 16, lol. No deposits were made until we’d been engaged a few months, and it was nice to enjoy it for a bit before planning mode. The benefit of a long engagement, I guess 🙂

Post # 9
2426 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

We had visited 3 venues before he officially proposed.  The date had been picked, we’d told family members about it (my mum, his sister – we needed to know school schedules).  The general feel, budget, guest list #s had been decided before her proposed in December.  

Nothing was booked until after (only because he proposed sooner than he expected to).  Had he waited until February like he’d planned the venue/catering/bar would have been booked before. His original plan was to go away for the weekend of our -1 anniversary (he and my sister both wished me a happy negative one anniversary when we were a year out from our date!  Nerds.) And he was going to propose on the ski hill of the resort we’re getting married at.  

It’s not like I was surprised that he wanted to marry me when he proposed.  We’d already decided to get married.  (I was still surprised that it was happening when it did.  Pre-planning took away exactly none of the excitement, IMO.  I was still shocked, a bit confused, super excited when it happened.) 

Post # 11
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Home

I haven’t contacted any vendors yet but we’ve picked the overall look (Burlap and Lace) and some details. I told him by the time he proposes I’d have the wedding completely planned and he said “I see no problem with that!” We haven’t nailed down vendors or time yet.

Post # 13
3059 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

We have discussed how we want to break down paying for the wedding, and a little bit about budget. We have also agreed that our tables will either be named penguin species or dinosaur species (or both). We haven’t gone too much more specific than that, though occasionally when we are out and about on road trips we mention certain locations as being great possible venues.

Post # 14
239 posts
Helper bee

Well… My SO is looking like he will be quite the Groomzilla. HE wanted to go looking at venues, and who was I to say no lol! We both fell in love with our venue, and he put the deposit down on the spot for the date we had been discussing. We have pretty much researched everything else, but aggreed to wait to book until he unveils this master plan he has been working on for the engagement. 

Until then, I am just happy and content, because I know I won’t be waiting past this summer. The wedding date is set for next May!

Post # 15
120 posts
Blushing bee

CeeceeBee:  Oh yes.  I have a whole Pinterest page devoted to wedding stuff.  I have already picked out the color scheme for my wedding, various shades of my favorite color.  I already have a great affordable time of year picked out (early spring), which coincides with my job’s spring break so that I won’t have to request off many days from work.  I have also looked at food venues and know what types of stuff will be on the menu, and have definitely looked at wedding cake designs.  I’ve been looking for coupons, discount vendors, and little ways to scrimp and save since I do not make a whole lot of money.  I’ve been going to bridal expos too.  I also have a wedding dress, strapless ball gown style with beading on top, because I scored a great deal on it at a store that had end of season clearances and leftovers from the prior year.  I’ve also been browsing men’s wedding bands as well so that I know what to purchase.  The only thing I don’t know for the ring is the man’s finger size, because *sigh* there is no man yet.  Ugh.  Hopefully I do not get laid off in the next round of job layoffs, because my employer’s healthcare benefits are the saving grace that could help me land a man in this day and age of “mandatory healthcare”/Obamacare.

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