Post # 1
i’m going to be marrying my wonderful fiancé next year who just so happens to be in the air force. I’m really excited, but also really nervous about the transition. I’ll be moving a state away from my family, starting a brand new career, leaving all my friends… It’s an exciting but scary thought! Does anybody have any advice on how to adjust to a new life in a new place? I’ve also never lived with my fiancé before, and we’ve been long distance for 4 (at the wedding it will be nearly 5) years. What did you ladies do to get comfortable in your new home? I know that homesickness is probably inevitable, but I really want to embrace our new life together and obviously have lots of fun!
Also, do you have any practical military advice, like how to navigate tricare standard, and anything else you can think of?
thanks so much bees!
Post # 2
My mom is from England and married my father, who was in the American Navy. She moved from England all the way to Mississippi! That was a huge culture shock. I think military wives are very supportive of each other. My mom is still good friends with some of the women she met during that time.
I moved around a lot, so I adjust to new places easily. I guess just keep yourself busy with exploring the town and trying to meet new people.
My fiance and I just moved into our first place together, and it’s great! It was fun deciding where all the furniture goes and where to hang the pictures, and what color to paint the walls. We have lots of pics of ourselves and familiy and favorite sports team to make our house more personal.
Post # 3
My best advice to you is to try to make as many new friends as possible. Whether this means moving out of your comfort zone or going out one night instead of staying in, you’ll be much happier with others around you who know exactly what you’re going through. Sometimes being a military SO is hard, but it can also be an amazing way to see parts of the world you’ve never seen and meeting friends that will change your life.
As for moving in with your FI, take it one step at a time. Learn what things make each other tick (ie: leaving dishes in the sink, not helping out with dinner, etc) and try to avoid those things to not piss each other off. It’s definitely a different ball game, living together but if you clearly split up responsibilities then there should be no fighting over who does what.
For what it’s worth, some people are cut out for this lifestyle and some are just not. I’ve seen many many couples at the make it or break it stage when moving in together for the first time. Honestly it helps if you have a positive attitude and accept the fact that you willl have to sacrifice some things in order to make it work, but its definitely doable. I have lived with FI for over two years now and have only visited home twice. Not really the type to get homesick but of course you will miss family and friends. It gets easier the longer you’re away. Good luck to you and your fiance and just remember that all your friends and family from home are a phone call away!
Post # 4
Well, I got married six months ago but have been apart of the Military for some time now because if my husband while we were dating. It’s tough getting situated. I moved from Florida where I grew up to GA for him. We actually are fixing to get transferred again in December over Sea’s. The best advice I could give to you is to join the military wives groups that they have. It’s where you can find the most support for severbal women going through the same exact thing. I never found us moving in together difficult at all.(it’s been exactly one year since we moved in together) You just have to stay positive. Find fun things you guys can do together and separate. Alone time is important until the two of you have completely adjusted!! Make sure you guys just communicate well! Communication is key. Believe me!! My family is a state away but we make it work visiting wise. They come visit us sometimes as well as us visit them.
Hope I helped and good luck with the wedding!! I hope everything works out for you two!