Post # 1
In all the post I see girls ‘waiting’ for the proposal, with the e-ring, guy’s having the talk with the father (of the soon to be bride) etc. etc.
In our culture the asking is about 50-50. Sometimes the guy and sometimes the girl. But marriage is viewed as a bit old-fashion. Most couples won’t marry at all.
I kinda asked my boyfriend, in not a romantical way at all. We are living together for about 3 years and looking for a new house. For taxes it would be better to get hitched so I suggested marriage and he was like: yes that would be fun.
And some of you have read my earlier posts. It’s not common at all to get an e-ring in my country. You just get one plain weddingband on your right finger on the weddingday.
After reading so much on WB, I talked my guy into buying me a e-ring, nothing fancy, a silver ring, but I love it though.
Oh and another difference. In our culture a marriage in church is not legal. You can only have a symbolic wedding in church… Here you have to marry for law, a civil wedding.
But oh wel back to topic, any ladies here who proposed to their man?
Post # 3
There was a poster on here just the other day who got fed up with waiting and proposed to her now fiance! I admire her gumption so much!
Post # 4
@NoaMarijn: in your particular situation, i can see how you asking or rather suggesting marriage made sense. but in general, i think the guys should do the asking! my Darling Husband and i talked about getting and in approx how many years, but i left it up to him to start the process with an official proposal!
Post # 5
I proposed to my ex H.
I’d been with him for nearly 7 years at the time. He’d always said he didn’t want to get married. I went back to Australia (my home country) and spent 2 months being nagged by my mother about getting married – I was 32 and she made me feel like I was ‘over the hill’ and ‘wasting my time’. Also didn’t help that her closest friend’s daughter got engaged while I was there (funnily enough they didn’t end up getting married)
Came back to the UK, it was a leap year and so I told my ex that I would send him a text on the 29th February asking him to marry me. I did, he said yes, and then said we may as well go ahead with it.
I never felt that his heart was really in it, he only did it because it was what I wanted. He used to joke that he had only gone ahead to ‘shut me up’ about it. We really shouldn’t have got married, I shouldn’t have let my mother get to me so much.
This time around, my Fiance did the asking.
Post # 6
I didnt but I sure thought about it!!
Post # 7
We sort of asked each other.
We were coming home from a Hallowe’en party and I said something about how I didn’t care about a ring or money for a wedding, that I just wanted to marry him. He got down on his knee in the street and asked me to marry him. It was perfect.
Later, I found out that he was planning on asking me in the middle of that November, but had not figured out how he wanted to do it (we would pick out a ring together). It was spontaneous and wonderful and we get to walk by the place that the craziness happened almost daily.
Post # 8
Wow that’s sounds so very romantic. Awesome memory 🙂
Post # 9
It was very, very, very important to my Fiance that he do the asking. We already knew we were going to get married, and we even had a timeframe in mind, but we weren’t engaged until he had done it right. I swear we had this conversation at one point:
Me: Will you marry me?
Him: Yes, of course!
Me: Yay! So are we engaged?
We both knew we wanted to get married, but even if I had done some sort of formal proposal, he wouldn’t have allowed it. He wanted it to be his thing.
Post # 10
Here in Iceland, when people get engaged, both people get a ring and it’s usually a wedding band for both that people then either just use as wedding bands after the ceremony or upgrade.
I’m just guessing, but I think engagement is more often a joint decision between the couple here. But with Icelanders becoming more and more Americanized, the guy proposing is becoming more common.
My bff planned to propose to her bf this Christmas, but he “ruined” it. She bought the rings, wrapped them and put them under the tree for him to open. Her plan was to propose when he opened the gift. But she got distracted by something the exact moment he opened it, so he did the proposing. To her great chagrin.
Post # 11
We don’t have a proposal story at all. We knew early on in our relationship we wanted to be together forever, and one day we started talking about a timeline. Eventually we decided on a date. He has never asked me to marry him. I questioned him about it one time and he said, “Why do I have to ask you? I already know the answer.” I just laughed and said he was right.
Post # 12
Neither of us “proposed” to each other. We had been talking about marriage for about a year and it just seemed like the right time. We both went and picked out the ring together, he put it on my finger and we started planning the wedding the next week. It wasn;t very romantic, I will admit, but it is completely us. We are both fairly rational people, and this way just made sense to us.
Post # 13
I did ask him a lot, an awful lot, and he always said yes… but said that we weren’t officially engaged until he asked me.
That said, I did sort of dictate to him a deadline to ask me officially by and he came in a week within the deadline.
Post # 14
Thanks all for votes and sharing you stories!!
Post # 15
@NoaMarijn: “Oh and another difference. In our culture a marriage in church is not legal. You can only have a symbolic wedding in church… Here you have to marry for law, a civil wedding.”
This made my day. Really shows you the seperation between church and state that American hasn’t gotten around to yet. I hope we get there soon.
Post # 16
I didn’t but I may as well have – I basically told him I wanted to get married asap and the rest is history.