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candle wax. i was so adverse to trying it b/c i am not keen on fire/thought it'd be too hot, but it was "hot" in an awesome way!
also, maybe you can take turns planning out the whole evening. you pick what he wears, where you go, what you do, etc. including after-hours. then in a few weeks, it's his turn.
try getting out of the house, or even just out of the bedroom. couch/tables/etc will get you out of a rut. hotels? awesome for loud messy sex (love not having to clean up)! camping is great for this too, although this is weather dependent.
good luck ;)
Why don't you two go shopping together at the naughty store. Make it an adventure, I can almost promise you that he would totally get a charge out of it and then you two can find out together what "spice" works for the two of you as a couple.
My DH and I were talking the other day about role playing after seeing something on tv about it. The announcer on tv said the couple should go out without each other, but meet up at a club/bar as strangers. Then meet up with your SO and pretend that you're having an affair.
We thought this sounded kinky...but we both couldn't get past the "cheating" idea. So, what we plan on doing is reliving the night we met. (we met at a bar..I know *puke*) The night we met, we stayed up literally ALL night talking and making out. It was an amazing night/morning :) and I love the idea of reliving it.
Good luck!
@CanAmBride: I think it means partaking in the "other" hole when under the influence of alcohol :)
@inspiredcreationsbyhaley I will DEFF try the candle wax I believe. I could see good things coming from that. :) We deff have sex all over the apartment. Yesterday I put on a santa skirt from Victorias secret, and we had sex on the couch as he videotaped it. :)
@tksjewelry A trip to the "Hustler store" is a great idea as well... instead of me just trying to pick it out... do it together! love it!!!!
@CountryGirl80 FI REALLY wants to role play - but i cant keep "in chartacter" its really hard for me, and i would LOVE to get out of that rut. bc he REALLY wants to do that!
@CanAmBride have anal sex ONLY when drunk. bc otherwise it hurts too much!!! lol
@MeganTacky2247: That's the good thing about the roll playing I was talking about. Role playing the first night you met, or the first time you were intimate. There really isn't a way you cant keep character because it is YOU! lol
If you do something a little less 'serious' and just fun...it probably wouldn't be hard at all. (no pun intended haha) If you can dress up in a santa skirt and be videotaped...you CAN role play! LOL
@CountryGirl80 HAHAHA thanks for the pep talk!! :p I mean, im adventourous. I think I just feel lazy anymore. haha. more responsibility than back in the day. and i need to suck it up and get over it!! lol.
I do like the "first time" role playing. :)
@MeganTacky2247: I totally understand. There is more responsibility. But, it's a good responsibility. Just think, yall have your whole lives to try new things. Without sounding real corny, it's actually a very beautiful thing. *barf* lol...but I'm looking forward to our adventures together...outside and inside the bedroom ;)
@tksjewelry: This!
Such a great idea , then you can see what both of you are into and being in there is almost foreplay ... by the time you get home you will be raring to try out your new goodies 
@Eva Peron: melting/dripping candle wax on the stomach, breasts, thighs. the higher you hold the candle from the body, the cooler it is (has more time to dry on the way down); the closer, the hotter. SO blind folded me the first time (so that i wouldn't be nervous watching it), and it was so erotic. if you are sensitive to touch, you'll probably like it. the feeling of the wax drying pulls at your skin (not in a bad way) and is like thousand of tiny fingers touching you. peeling it off is kinda fun, too (i was that kid in class that put glue on their hands and peeled it off). i find it works better if the area is relatively hair-free (less pulling when you take the wax off), btw.
On the candle wax idea if you don't find a good cheap candle from like the dollar store and test it out before hand then it can really burn, not the fun type. 
I always found Mountain Berry in the little glass jars from the Dollar General to work real nice and sting just enough.
Definitely agree about going to the adult store together! It is fun if you know what you like and if you don't. There are so many awesome things out there to play with. I absolutely love anything I have tried from Fun Factory - they primarily have rechargable toys, very strong, and all (most?) are silicone. They're a little pricier, but definitely not the most expensive. Plus teh company is really awesome (I'm a sex educator and they were very kind to give me a few demo products). I also think it's fun (and not kinky though) to get a bunch of the flavored lubes (go for sugar free! also some women have issues with glycerin based lubes) and try them out at home. The little sample packets are cheap and then you can easily get a variety!
I love using a blind fold, even if things don't get kinky. When you aren't able to see, I feel like my other senses get a lot stronger.
@CountryGirl80:i would love to do the meet like strangers idea but my fi is running for political office so that might cause a stir in our 1 horse town
It started kind of accidentally, but worked out really well for us. I had a few "ideas" saved on my Amazon wishlist...I hadn't really planned on doing anything with them, I guess. BUT DH got on my computer to order something from Amazon (I have Prime, he doesn't). He saw the list, and one day, when I was out he ordered a couple of things from the list. One day, when I got home, I had a few . . .surprises waiting for me. Now, I keep a few things on the list and when he wants, he'll order one to surprise me. I like ordering from amazon bc I don't have to leave the house and it arrives in the standard Amazon box.
In addition to the other ideas, maybe you could each cook up a "wishlist" that the other could pick occasional surprises from.
@jldown2: hmm maybe the next time im at his house ill do that. i know something for vday would be nice. thanks for the idea. kts hard being with a public figure in a smalk town and wanting to spice things up
@inspiredcreationsbyhaley: OK, not to get off topic, but you totally made me cringe reminding me of myself and what a weirdo dork I was in 6th grade with your "putting glue on the back your hand just to peel it off comment". I completely forgot that I used to do that too.
So, maybe the candle wax thing is a good suggestion!
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Just ready the title!!
I used to be pretty Kinky in my past.... light bondage, slapping, spanking, blind folding, wasted anal, role playing.
But in the past few years, I feel like I just have fallen out of touch with my sexuality. FI and I have never been super crazy. and I want to change that!! STAT!! We have a healthy sex life ( 2 - 3 times a week). But I just want to change it up.
For some reason anymore I cant think of role play ideas (at least what to say and do once I get into 'role') and I dont like lapdances, bc i I cant dance.
SO - to you Kinky bees out there.... what can i do to spice it up, for him AND FOR ME!!! :)