- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
We are having a very small ceremony (max 26 guests) at a castle (hopefully), which doubles up as a museum. The ceremony room is on the ground floor and leads straight out into the museum. In that group we have few children, in fact only three that are under twelve. That’s one two-year old, one three-four year old and one who’s around ten. These are FI’s cousins and it means a lot to him for them to be there, so of course I said it was fine. I am not inviting my own cousins to the day, as my family is much larger so I’m just having aunts, uncles & grandparents, as well as my immediate family. No kids from my side will be coming, and until lately I was satisfied that the two or three younger kids wouldn’ be an issue.
But the other week, we went to the wedding of those kid’s parents. It was in a church, and the vicar said that the kids were welcome to run around and play during the ceremony. They had a small bit off to the side with toys set up for them. Anyway, throughout the ceremony the bride & groom’s kids were running up and down the aisle, yelling, grabbing at people, and generally being silly. Don’t get me wrong, it was absolutely adorable, and we laughed all the way through, but afterwards FI told me how bad he felt that everyone was distracted and didn’t pay attention to the actual wedding.
I know that it’s different at a bigger wedding, especially if the kids involved are the children of the couple, but I’m a little worried. The ceremony room at the venue we hope to have is very small and sounds echo majorly in there. There’s no extra space to put toys and no room off to the side that we can put things in to keep them happy and distracted. I already know these kids get bored easily, and I don’t know if they’ll start running around and yelling because hey, they did it at their parent’s wedding and nobody told them to stop.
Let me just reaffirm that these kids are absolutely lovely and I think they’re adorable. FI loves them so much and it wouldn’t be the same without them. But… and maybe this is selfish… I realise that all I remember from that wedding is how funny their kids were being. I don’t want people to remember our wedding day for the wrong reasons, I want them to actually be present and with us as we make an important step in our lives.
I’m happy to set something up to keep them busy and happy during the ceremony, but I can’t think of anything. We would even consider getting someone to take them around outside (the grounds are a huge garden and are great fun for kids) but I think people would get offended. It’s not that I don’t want them there, I do – I just want them to stay relatively calm so that I can focus on marrying my FI. Does anyone have any ideas?