Post # 1
Hey bees! I have been married 3.5 years, and am going into the U.S. Navy. I ship to basic training April 15th. It has always been a dream of mine, I grew up with my step father in the Navy and I am so thankful tht DH is so supportive. I have met a few married women who are in the DEP with me, but I would like to meet women who are living a life in the military while being married.
That being said any women who arein the military instead of their SO? No offense to the Army, Air Force, Navy, USMC, or Coast Guard wives but I’m looking fo someone in a similar situation to mine.
Post # 3
@cupcakesandcombatboots: I am not in yet but PLAN on serving after college 🙂
So, I may not be in your shoes right now but I will be there someday lol
Post # 4
active duty AF bee here. SO is active duty as well.
Post # 5
Not a wife yet. I have been in the Navy for 7 years and my Fiancé has been in for 5. Do you have any specific things you want to know?
Post # 6
I’m active duty navy and so is my husband :). We’ve each been in 4.5 years
Post # 7
I was AD army while FI was a general contractor on base (he is a GS11, as a Generals Aid) I was medically retired in 2009, he was AD Airforce for 12 years (but never AD while we have been together) My sister is AD navy, her husband is a college student 🙂
Post # 7
One of my good friend’s mom’s was in the Marines.
Post # 8
AF vet over here. Good luck to you! As long as you have a supportive spouse, you will be fine. Thanks to everyone for their service!
Post # 9
Active duty army for 6+ years. My FI was active duty for 8, got out to go to grad school. He just graduated & got a civilian job, but continued to serve in the National Guard.
I was previously engaged (didn’t make it down the aisle) to a civilian while I was active duty.
What questions do you have?
I can tell you from experience that unless your husband is ok with his career being second to yours (or his easily transfers from place to place), it’s very difficult. The Navy is little easier than the Army (I was a Navy brat for 18 years), because the duty stations tend to be better – closer to major cities, industries, etc. (take San Diego, Jacksonville or Norfolk & compare it to Fort Bragg, Fort Leonard Wood, or Fort Hood). I’m not saying it can’t work (my parents are still married after 37 years, 22 of them on AD), but it’s hard & you have to be open & have honest, frank discussions. My first FI didn’t want to have to sacrifice the career advancement that came with moving around a lot & that led to a lot of our issues. It’s not that he couldn’t have a career (CPA in a major firm that had worldwide locations), but that he wouldn’t be able to develop the networks/advance as quickly because we were moving around. Plus, there’s a lot of time apart, which puts a lot of stress on relationships.
Luckily, DOD has gotten better about having programs to support spouses & relationships, so it’s not all doom & gloom… But go in w/ eyes open & be honest & frank with each other & talk A LOT.
Good luck, thank you for your service & let me know if you have specific questions 🙂