Post # 1
and get back together or divorce?
My closest best friend and her husband decided last week to call it quits. They got married around the same time Darling Husband and I did.. 6+ years. Hes been staying with his family on the weekends and she has been at their house or hanging out at mine. She said they have both decided to divorce but she is scared to death and having reservations about it. I suggested maybe they just seperate for a while and see how it works out.
Neither of us have ever been in this situation or know anyone else that has so I suggested the Bees! 🙂
I feel so bad for her because thats just awful for anyone to have to deal with but then again i think it may be a blessing in disguise.
The argue constantly, have no common interest in hobbies or life goals (She wants kids- he doesnt anymore; although when they were first married he did!) She said she basically feels like a roomate living with him 🙁
anyway sorry for the ramble, Just wandering what others experiences were with seperating to work things out.
Did you end up back together? Did you divorce? what made you decide one way or the other?
Post # 3
I had always heard that this never works, but then I found out that FI’s parents separated for about a year when Fiance was 4. They’ve now been together for 30 years and they’re crazy about each other. In their case, they just needed an extended period of time apart so they could think about their relationship, what they love about each other, how to work with their problems, etc. It’s kinda hard to believe- if you saw them together now, you would never guess that they could even stand being apart for a week.
Post # 4
I don’t fit the bill but as far as your friend goes, it couldn’t hurt to give it a try. If they end up getting a divorce in the end that wouldn’t be much different from them getting a divorce from the beginning.
Post # 5
yeah i told her to try everything they can to make it work before they make the ultimate decision to seperate for good.
they have been to counceling etc… everything BUT seperating.
Post # 6
@MrsRuby: A girl I went to school with was married for several years and had two kids with her Darling Husband. They seperated, then divorced. About 3-4 years later they “rediscovered” each other. She got pregnant and then they eloped… er… a second time? Anyways, they have been remarried for about 2 years now and it seems to be going okay. The only concern I had was how their kids understood it (they were 2 and 5 or so when they first divorced and about 6 and 9 when they remarried).
Post # 7
My parents did this as well. However, they were not both in agreement which I think makes their situation a little different, but here’s the story.
My parents were high school sweethearts and got married very young. They conceived me, when my mother lost her virginity, so at 18. She had me, went back to get on bc after my birth, and found out she was pregnant with my sister. By 20, she had 2 children in diapers. My father worked 2 jobs to support the family. She did a lot of the work by herself.
As I got older, I remember my parents being so in love. Never fighting an very affectionate. When all of us moved out, my mother said she was lost. She didn’t know who she was, because she had always been a wife and mother. She said she was confused about her life and her feelings about my father. She moved into her own apt and proved to herself that she could find a full time job and take care of herself.
My father was crushed. However, he stuck to his guns. He began to date her again. It was great for their relationship. He became so attentive and I watched her slowly fall back in love. It was pretty amazing to watch. It worked for them and that was 12 years ago or so.
They have now been married for 32 years.