I posted on the African-American Board, but my fiance is white. I'm curious if there are others like me and what you may be different during your ceremony
Hi there. I'm African-Canadian and my fiance is Scottish (white), so we fit the bill! We are having the wedding in Scotland and the groom and groomsmen will be wearing kilts, there will probably Scottish dancing and music. From my side, my bridesmaids will be wearing a scarf of Kente cloth, we'll have music from my parents' country (Ghana), and we plan on having a hand tying ceremony where we'll use some kente cloth and tartan to tie our hands together. And oh, since we met in Japan, we're going to try to integrate some elements from Japan somehow. Cultural explosions!
I always forget that we are an interacial couple too... I just never think of it that way. :) I'm Chinese, and Mr. Toucan is Caucasian (Mostly Irish, but has an English last name!). Our wedding reception is highly Chinese influenced, as it is a traditional Chinese Banquet. Mr. T is also Catholic so we are doing a Catholic ceremony. We consider this the "western" aspect of the wedding. Other than that... we're serving Guinness as one of our beer choices?
Yep, we are too! My FH is African-American and I'm European-American (Irish, Scottish, English, Bohemian, with a bit of Native American for good measure). I love the idea of incorporating cultural elements into our ceremony, and thought Scottish handfasting plus jumping the broom might be cool, but he pretty adamantly wants a traditional ceremony without cultural elements. Any thoughts on how to convince him?!
we are, too, and as many other bees have mentioned, i sometimes forget that we're "different." i'm vietnamese-american and FH is german-american. we're from orange county (and grew up down the street from little saigon), so this sort of pairing is very common where we're from.
i'm planning on wearing an ao dai for part of the reception (mainly the father-daughter dance, cake cutting, and table greetings), hiring a lion dance troupe, and doing a mini-version of a tea ceremony during our "western"/non-religious ceremony. i'm also thinking of using a german bridal/wedding cup during our toasts... if i can find one!
I am Puerto Rican (though raised in California my entire life)- and my fiance is Taiwanese (though he grew up in the east coast and has lived in the states the majority of his life). I am new to this site- one of my close friends who just got married this past year recommended I visit the site and I love it! I just got engaged last week! I have been daydreaming/brainstorming wedding ideas to incoporate the two cultures. So far all I can think of is where I will most likely get the dress (wai-ching.com the designer is both puerto rican and chinese!), the strong possibility of asking my fiances mother (who is great at growing orchids) to start blooming/growing some flowers to include. My parents raised me Catholic but are non-practicing themselves while I continue to embrace that spiritual aspect for myself. my hubby to be is agnostic. His parents seem to be practicing buddhists. (I am not sure if it is more of a cultural thing than a true spirtual one for his parents) But I love my man- and I hope I can somehow integrate both cultures respectfully and uniquely into the wedding. Other than that, you ladies are contributing to possible ideas! Because I have no idea where to start! =o)
My fiancee is white and I'm Mexican. It's pretty weird because I never think of ourselves as interracial. The only problem we've had so far is that he does not want to conver to Catholic and of course, I'm Catholic so we picked out a nice little chapel (FREE) to do our "non denominational ceremony" (where the Lord will STILL be mentioned) and our parents are pretty thrilled, lol. Oh, and of course he was a little nervous meeting my older brothers... since I'm the baby and all. :)
I'm south asian and my husband is caucasian. We're both non-religious though so we wrote our own ceremony that was more about our family and friends witnessing our vows than anything else and it worked out great. Even my mother who is a devout budhist and my grandmother who is a devout catholic were pleased with how it turned out and said it was no less meaningful than a religious ceremony.
I think its getting easier and easier to be an inter-racial couple these days which is fantastic!
I'm african american and my fiancé is white. Nothing much will be different about our ceremony since we're both Catholic, but our bridal party looks like the United Nations: black, white, hispanic, indian, asian....
I'm African American, Saudi Arabian, and Powhatan. My FH is of Mexican and Europen descent. Our bridal party is also going to have some of everything, including drag queens ;) We joke that we should be getting married in San Francisco. Our ceremony really isn't going to incorporate ethnic traditions; we're more focused on family history, some of which includes ethnicity.
I am! I'm Latina, was born in El Salvador, and my fiance is white, a mix of Italian and Russian. Like others, I usually don't think of us as interracial, since it's never really been an issue. Unless we're with my dad, who speaks very little English and my fiance speaks very little Spanish, so I'm always translating between the two. Other than that, we haven't had much of a culture clash. My parents joke that my fiance isn't really of a different race, he's Italian and that's practically Latino! Heh.
My fiance is Korean and I am white. I always forget that we're interracial and it always catches me off gaurd when people mention it. I guess it's obvious to them but it doesn't matter at all to us.
I am African-American, and my fiance is white (of German, Danish and English decent). Race has never been a big issue in our relationship, and won't be in our wedding. I'm purposely steering away from the black bride/white groom cake topper because I don't want our wedding to be a statement. Instead, I'll either get a monogram or something cutesy. Our faith will be the main theme of our wedding. We're both Christians and we're both Preacher's kids.
I'm half-Chinese/half-caucasion, and FI is 100% caucasian. I look more caucasian than Asian, so a lot of people don't notice, but I have definitely expanded his culinary palate with my eating habits, which is the most Asian part about me!
FI and I are both half-Filipino/half-caucasion. So we are both interracial as indivduals and together as a unit. FI grew up in Central PA, in the country with farm land and I grew up all over the world (military brat) so I've gotten the opportunity to show FI different foods (and cultures!). FI looks more ethnic though; I look more white.
I'm Korean and m fiance is Cacasion (as far we know...FMIL can confirm she's English/German/European descent, but FFIL is adopted and never knew his biological parents...he looks like he may be part Native American). The funny thing is that my fiance is always being mistaken for being some other ethnicity, epecially in pictures...people ask if he's half Filipino, half Hispanic, or half Asian all the time!
We're definitely an interracial couple, lol. My FFIL is Italian and Irish my FMIL is Puerto Rican, my Father is African-American and my mother is Puerto Rican. We're trying to incorporate Italian, Puerto Rican and North Carolina African-American stuff into the wedding, but it's harder than you'd think!
I'm half Filipino, half Pakistani, and my fiance's Mexican. We're actually doing two ceremonies & receptions: a Muslim set to appease my father (and to accomodate his ridiculous guest list) and a civil service performed by a friend with vows in Spanish and a humongous Filipino bridal party that will reflect our personal style and includes a string quartet and mariachis.
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I posted on the African-American Board, but my fiance is white. I'm curious if there are others like me and what you may be different during your ceremony
Next stop interfaith!
posted by yogigal 39 posts 5 months agowe're an interracial couple, although i always forget that we are : ) my fiance is european and i'm asian. here in SF, that's super common : )
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posted by bora 62 posts 5 months agoI'm caucasian (european decent) and my fiance is Indian, but I always forget that this makes us interracial because most people don't notice.
posted by caliocteach 716 posts 5 months agoHi there. I'm African-Canadian and my fiance is Scottish (white), so we fit the bill! We are having the wedding in Scotland and the groom and groomsmen will be wearing kilts, there will probably Scottish dancing and music. From my side, my bridesmaids will be wearing a scarf of Kente cloth, we'll have music from my parents' country (Ghana), and we plan on having a hand tying ceremony where we'll use some kente cloth and tartan to tie our hands together. And oh, since we met in Japan, we're going to try to integrate some elements from Japan somehow. Cultural explosions!
posted by Kakita 23 posts 5 months agoI always forget that we are an interacial couple too... I just never think of it that way. :) I'm Chinese, and Mr. Toucan is Caucasian (Mostly Irish, but has an English last name!). Our wedding reception is highly Chinese influenced, as it is a traditional Chinese Banquet. Mr. T is also Catholic so we are doing a Catholic ceremony. We consider this the "western" aspect of the wedding. Other than that... we're serving Guinness as one of our beer choices?
posted by toucan 78 posts 5 months agoYep, we are too! My FH is African-American and I'm European-American (Irish, Scottish, English, Bohemian, with a bit of Native American for good measure). I love the idea of incorporating cultural elements into our ceremony, and thought Scottish handfasting plus jumping the broom might be cool, but he pretty adamantly wants a traditional ceremony without cultural elements. Any thoughts on how to convince him?!
posted by jlsween 44 posts 5 months agowe are, too, and as many other bees have mentioned, i sometimes forget that we're "different." i'm vietnamese-american and FH is german-american. we're from orange county (and grew up down the street from little saigon), so this sort of pairing is very common where we're from.
i'm planning on wearing an ao dai for part of the reception (mainly the father-daughter dance, cake cutting, and table greetings), hiring a lion dance troupe, and doing a mini-version of a tea ceremony during our "western"/non-religious ceremony. i'm also thinking of using a german bridal/wedding cup during our toasts... if i can find one!
posted by briannie 183 posts 5 months agoI am Puerto Rican (though raised in California my entire life)- and my fiance is Taiwanese (though he grew up in the east coast and has lived in the states the majority of his life). I am new to this site- one of my close friends who just got married this past year recommended I visit the site and I love it! I just got engaged last week! I have been daydreaming/brainstorming wedding ideas to incoporate the two cultures. So far all I can think of is where I will most likely get the dress (wai-ching.com the designer is both puerto rican and chinese!), the strong possibility of asking my fiances mother (who is great at growing orchids) to start blooming/growing some flowers to include. My parents raised me Catholic but are non-practicing themselves while I continue to embrace that spiritual aspect for myself. my hubby to be is agnostic. His parents seem to be practicing buddhists. (I am not sure if it is more of a cultural thing than a true spirtual one for his parents) But I love my man- and I hope I can somehow integrate both cultures respectfully and uniquely into the wedding. Other than that, you ladies are contributing to possible ideas! Because I have no idea where to start! =o)
posted by Sparkles 89 posts 5 months agoMy fiancee is white and I'm Mexican. It's pretty weird because I never think of ourselves as interracial. The only problem we've had so far is that he does not want to conver to Catholic and of course, I'm Catholic so we picked out a nice little chapel (FREE) to do our "non denominational ceremony" (where the Lord will STILL be mentioned) and our parents are pretty thrilled, lol. Oh, and of course he was a little nervous meeting my older brothers... since I'm the baby and all. :)
posted by MsVanessa 19 posts 5 months agoI'm south asian and my husband is caucasian. We're both non-religious though so we wrote our own ceremony that was more about our family and friends witnessing our vows than anything else and it worked out great. Even my mother who is a devout budhist and my grandmother who is a devout catholic were pleased with how it turned out and said it was no less meaningful than a religious ceremony.
I think its getting easier and easier to be an inter-racial couple these days which is fantastic!
posted by pinky 50 posts 5 months agoI'm african american and my fiancé is white. Nothing much will be different about our ceremony since we're both Catholic, but our bridal party looks like the United Nations: black, white, hispanic, indian, asian....
posted by GApeach05 16 posts 5 months agoI'm African American, Saudi Arabian, and Powhatan. My FH is of Mexican and Europen descent. Our bridal party is also going to have some of everything, including drag queens ;) We joke that we should be getting married in San Francisco. Our ceremony really isn't going to incorporate ethnic traditions; we're more focused on family history, some of which includes ethnicity.
posted by Goldfearie12 6 posts 5 months agoI am! I'm Latina, was born in El Salvador, and my fiance is white, a mix of Italian and Russian. Like others, I usually don't think of us as interracial, since it's never really been an issue. Unless we're with my dad, who speaks very little English and my fiance speaks very little Spanish, so I'm always translating between the two. Other than that, we haven't had much of a culture clash. My parents joke that my fiance isn't really of a different race, he's Italian and that's practically Latino! Heh.
posted by Nomediga 3 posts 5 months agoMy fiance is Korean and I am white. I always forget that we're interracial and it always catches me off gaurd when people mention it. I guess it's obvious to them but it doesn't matter at all to us.
posted by mel15brk 16 posts 5 months agoI am African-American, and my fiance is white (of German, Danish and English decent). Race has never been a big issue in our relationship, and won't be in our wedding. I'm purposely steering away from the black bride/white groom cake topper because I don't want our wedding to be a statement. Instead, I'll either get a monogram or something cutesy. Our faith will be the main theme of our wedding. We're both Christians and we're both Preacher's kids.
posted by belladuke97 3 posts 5 months agoI'm half-Chinese/half-caucasion, and FI is 100% caucasian. I look more caucasian than Asian, so a lot of people don't notice, but I have definitely expanded his culinary palate with my eating habits, which is the most Asian part about me!
posted by hwong14 85 posts 5 months agoHwong, I can relate to you!
FI and I are both half-Filipino/half-caucasion. So we are both interracial as indivduals and together as a unit.
FI grew up in Central PA, in the country with farm land and I grew up all over the world (military brat) so I've gotten the opportunity to show FI different foods (and cultures!). FI looks more ethnic though; I look more white.
posted by nejireta 88 posts 5 months agoI'm Korean and m fiance is Cacasion (as far we know...FMIL can confirm she's English/German/European descent, but FFIL is adopted and never knew his biological parents...he looks like he may be part Native American). The funny thing is that my fiance is always being mistaken for being some other ethnicity, epecially in pictures...people ask if he's half Filipino, half Hispanic, or half Asian all the time!
posted by indecisivebride 80 posts 5 months agoWe're definitely an interracial couple, lol. My FFIL is Italian and Irish my FMIL is Puerto Rican, my Father is African-American and my mother is Puerto Rican. We're trying to incorporate Italian, Puerto Rican and North Carolina African-American stuff into the wedding, but it's harder than you'd think!
posted by mela0521 4 posts 4 months agoI'm half Filipino, half Pakistani, and my fiance's Mexican. We're actually doing two ceremonies & receptions: a Muslim set to appease my father (and to accomodate his ridiculous guest list) and a civil service performed by a friend with vows in Spanish and a humongous Filipino bridal party that will reflect our personal style and includes a string quartet and mariachis.
posted by noreenk 8 posts 2 months ago