Post # 1
Well, Fiance and I have taken the plunge and began discussing fertility options with our doctor. We are seeing a specialist in a few weeks once we get the referral. I am very anxious about this as I don’t want to get my hopes up. here is my story.
I became pregnant at a very young age, and was married with two babies by 21. I was very busy between school, babies and life in general. I became pregnant on the pill with number one, number two (my fault, missed two days) and had an etopic pregnancy on IUD with number three which I lost, number four I had at 25 on one fallopian tube and two days before my expected period (the only time we had sex that month and figured I was safe) got pregnant.
My marriage was pretty much out the window at that point, and I was devastated. Number one, I had never planned any of my babies and also my marriage was more like friends for a long time. The marriage ended when I was 29 and I am now 35.
I am remarrying and my Fiance has no kids of his own. He has taken on parental responsibilites with my three who are with my full time. My youngest is now 10, and oldest are both senior teens, and would love t ohave a baby with Fiance in a year or two.
I got my tube tied after my D was born, as I really wanted to focus on my career and also was afraid of getting pregnant again.
I am wondering which second time brides had another baby with their new hubby and did they have to undergo any fertility options and also, how did you discuss this with your kids? Also, any book recommendations would be excellent for topics surrounding this.
Post # 3
I know it’s three months later, but I found your thread when I was looking for fertility supplements. I hope to have tubal ligation reversal before the year is out.
I had my tubes tied at 28. Now I’m 43 and engaged to my 30 year old fiance. We have decided we are going to go for broke and pull out all stops to have a baby before it’s too late, even if we have to push the wedding back a couple of months.
I’ve already consulted with a fertility clinic that is well known and fortunately they are in my state. http://www.pregnantagain.com They requested the records from the hospital that did my tubal and the doctor only removed a tiny bit of my tubes, leaving me with at least 10 inches on each side.
SuperFine had a sperm analysis done last week and he’s good to go with 95%. I just had an AMH test done to make sure I still had good egg reserves and good for us, I do.
The clinic I’m using does this on out-patient, so that makes it more affordable. Insurance does not cover the procedure, so everything is out of pocket. Lakeshore, the facility I am using charges $6900, but if you pay in full the day you make your appointment, they knock it down to $5900.
Anyway, they have a group on facebook that is very informative and you see many success stories that will help give you hope.
Here is the FB group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/30228542914/
Oh and my kids are totally on board with me doing this. My daughter is concerned about my health, but other than that, everyone is excited that we’ve made a baby our top priority. I’m also taking several different supplements that are supposed to aid in getting my eggs and ovaries in the best possible health for conception once we have the surgery.
Post # 4
That sounds really exciting! I am on the fence now as I can’t seem to get a straight answer here in Ontario on costs, reversals..etc. here they push invitro and I don’t want to have it be so un-natural…I have a friend who went through it recently and I feel for her 🙁
I wish you al lthe best and keep me posted!
Post # 5
I’m an encore bride and pregnant, but I’m only 31, so I don’t really have any advice. Just wanted to say congrats and good luck!!
Post # 6
My ob/gyn also pushed me towards IVF.
My problem with IVF is that at my age, it’s still a crap shoot on if it will take and if it doesn’t, I’m having to spend that money over and over again until the eggs do take.
I feel like my odds for conception are about the same either way and with my tubal ligation reversal, I can try every month without it costing me thousands more dollars. And if it doesn’t happen for us the natural way, we won’t have kept pounding money into trying and will have more funds for adoption.
I’ve noticed on one of my groups that several ladies have stated that they came to the US from Canada for their surgery because of the cost efficiency.
The top three facilities that I’m aware of in my neck of the woods are Dr. Levin in Kentucky, Chapel Hill in NC, and Lakeshore in Gainesville, GA. At all three places, they set you up in a hotel for two days near where you will have your surgery so you can remain close by for observation and to come back the next morning to run the tests and make sure surgery was a success.
Now I have also heard women talk about going across the border to Mexico. There is supposed to be a really nice out-patient facility and the cost is less than $3000. It sure does look good to me, but right now I really want to keep it close to home.