Post # 1
We are temporarily living abroad in Europe and will be having our wedding here. The problem is that there isn’t a culture of gift registries here and we would need to find one in English. We did find a big department store, but basically it is just a list (no pictures of the items) and the guest adds how much they are willing to contribute to one or more items which I think is not really nice (and this dept store is way overpriced!). We could use Amazon.co.uk but they deliver each gift as it is bought, and we don’t have anywhere that parcels can be delivered (we live in an apartment block in the city) so we would worry about things being sent back if we aren’t around to pick it up 🙁
I would be reluctant to set up a list back in the U.S. as then our parents would have to store all the gifts for 2 years while we are still living here, and then we would have to ship them eventually to where we end up living (we don’t know yet!).
Any other brides living abroad? What did you do? Asking for money seems so rude, especially as people are traveling and there are some small items we could put on a list. I am trying to think about how best to go about this? Would love advice from you bees, you are always so helpful! 🙂
So I’ll add a poll of some of the options. It would be great if you voted!
Post # 3
We didn’t do a registry, basically because I don’t think they are that popular over here (Eurpoe).
Normally it’s considered rude to ask for money, but I don’t really think that is the case in Eurpoe. On 4 of the 5 wedding invitations we have received so far this year, they all have a symbol stating a monetary gift is prefered. Also, it might be easier for your guests because they won’t have to worry about packing a present.
Post # 4
We did a combination of things as we were moving abroad 1 week after the wedding.
We had US registries and anything that came before the wedding, we shipped to our new place. Anything that came after we are storing in the US until we move back.
For electronics and a few other things we registered on Amazon in the UK.
Post # 5
DH and I are overseas and had our DW in the U.S. We registered at Amazon and Bed, Bath & Beyond. Of course, both can ship to our APO address but I’m assuming you don’t have one b/c of your post.
Not one person brought a gift to the wedding….except cards with cash. I’d be willing to bet that’s what your guests would do since they have luggage to bring.
Have you asked one of your neighbors about where they deliver packages for your apartment? I’m thinking the postal carriers used to leave us a note if we missed a package when we were in England.
Post # 6
@texasbee: Thanks for your insight about what you did. You are right, we don’t have an APO and although the mailman should leave a note to say they tried to deliver, they haven’t always done this in the past (which was ok because I had done the ordering and could track it online, with Amazon.co.uk it is the buyer who gets the tracking info, not us, so we wouldn’t know if something was supposed to be delivered or not).
@miss smurf: It might not be rude to ask for money in Europe, but as our friends and family are in the U.S. we do feel it would be rude to ask for money (and we just don’t want to do this!).
Post # 7
I have the opposite problem, kind of. Fi and I live in the US, but we’re getting married in my home country (Bermuda). Most of my family and most of the wedding attendees live in Bermuda, so we need to ensure that the companies we register with accept foreign credit cards. I know that amazon does, so that’s definitely an option. We’re not planning on registering in Bermuda, because a. everything is more expensive there and b. we won’t be able to transport large gifts back. I’m hoping our guests will either buy from the registry and have it shipped to us in the US or give cash.
Post # 8
@Mo: Crate & Barrel let you buy with an international billing address. However, Macy’s will not let you buy online for someone’s gift registry if you have an international billing address. So definitely keep that in mind. It’s hard for us to buy our friends gifts at the moment whilst we are living out of the U.S. and they don’t accept international billing!