Post # 1
Hello Bee’s. I am new to the site. My wedding date is June 1st and boy the stress has taken a tole on me. From dealing with jelous family and friends, to me replacing bridesmaids and groomsmen, to almost having to reorder dresses at the very last minute. This has been a rollercoaster, but I am so glad that we are almost at the 60 day mark countdown! Anyone else out there getting married soon? If so, whats been your stress relievers?
Post # 3
Sorry you’re having a hard time of it! We’ve been pretty lucky and the stress has been at a minimum. I’m a meticulous planner and pretty on top of things, though.
Sounds like you need a massage! Treat yo’ self!
Post # 4
@phillybride61513: LOVE Treat Yo’self!!!
I am a high stress person in general…
Things that make me feel better…
Fiance having a day and set time every week where he works on tasks
Fiance takes over high stress emails with crazy relatives (all mine)
Getting my underarms waxed…lol I don’t know why but it makes me feel good
Massages (I have 3 booked for the next 3 months)
Counseling and prescribed anxiety meds
I also just enrolled in a MBSR (Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction) seminar (8 weeks)
Going to the gym (I never work out) but I go in the hot tub and sauna
Post # 5
@MikesAngel: The stress of planning has gifted me eczema on my left knee and made me into a royal bitch at times Lol. Try to remind yourself that nothing has to be perfect and the only thing that really matters is that by the end of the day you’ll finally be married to your sweetheart! Exercise has helped keep me from crossing over to the dark side hehe. Take deep breaths often and seize your opportunities to relax.
Post # 6
I was a stressed out mess – then I changed from a DIY venue to a more all-inclusive venue on Saturday! I’m back to being human again.
Going to the gym helps with destressing. And talking to Fiance. He has been wonderful with all this. Planning together really makes a difference!
Post # 7
Hi, Our wedding is in 85 days, and I am stressed as well. However, I am working through it quite nicely.
Things that have helped with the stress load are:
giving my Fiance to-do lists. He wants to help, but don’t know how. This really helps me and him.
making to-do lists. A master one, the above mentioned ones, a weekly one.
scheduling when the final payments are coming out of the account ( I don’t know if this stressed me more or less but they are scheduled)
planning a date day once a week with my Fiance. There are no wedding talk, weddin shopping or anything wedding related allowed on these dates.
realizing that if one of my DIYs doesn’t get done, it won’t be the end of the world
deligating the small things to my bridal party, and realizing it is ok if it isn’t exactly how I would have done it or my hands don’t have to be on every little detail 🙂
staying off of wedding websites (including this one) when I am feeling really stressed. It seems to only stress me more.
Post # 8
I made a to-do list of every conceivable thing that still needs to get done. And then I sat there and marked off one or two items. My stress level immediately went way down because I can get a handle on what is coming up and see that it is doable. Also a massage a month helps too 😉
Post # 9
@icetea: now I have the anxiety meds…lol. I deal with that everyday lol but it’s so worse with that on top of wedding stress. Ugh! I think I need what your doing lol!!
Post # 10
@h_annas: I love the date idea!!! I think see will start that as well!
Post # 11
@cali_cat: yes! I am definitely gonna do the massages. Thinking of getting one the morning of the wedding
Post # 12
I too am a highly stressed person anyway. I can stress out over the smallest things!
One thing that helps is to try and remember that in the end everyting will work out and the most important thing of that day is that we are married. No one will notice if one small thing isn’t perfect (I will haha).
I like to overwhelm myself and get worked up thinking I have to have everything finished right now with 93 days to go! No, I don’t. 93 days is alot. I work on things here and there. We finished up invitations last weekend and I mailed them out today. Working on the first batch of programs now. Just as I have time.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Ya’ll have inspired me to give Fiance more duties! Booyah!
Post # 14
With 81 days to go (as our website so nicely keeps reminding me) I am starting to feel the stress level rising! Our engagement has also been quite the rollercoaster as well. His parents went crazy and tried to hijack our wedding, my roommate decided she didn’t want a roommate anymore so we ended up buying a house between Christmas and New Year’s, my sister (who is also my MOH) has been rather difficult and undependable so far, etc.
I’m normally quite an organized person, so one thing that we have found really helpful is back in January we sat down and made a comprehensive to-do list and broke it up by half months. We got one of those big desk calendars and wrote down everything we wanted to have done by mid-Jan, end of Jan, mid-Feb, end of Feb, etc. It has been so helpful, and it is very satisfying every time something gets crossed off the list.
We have also started going for an hour walk/hike in the park by our house when we get home from work now that the weather is getting nicer. This has made a big difference. We come back feeling much better and in a better mental state to tackle that to-do list in the evening.
When one of us starts to get particularly stressed out or worked up over something, we sit down and have a chat about what the problem is and what we need to do to fix it and create an action plan. I’ve also become pretty good at delegating!
We do our best to just take things one day at a time and to not let the unfinished things on that to-do list overwhelm us. Their time will come!
Post # 15
June 28th here. My weddin is causing little stress so far. there is so much work, but I think you just have to sit back and enjoy it!
Post # 16
Weekly checklists, working out, and hanging out with friends have been a lifesaver for me! I still have the momentary so-much-to-do-will-we-finish freakout, but try to keep it under control! Deep breaths and non-wedding related events really help also!!