any ladies have their wedding date sorted before they're engaged?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

So before FI and I were engaged, we’d realized we had about a week window for the wedding due to my schedule – I’m a teacher, I teach summer school, and I was going on a school trip the last week of June (just got back 3 days ago).  So, yes, we had a date in mind before we were engaged. 

I also started researching venues prior to the actual engagement – it was his suggestion. I don’t have a problem insisting acting options prior to engagement as long as your SO is fully aware of it. 

Post # 4
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Yup! We picked April 11, 2015 in the same discussion where we decided it was about time that we get engaged. We picked out the ring shortly after, but the official proposal hasn’t happened yet. It should be happening any day now, so I’ll hold off on any real planning until we’re official.

Post # 5
749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

i’ve been engaged for almost 5 years and we still dont have a date LOL

Post # 6
2429 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I have a friend who did this. She lives in a small town with only 3 possible reception venues to accommodate their size wedding. So they locked in the reception hall a month or so before the engagement, and the church immediately after he proposed. 

I know the only problem was that her fiance was a little disappointed she didn’t act more surprised when he proposed. Since they already were financially locked into a date, she knew it was coming so I don’t know why he was so surprised that she was anticipating it. lol

Post # 7
1580 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

My DH and I actually picked the day about an hour after we became engaged, so no. My good friend is about to be engaged (he bought the ring this past weekend, but probably won’t propose until September… or so he says to us. 😉 )and they already have their date picked out!

Post # 8
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Camp Hope

I’m in the same boat as you. We decided on April 2015 about 6 months ago. We picked our honeymoon today and was looking at wedding cornhole yesterday. Although we aren’t engaged yet we are making wedding decisions. We picked out my ring a week ago And have our colors and groomsmen and bridesmaids picked. My SO gave me the green light to plan a while back. It’s not been anything major. Mainly Pinterest and bookmarking some pages. 

Post # 9
946 posts
Busy bee

Yep.  We were having a conversation about it, and we agreed on a date that we both liked AND felt was a reasonable length of time out (not too soon, not too far off). Of course, there is no proposal in the offing at the moment, and we’re currently at a “he’s not sure” stage (I’m okay with that – there’s a lot of childhood trauma on his side of things, so I do understand what is causing his hesitations, and we’re in therapy for it).  But if a wedding does happen, we do have a date selected!

Post # 10
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We not only sorted it, we booked the venue and church! We have a mix of things going on there including an expiring visa and a really short “engagement” due to us waiting until I meet his parents.

Basically there is a limited two month window for us to get married in and comfortably be in under his visa timeline, and then his brother got engaged and is planning his wedding for the beginning of that window. So we had to aim for the end and nail down a date!

Post # 11
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

before the official proposal, we knew we wanted to get married in october.


Post # 12
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Yeah we started talking about getting married in March and I thought April sounded like a good month to get married. Then in April I figured we’d better go look at venues and pay attention to the weather to see if we wanted indoors/outdoors or what. And when we realized stuff was booking up FAST we put a hold on our date and booked the venue in May. The date we chose was the best of the three that were still. Then we did not get engaged until the end of June. 

Post # 13
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We picked our date long before getting engaged. Then realized everything books 2 years in advance and our venue was booked so we pushed it back 2 weeks. Original May 24, 2014 and now June 7, 2014. I think it will work out for the better since I graduate college May 18, 2014.

Post # 14
368 posts
Helper bee

We have picked our date, but I’m still waiting for a proposal. He has like a year and 8 months until then…I wanted a 2 year engagement but that time has passed. I’m hoping it’ll happen aaaaaaannyyyy day now since about 4 months ago would have been the 2-years-until-the-wedding mark…haha. :] I haven’t started any planning really though. I just have a few loose ideas for what would be cool to have and what I definitely don’t want. 🙂

Post # 15
1625 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Yep 🙂 Proposal won’t come until later this year.. maybe August! But we want to get married next spring, so we have actually visited venues. We have two dates on hold at our probably venue.. May 31, and June 7 🙂

Post # 16
549 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

yup. date is picked, venue’s chosen, but i don’t have a ring yet. 😀

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