Any engaged or married bees, who's parents haven't met each other?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m in the same boat. My FI parents have not met mine. My mom keeps bugging about it because to her she should have met them when we got engaged. It is a bit unusual but only you know your situation and what is best. Maybe you should have your dad meet them. That would be nice. 

Post # 5
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626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My family is on the east coast, his are west coast, we met and will be married on the west coast. My mom did get to come out and meet them. My dad only met the FI when he flew back east to ask for my hand in marriage. 😀

BUT my Dad is awesome and so relaxed so not concerned. it was just my mom who I was nervous on.

 

I’m going to have a great total combined family, no problems or drama anywhere! Yay!

Post # 6
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Silly_love:  Yes, parents can be so pushy! LOL. My FI finally talked to my mom about the situation with his parents and I think she finally got it. I think you should explain to your FI parents. They may think you are trying to avoid it, or that maybe you don’t want them to meet. My mom thought that! She thought I was ashamed of them or something! She is insane! But really just tell your FI parents your moms situation (maybe not all the details) but I am sure they will understand and feel better about it once they know. 

Post # 7
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5087 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Our families haven’t met yet, they’ll probably meet at the wedding. Everyone seems fine with that. 

Post # 8
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4076 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

They haven’t met yet, but they can meet at the wedding, or not at all, if we elope. I view it as, I am marrying my FH, not his parents and there is no real reason to get together (they are different and its not like they will end up best friends or something – plus they do not live in the same state).

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Our families haven’t met yet. There were plans for a while to find a time for all of us to go out to dinner, but FH’s mom was a nurse and worked odd hours so schedules never messed. Then she passed away rather suddenly so it just never happened. They won’t meet until the wedding, but nobody’s been bothered by it.

Post # 11
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Silly_love:  omg I’m in the same situation ! Im Latina and my fiancé Irish. 

its just diff Hispanic parents want to be involved a lot. It’s annoying sometimes. Lol 

Post # 12
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1060 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Our parents didn’t meet until after we were engaged. I’d met his parents and he’d met mine, but the two sets of parents hadn’t met.

Fortunately, they got along really well. My family being Chinese and his family being Caucasian, was no problem at all!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My father is not a great person, and because of that I no longer talk to him, etc. Haven’t spent time with him in 4 years. He is mentally ill, but is also just an inconsiderate self-centered person, etc. My FI has never met him (we’ve been together 3 years 8 months). My father would like to meet my FI. I feel like under normal circumstances it should happen, but I just don’t think its in the cards. It is a little weird thinking about getting married without my FI ever even meeting my father. But my FI understands the character of my father, and isn’t all that interested in meeting him. My FI takes very good care of me, and is defensive of me when shit hits the fan, and my father is one of those shit hitting the fan folks. My FI’s parents have met my mother once (she is divorced from my father). My FI was a little weirded out having never met my father when we first started talking about getting married, but I think he is over it. I think my FI’s parents were a little surprised he has never met him, but they understand. 

It is weird for me to be moving on with my life in such a significant way. But the idea of having my father invited to the wedding even is kind of appauling to me, so my FI and I are likely just going to elope. I don’t know if I should even send him a wedding announcement or not. If you ever want to chat, feel free to PM me. 

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Our parents haven’t met. My mom passed away in May, and my father is a recovering alcoholic (very, very new to recovery), so I get a little anxious about introducing him to people. That, and my fiance’s parents live in Minnesota (we’re in California), so.. I guess there’s that, too 🙂 If my dad winds up coming to our wedding, he’ll meet them then.

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