Any Egg Donor Bees/Bees Who Were Rejected Out There?

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Post # 2
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Helper bee

I’ve definitely considered donating my eggs since given my own feelings on having children, I can’t imagine a feeling worse than wanting a child and not being able to have one. The last time I looked into, though, I was too young so I can’t really give you much insight into the process or whether your family history would make it hard for you to be accepted or not.

But seriously consider if you’d be willing to do this. It’s not like donating sperm – they basically stick a giant needle through your insides and into your ovaries to do this so it’s quite a sacrifice on your part, but obviously the portential rewards for helping someone else start their family are also great. https://web.stanford.edu/class/siw198q/websites/eggdonor/procedures.html Just something to consider.

Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I just donated for a very very close friend.  For me, it’s just too personal to donate to anyone. Yes, her two children are genetically half me – but they are so clearly her children.  For me, I’d held her hand and her husbands’ hand for years of trying and failing to have a child, then as their adoption attempts failed for nothing they did. They were looking into donor eggs for 13 months before my friend and I talked about me donating. 

Would I do it again – honestly, I don’t know. I believe they have 7 eggs left. We’ve not discussed anything further and by now, it’s not a realistic option as I’m finally getting married, I’m slightly older than preferred and would like to try for my own family. I have to say it’s extremely unlikely I’ll donate again.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have applied and was rejected at two different places. Not sure why on the first one, I thought I had a pretty strong health history, neither of my parents have any major issues and they are in their 60s. My paternal grandmother had breast cancer and was treated,she lived another 20 years after diagnosis. The second time they said I was too old, at 29…I did all the research and really thought I had a chance. It was very disappointing. I hope it works out for you!

  • This reply was modified 1 year, 10 months ago by  NowMrsS.
Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Unfathomably:  The first drug for me was Prostap, and was the easiest drug to me. But I was pretty grouchy then, and was prone to ankle swelling and dehydration, made worse by it being summer.

Gonal/f was a nightmare of cramps. $25,000 wouldn’t be worth it. But FSH and me is like Octomom and the Duggar cult claiming infertility – a bad joke. My ovaries figured they would produce like guppies.

Oxidrel was the HCG and let’s just say it made Gonal/f feel like a walk in the park. But, I’m really fertile or very easily tripped into fertility. There wasn’t anything wrong with me, it was just the heavy production. My levels were abnormally high apparently. Which was a good thing for my friend who still struggled to get pregnant even with my eggs until her first kid stuck. Baby 2 was a good deal easier.

But despite all the bad, it was worth every single shot, cramp, and other evils to see my friend and her husband holding their 3 hour old son. I wouldn’t have changed anything because it became worth it. But for me, it’s a very personal choice and I emotionally couldn’t just donate eggs for an unknown person. But I suspect that it’s that way for me because I want children myself vs being childfree. Both sides are valid options, neither is better or worse.  I can’t be childfree myself, but I think it’s a huge disservice to require someone who is comfortable and happy being childfree to have a child.  All children should be wanted.

 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Thank you!  For us, all four of us felt it was right.  Physically, my friend and I are same blood type and Rh factor. I’m taller, but we’re pretty close in build and hair/eye color.  Which was important to her and her husband. Their kids look like them.  Infertility isn’t fun or comfortable, so why would egg donation be.  Mentally, I probably got off the easiest in a way.  My fiance, then boyfriend, had to put up with my crazy nasty moods. My friends had a hard time with how sick I felt for them.  But we all made it ok, and they have two gorgeous kids and life is good.

If you go in understanding that it’s not a walk in the park and it can not only be downright awful, but dangerous, if you’re comfortable, it’s worth looking into. 

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