Post # 1
Is anyone like me? I can not make a decision on anything!!! I am constantly looking at real weddings and falling in love with the wedding decor, theme, colors etc….Then I want to change mine…
I flip flop between having a ceremony & reception in my home town with about 80-90 people (inviting 100). We booked the church for a winter wedding *yes it will be cold, we are in the NJ area*. We pretty much have a reception site, for a very reasonable price, but I can’t seem to bring the check over!! Its a nontraditional place. It has a nightclub feel and booths. We can add some tables, for the older folks. The check has been sitting next to my bed for over a week! I know my doubts are mostly about money. My dad & mom are spillting the cost. Dad married evil stepmother, who has an opinion about everything & is rude, so I am torn about using their money. However, I have always wanted a warm spring wedding, maybe outside, and when I imagine my wedding it is NOT COLD! So, I have been thinking about having a "destination" wedding in SC. It would probably be small – My guess is only about 30 people would come. My fiances mother lives in SC…and we LOVE it down there. We would probably push the wedding back to the spring to early May.
I have no idea what I want. I have asked FI what he wants, and he says its up to me! He just wants to get married. Anyone having a similar problem? How did you decide? If you chose the destination/elopment type of wedding, why?
Post # 3
I am awful about making decisions! My fiance just wants me to be done with it (he wraps things up ASAP), but I’m a procrastinator, making the problem worse! I don’t want to make the "wrong" decision. I also constantly doubt my decisions and ideas, so I put off making a decision. I just don’t want to have any regrets. In my opinion, you should do what will make you the most happy, but when making decisions, think about how you will feel after the wedding. If you have it in SC and don’t have as many people, will you later regret that some couldn’t attend? Sorry I can’t be more help! I’m glad to hear there is someone else that has difficulty with decisions!
Post # 4
I am having the same kinds of problems, but I just push through and go with it. Originally DF and I wanted a "destination" type wedding because we’re from different parts of the country and wanted our families to meet up, rather than doing it in my hometown or his hometown. Now that we’ve chosen our location, it seems like it’s a hassle for everyone… luckily no one is complaining, so I’m trying to relax. I keep thinking that I should change things and just do it where he grew up… I have friends there too, and my family would be happy to come. But at this point, we’re just making decisions and sticking to them. We decide one thing at a time and are still waffling over the details.
On the other hand, to answer to your post, when we FIRST started talking about our wedding, I wanted so badly to hear DF say he wanted soemthing because I didn’t want to do things my way with no input from him. But that’s just his style; he wasn’t being shy, he just really didn’t have as many ideas and concerns as I do.
Post # 5
Wow! I am the same! I feel like that is where I am right now. I can’t make a choice. Yes we have the cermony site but the reception site I just can’t find it or make up my mind. Then I get upset and think I want something small simple and lots of fun! My FI Mr. FF is not into small details. But if I sit choices down in front of him and make him choose he will. One day at a time is how I am planning this!