Post # 1
Am I alone in this? I am a second generation hispanic-american woman who literally has no idea about cultural traditions in relations to anything much less weddings. Throughout my life it has been difficult to maintain a sense of cultural identity. I was born here, I can understand spanish but my speaking ability is barely passable, and no traditions have been passed down in my family.
My mother was born in Ecuador, my father’s family is from Spain. Do any brides know of traditions from these countries that I might incorporate into my wedding? I really would like to get back in touch with my roots and this seems like the perfect time to start.
Thanks in advance ^.^
Post # 3
I hear you girl!! My father is Cuban and my Mother is black. My fathers family were very racist and refused to clam us because we are half black… Also I haven’t seen my dad since I was about 10 so I have no clue about my Spanish culture either. I wanted to incorporate Latin dancers and Spanish food but changed my mind because I felt clueless.. I wish I could help give you ideas. Good luck and congratulations!
Post # 4
These are somethings you can do.
Use the Lazo which is usually used in the ceremony to show that the two will become one. Many hispanics cultures use this symbol.
Also having some spanish music salsa just to have fun.
Post # 5
I’m Cuban, born in the USA, and because of this situation I feel a disconnect from my cultural roots as well!
We are having our wedding at a Cuban rum Bar in Atlantic city, with salsa dancers performing and teaching how to salsa, as well as Cuban food and upbeat latin flair dance music.
I agree with you, this is the perfect time to resolve to incorporate your culture into your everyday life, because imagine what a gift it will be for your husband as you begin your family together, and any future children you might have. Traditions offer us the opportunity to share something with so many generations that have gone before us…and if you don’t know them, I say FAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE IT 🙂 You can pass on your wedding day traditions to your own family.
Post # 6
@jess.vic: That sounds interesting. Sadly I had to look up what a lazo was . What exactly is done with it?
And thanks for the help everyone ^.^
Post # 7
lazo is used in catholic ceremonies….depending what your religion is…but dont feel lost ..im 1st generation mexican american and its not easy expressing your identity especial my parents being both from mexico its like ugh how do i explain it! but all in all ive looked up old mexican catholic traditions because none have been passed on to many and the ones that exist i dont like them so to each its own..do what feels right to u!
Post # 8
Hi Bee’s! I think it’s wonderful to incorporate your culture into the wedding. Depending on where your family is from there can be certain traditions that are a bit more specific. I’m Puerto Rican/Colombian and in general we incorporated a few things. I apologize if this list is a bit long but here are a few things my hubby and I did. My garter was given to me by my grandmother (puerto rican side). The special thing about it was that the lace or part of it was made from a mundillo. This link can give you a better idea as to what the contraption looks like. lol,
Our first dance was a bachata, which is pretty easy. If you want to do something fun and a bit of a surprise for everyone you can do a salsa, merengue or bachata song. Any spanish music would be fun. Our ceremony was done in Spanish and English (except for the vows, we speak to each other in English so we figured we wouldn’t change it now. lol)
Some people use a mantilla veil. Here is a link about those.
Then there are the dolls. Some people use a dolls that symbolize or look like the bride and groom. People then stick money to the dolls. I had a satin drawstring purse that was made in puerto rico and included some more lace made from the mundillo. It was long enough to sling over my shoulder so when I was dancing with guest’s they could put the gifts that were envelopes into the purse. Everyone at our wedding was overly excited so they put it in the bag before I could dance with them. : ^ )
You could also choose a signature drink for your wedding that could be something specific to where you are from. In Puerto Rico we have a drink called coquito (more of an eggnog) but I’ve heard of people doing that as the signature drink. I have heard of others doing mojito’s and some people even have cigar rollers at the reception. It’s the favor everyone get’s to take home since it comes with a little paper with the names of the B & G and the date. There is also the time where some B&G’s dance and have the guest’s stand in the shape of a heart around the B&G dancing. It sounds cheesy but I have seen pictures where it comes out really cute.
Food: We had empanada’s and chorizo’s. There are tons of different way’s to incorporate the hispanic culture in little bit’s & pieces. A friend of mine who is Mexican is planning on having a margarita bar and having her dress inspired from that of a Spanish Flamenco dancer. Not too over the top though…
Again I apologize for it being so long! I hope this helps some of you! Let me know if you want more info! : ^ )
Post # 9
HI sorry for the late reply I have been so busy. Don’t worry about not knowing I only found out because my friend used it at her wedding ; ) but yeah its just represents unity and my friend was not catholic or mexican and still did it the ceremony. So if you want you can use it, it’s like a unity candle.
Represent that from now on you will attached/bound to each other. But I asked my mom about it and she said it means that you will work together from now on as one.
Hope this helps.