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I need some opinions:

I am getting married in Las Vegas and my bridesmaids are asking about what I want to do for a bridal shower and bachelorette party. I do want a fun night out dancing with my best gals --but I feel uncomforatble having a shower when I am having a destination wedding, because I am considering the cost of people traveling. My BMs still want me to register.  It is a small wedding about 40 people will attend, but 60 were invited.

SO and I live together, and we had to buy our household items already. I am not a fine china person (afraid of never using it bec I would break it), and besides a new toaster oven or some new towels, there is not much I feel the need to register for that wouldn't be really big items.  We are having an open bar and spending a lot on the reception.  I prefer guests to offer a monetary gift of their choosing at the wedding instead of registering for things I am not sure I really want. 

BMs are pressuring me into a shower because people are asking about gifts. I prefer the idea of a Jack and Jill rather than a shower.  Should I have a Jack & Jill party and find an alternate way for people to give us gifts without having to do a formal registry?

Does anyone have an ideas on what to do for gifting ideas without a formal registry?

Should I skip the idea of a shower/Jack and Jill because it is a destination wedding?

There is a cool experience/non traditional wedding registry called www.newlywish.com that is filled with awesome things. You can even email them and ask for things to be added to their site. I did it with a few items and they tracked down the companies and added them within a week. Best customer service I ever had! Maybe you can find some unique honeymoon or destination wedding activities to make your own special registry. 

Good luck! 

Thank you! I really appreciate the suggestions and info.