any married couples using condoms?

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
1725 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am NOT a fan of hormonal birth control. I’ve tried it a couple of times over the past 10 years, and I can’t stand being on it. DH and I have been using condoms our entire sexual relationship. Interestingly, I think he’d still want to use condoms even if I was on a pill; he’s not ready for a baby yet and probably feels like he’s doing his part to prevent by wearing one! Since it’s the norm for us, we’ve never given it a second thought after we got married. (Also as a side note, I asked him if he’d be up for getting snipped after we’re done having kids… he said that he’d rather keep wearing condoms, which surprised me!)

Post # 4
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I know you dont want info on the copper IUD… But I thought I would point out that it doesn’t hurt as bad as you think it might… They freeze your cervix prior to insertion and it only takes less than 5 minutes for the whole procedure! I felt a regular pap was more painful than when I have my mirena IUD done and I have never had kids…. 

Also your period can stop all together and you can have it removed if you choose to have kids within the next 5 years…. 

I would suggest talking to your doctor…. i would say pretty close to all those over the counter type methods of birth control besides condoms are only about 80-90% successful evern when used 100% correct 100% of the time…


have you looked into the NuvaRing? It has hormones but it is awesome! I used that for a lot of years before I got mirena…. I haven’t had a period in 10 years between the nuvaring and mirena! 


Anyway.. Just my two cents 

Post # 7
623 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Stace126:  I was on birth control for about 6 months and HATED it. So then we tried condoms and HATED it. I also don’t trust IUDs either because I have 1 friend who still got pregnant using one, and another who had a really bad experience with them and now she probably won’t be able to have children.


I just use the rhythm method and pull-out. It’s not for everyone, but I like it and find it super simple.

Post # 8
623 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

oops… I’m not married though…give me 6 months 😛

Post # 9
3312 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010


I have been on hormonal birth control. The hormones made me fat, combative and left a large benign tumor in my liver. The problem is, hormonal methods are the most effective. There is just too much room for error with the barrier methods that women use. 

I would love to use condoms again to catch the messy semen. My husband refuses to use condoms with his wife. 

Post # 10
4800 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m with you.  I tried a hormonal pill for three months and I was in tears the entire time.  DH wants me to try another brand but I’m really not keen on being a birth control guinea pig.

I don’t mind condoms so this is all for DH which pisses me off.  I have to be an emotional wreak so you can have your pleasure once or twice a week, no.

Anyway have you tried the vaginal contraceptive film?  I hadn’t heard of this before so I looked it up.  I’m not sure putting spermicide into you is the best either.


Post # 11
1312 posts
Bumble bee

I’ve tried the spermicide film, but as a backup to condoms.  It was alright…but I know we weren’t using it correctly 100% of the time, so it’s a good thing it was a backup.  You’re supposed to place it 15 minutes before sex, I think.  Not sure what effect it would have on oral…I don’t remember if my SO had anything to say about it. 😛  Those things are pricey though (at least in Canada).

Post # 12
2974 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

we practice nfp and use condoms during my more fertile days. it’s been working pretty well for us 🙂

Post # 13
7886 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

After The Pill didn’t agree with me at all, we used condoms for about 3 years before TTC, and in between children. For those 3 years I think we used them exclusively. In between children we got a bit braver and went bareback when we thought I was infertile, which led to one “happy oops” pregnancy after about 6 years using them successfully.

For me they made no difference to how much I enjoyed sex. DH prefered not to use them, but for him the upside was we would go off them eventually.

Post # 14
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

DH and I use condoms exclusively now. I was on the pill before and it was so awful, I will never do hormones again. We’ve also used the sponge, diaphragm, female condom, and FAM. We both hate condoms but it’s better than the alternatives. I considered the copper IUD but I chickened out. We have a 1-year-old and are planning to TTC for #2 in a year or so. Ideally I would use FAM with condoms only on fertile days, but my cycle is still irregular from breastfeeding so it’s condoms all the time. 

Post # 15
983 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

Yes, after 11 years on the pill and 2 years with a copper IUD (which I didn’t like), we started using FAM in preparation to TTC. I had regular cycles immediately, which was surprising, so we were easily able to identify and use condoms as a barrier method during my fertile times, and chose not to use them during infertile times. The three months we used this method before trying to conceive during a fertile week (and getting it the first try, yay!) went very well.

I always thought I never had any problem being on the pill, but when I went off of it my anxiety decreased substantially, I lost weight, and overall had more energy and a better outlook. Never again will I go back.

Post # 16
121 posts
Blushing bee

Yes, my partner and I use condoms/use pull-out ‘method’. I don’t love condoms, but I prefer them to the effects of hormonal BC. In a different circumstance I would get an IUD, but we plan to start TTC soon-ish.

ETA: Try a sponge! I used them within the last few years and they were my favorite BC method for special occasions (expensive, though, so we didn’t use them all the time).

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