Post # 1
My fiance and I are planning on adopting internationally. We have done lots of research and would like to adopt a child from China (my brother lives there, works for the govt and speaks Mandarin) and Ghana (I lived there for a summer in college and have friends who adopted from there).
How is anyone one else’s process going? I would be great to start a support thread here and anyone interested should check out the Both Ends Burning Campaign.
Post # 3
I hope to! I promised FH that we’d try for a bio baby, but we would consider adoption for a second child or if we can’t have a baby. I would have loved to adopt from Guatemala since I’ve been once and am spending my summer there, but it’s extremely difficult now. We are open to welcoming an older child into our home, so, in general, that opens more doors.
Post # 4
SO and I plan to adopt. He has a genetic disorder that has more than 50% chance of being passed on, and will be twice as bad as his. We decided that it would be better to give a child a better quality of life than bring a child into this world with a low quality of life.
Post # 5
Yeah, I have this strange gut-feeling that I’m going to struggle to conceive. Everyone laughs and me when I say I think I’m barren – I’m only 24 – but I have a family history of problems. Grandma and Mum both had hysterectomies (mum was under 35 after years of issues) Great grandma died of ovarian cancer and paternal grandmother recently overcame cervical cancer. Forgive me for being pessimistic, especially since I’ve not had any tests done, and I’m definitely gonna pray over it but I’ve known in my heart for some time that I’ll be happy to adopt.
I told SO right at the beginning and he was great but wasn’t as into the idea of adopting internationally, saying that we should look after the kids in our own country, but he’s warming to it. My heart aches for the little girls in China, places like Vietnam or Africa. My friend recently opened an orphanage in Kenya (http://www.onebyone.net/home/neworphanage) and I’d love to give one of those children a loving home and family. My only worry is that I’d rather adopt a newborn – I worry about the bond (and I know it’s shallow but I have my names picked out!) but then again, I know that if I saw a 6 year old child who needed a family, it would break my heart!
Post # 6
I’ve always felt very strongly about adoption. Most people think I’m crazy when I say this, but I’ve known since I was six years old that I didn’t want to have any biological children and I wanted to adopt. When I was in kindergarten I met a boy in my class at school who was adopted and I came home and told my parents that meant his parents chose him because they wanted him. When I got older and learned more about my family’s medical history (and now FI’s) it furthered my feelings about adoption. I could never knowingly burden a child with my genetic makeup, it would feel like a punishment. I know that Fiance would prefer a biological child, but it’s something we’ve talked at length about and he understands my position and supports it to the extent that he’ll never push me to try for a bio child.
Post # 7
If we cannot have biological children, we will not hesitate to adopt! We will either adopt domestically or from Mexico. My FI’s uncle is clergy in Mexico so it would make it easier.
Post # 8
I’ve always wanted to adopt but now I’m considering at least one bio… but this is all a few years down the road for us.
Post # 9
Darling Husband and I plan on adopting. I found out that it could be difficult for me to conceive, which is why adopting is our plan. (That and I’ve always wanted to adopt). However, our mothers haven’t been super supportive – they think we should try to have our own children naturally.
Anyway, we plan on beginning the process next year summer/fall. We want to adopt a 4-8 year old, domestically.
Post # 10
We don’t want kids in the near future, but we’ve discussed probably adopting in 10+ years if we do. (I’m 22 and he’s 27 currently, so we’d be in our 30’s). I have lupus plus two previous miscarriages, one of which was a molar preganancy (very rare and can lead to blood/lung cancer…I was told I had a 20% chance of developing cancer for a year after) and he has sickle cell trait. So yes, adoption is definitely in the cards if/when we decide we 100% are ready to settle down and want a kid 🙂
Post # 11
I wish the best to all you brides and wifes who posted on your adoption process. I would love if we could support each other along the way. Be strong and may God bless you all 🙂
Post # 12
We want both biological and adopted children. I really crave the experience of being pregnant – it’s just something that I want to go through as a human female. SO is adopted, and he wants to adopt no matter what, so we’ve decided that we will try for biological and no matter what happens, that will be followed by adoption.
Post # 13
I have some health issues that can make it both difficult to concieve and difficult to keep the pregnancy. We are going to try for a biological child and adopt a second. But we may end up adopting two. I really don’t know much about adoption or where we’d want to adopt from, though.
Post # 14
I want to adopt in the future. I just don’t want any biological children and would love to give a less privileged child a better quality of life and show them that they’re wanted. I don’t have any advice, but I wish you the best and hope your process goes smoothly. I think you’re doing a great thing 🙂
Post # 15
I want both bio and adopted children, 1-2 of each, and my fiancé is on board. I want the experience of being pregnant, but there are so many kids who need good homes. We’re thinking 1-3 years old, probably domestic, but we’ll see. We won’t be thinking about kids too seriously for around 4 years though, so it’s a while off. 🙂
Post # 16
I always did want to adopt- and if I did end up doing so I always said it would be a domestic adoption of a hard to adopt child (age 6+ or a sibling group) but my Fiance wasn’t really on board with it. We will try for biological children first and it would only be if there were any problems in doing so that we would consider adoption.