- 9 years ago
My mom is SUPER irritating. I’ve vented about her before and how she just can’t get control of her life. I’m still stuck helping pay her bills or she puts it on my younger brother’s credit card (his credit has definitely taken a hit for the worse). She’s just immature and her life attitude is “everything will work out.” Not such a bad attitude, but she forgets the other half– YOU HAVE TO TRY! Sitting on your butt looking at personal’s online doesn’t get anything accomlished. She lives beyond her means, and she always has since my parents got divoced over 10 years ago. She has lived with 3 different men, and all those relationships have failed and she is left in a position worse than she started in. I’m so tired of helping her out, but unfortunately, it’s my two youngest siblings (13 and 16) that will suffer most. Her priority in life seems to be finding a man, not a job, though she’s been practically unemployed since January. Her landlord was EXTREMELY kind, offering her a job at a nail salon he owns and half of what she earned is put towards rent. However, she has skipped days of work to visit a guy’s lakeside cabin (well, I think it’s a trailer) with my siblings– she told the work people she had personal family business to take care of. Sometimes she doesn’t go to work because she says her car isn’t functioning properly (her car was repoed awhile back. A friend of hers, one of the guys she used to live with, gave her a car, though it’s not the greatest condition). She was working 40 hours a week, and now she has cut herself down to I believe 20 (she’s working Fridays and Saturdays). She starts school up next week and she says she plans on doing substitute teacher work. I think she did it maybe 2 or 3 times last year? It’s not steady or consistant work. She keeps trying to come up with these plans to start her own business, which is fine and dandy, but she needs to worry about NOW for awhile because I’m tired of being the one to do it for her!
She also said “if I buy you a plane ticket home, will you come visit?” HECK NO! I’m not letting her buy me a plane ticket. She has other things she needs to pay for! She wouldn’t even be able to pick me up from the airport because her car is crap! She’d have to ask someone else to do it, and they all have their own families to worry about, not to mention they are all tired of doing her favors.
Honestly, I really could go on and on, but this probably gives you the gist of it. She’s financially immature and she worries too much about finding a boyfriend, even more so than finding a job (though I suppose I could be wrong, but she never talks to me about “oh, I just applied to some job” or “I sent my resume to such and such today.” It’s usually “what do you think of this guy?”) sigh.
Sooo, her birthday is coming up. Are there any self help books I could buy her to help her out? Anything about trying to he happy for yourself (instead of relying on men!), and getting your financial life together would be great… Or is that too mean? I really don’t feel like getting her anything since I’ve had to pay her bills. I paid almost $200 to get her new phone, internet, and cable (that’s right. she cant afford electricity, but she’s buying cable. i’ve warned her though that i will NOT pay for that. Mr. Joe and I don’t even have cable. she claims it’s cheaper to buy the package with all three though) and my brother had to pay about $150 on is credit card for her electric bill, also last week.
I know I really should stop helping her out, but honestly, I worry too much about my siblings so it’s not really an option at this point.