Post # 1
My Fiance and I are planning a family-only ceremony at San Francisco City Hall. We are totally for the city-hall style ceremony, however, he doesn’t want to see me in the dress before we get married (which I think would have to happen when you “check in”). This is leading us to rent out the 4th floor balcony for an hour and hire our own officiant. Problem is, I’m finding it very hard to find a non-religious officiant through the Internet (I’m in Canada) plus, I’m not a huge fan of paying over $300 when we really just want the city hall vows (which last <10 mins).
Can any of you Bay Area Bees help me out???
Also, if anyone knows if a lady called Kathryn who is/was a city-hall officiant does private ceremonies I’d love to know how to get ahold of her. She’s in this video here:
Post # 3
@AllieBee12: In the state of California, you can actually have one of your friends or relatives be deputized for around $90-100 to officiate your ceremony. They would have to take a brief class through the county that you’re getting married in.
Post # 4
@missporkchops: That sounds like it could be fun! Do you know if it’s difficult to file the paperwork afterwards? I can find how to get a marriage license and be deputized on the SF City Hall website, but I don’t know how to go from that to getting a marraige certificate and actually being legally married (or is that something you learn while being deputized?) I’d hate to go all that way and end up not actually married!
Post # 5
@AllieBee12: Our friend was deputized to marry us; my understanding was that he had to schedule an appointment and either go in person or it was over the phone to do some kind of training course. I think it was around $60 dollars in San Mateo county. It’s called “Personal Deputy Commissioner of Marriages for a Day”
Here is the link for SF:
This is the process for your OFFICIANT ONLY. Your Officiant also needs to be a California resident. (I noticed you mentioned that you’re in Canada.)
BRIDE AND GROOM TO BE will still need to file for a marriage license, you take that marriage license to your ceremony where after the vows/kiss/walk down the aisle, you will sign it along with your witnesses and the Deputized Officiant For a Day. YOU will then file it with the county to get a official stamped copy.
Hope that makes sense! I capitalized who was in charge of what portion.
Post # 6
@missporkchops: Thanks for the info! I’m doing a Pre-trip in May (before I’d have to book a City Hall time slot) so I’ll make sure to inquire with city hall about all of that while I’m there!
Post # 7
@AllieBee12: Good luck with the planning! 🙂
Post # 8
@missporkchops: you beat me to the punch here! Darling Husband and I totally did this as well!
Post # 9