Any diaphragm or cap users? Your experiences please!

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I was on the pill and decided to get off it. I was fitted and the doctor had me practice putting a diaphragm in and pulling it out using their size testers. However, when I got my actual diaphragm, I found that it was spring-loaded (unlike the testers) and I’ve been having alot of trouble with it. It painfully pops open when I try to insert it, slips around with the spermicide, and is just very difficult to handle. I haven’t yet been able to use it for intercourse because I’ve ended up giving up on it and resorted to using sponges and condoms. I hear that they become easier to use with practice.

Post # 4
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1389 posts
Bumble bee

I have had the exact opposite experience.  I think the sponge is much harder to insert than the diaphragm.  

Post # 5
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252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@FromA2B2013:  I got fitted for the diaphragm before the wedding and I hated it! They claim you can go throughout your day wearing it so that you won’t have to run and insert it when the feeling hits. But it was so uncomfortable to me and it felt like it was putting all this pressure on my rectum. I even told the gyno that it didn’t feel good but he wasn’t taking me seriously enough and he was just like “la-di-dah, I’ll leave you alone to take it out and reinsert it for some practice.” Well I couldn’t even get it out so I had to wait for him to come back. It was such an awkward experience and I was still uncomfortable for like an hour after the appointment. I looked online and it said people that felt pain with it probably have a retroverted uterus or something, so it just doesn’t feel right for them. I’m assuming that was my problem. But most women don’t seem to have an issue with it from what I read. It may be worth it to just make an appointment and try it out. 

Post # 6
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207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I didn’t mind the diaphragm when I was using it (pregnant right now), but it is messy and can be hard to handle with spermicide…things get slippery. I also sometimes had a hard time getting mine out, but that was just annoying. I never felt it once it was in or had any discomfort. You do have to be comfortable with getting all up in your own vag, though. 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Four months is still within the transitional phase where you may not have fully adjusted and may have spotting here and there, so if you’re otherwise happy with OCPs, I’d suggest giving it a few more months. 

If you are set on non-hormonal methods, why not do a Paraguard IUD? Good for 10 years, zero maintenance, and it’s ready to go when you are (and when you do want to TTC, out it comes and you can become pregnant as early as the first cycle). FYI, the Mirena IUD has the added benefit of giving you really light periods, but if you want to stay away from all hormones, then not for you, obviously.

Post # 8
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1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I used a diaphragm for 4 years before getting my IUD (which I’ve been using for 11 years).  I had no problem with it at all.  The only thing I didn’t like was it was only “good” for one act of intercourse; after that you have to reapply the spermicide. 

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