Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
Hi Hive! Sure, my wedding was over a year ago, and I remember it fondly. I do still sometimes wish that the ceremony music didn’t go wrong… the music we wanted didn’t get played (my fault entirely! I didn’t get it to the DJ in time, so he missed my email) and instead an awful 20 second loop was played. We were supposed to have an instrumental version of Paul McCartney’s “Maybe I’m amazed” play… and I listen to it on my iTunes and wish it reminded me of our wedding day but it doesn’t, of course 🙂
That’s literally the only thing I sometimes still dwell on. I remember the rest of my wedding fondly 🙂
Is there a little nagging thing that went wrong at your wedding that you still think about often?
Post # 3
I’m obsessing over two stupid details… One is that our programs were put in the wrong place and nobody had them. We put a lot of effort into those 🙁
The other was that we didn’t turn on our LED throwies before the ceremony, so friends had to turn them on during the reception. This is the one thing a DOC could have helped with…
So neither of these things are so bad, but when I think about them, I literally cringe. Hopefully, this feeling will fade in time!
Post # 4
Mine has to do with the ceremony music too. Only I DID tell the DJ what song I wanted and made sure he knew it because it was imporant to me because Id wanted to walk down the aisle to it for so long. I was supposed to walk to “Storybook Love”, the Princess Bride theme song and instead he downloaded it off itunes, where it has another song before it and played that one instead. It was very pretty but I wish it was the song I wanted. Now its bittersweet when I hear the song I actually walked down to because its pretty and it brings back great memories but makes me sad I didnt get to walk to the song I wanted to.
Post # 5
My music wasnt what I wanted either (the ipod never made it to the proper people so CDs were just played) but it didn’t bother me so much. I had proper music for the ceremony and its not like we had dancing or anything specific that we wanted played.
What I REALLY wish we had done differently was getting a sound system so people could hear us during the ceremony better (outdoors with zooming motorcycles a couple of times…) and i should have wrote out a checklist for the day of because things got all scrambled. The kids never even got all the toys and goodies we bought for them! That bothers me because it was a waste of our money then, and the kids were probably bored!
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2018 - Hotel Vitale
I am slowly forgetting the negatives and focusing on the positives. Although, I wouldn’t have stressed so much about the time line and just relaxed and enjoyed myself a bit more.
Post # 7
I think the two things that still bother me a little are the cake and the toasts.
Our baker (a friend of my mom’s from HS) put this huge pink Gerbera daisy as a cake topper, when I specifically gave her the white flowers that matched the cake to put on top. It looks totally weird in the photos and the color drives me crazy. Pink was not one of our colors!
During the blessing, my BIL (who is sweet, but has very different religious views than we do) basically gave a sermon in which he said a lot of religious stuff I don’t agree with. He kept reiterating that marriage is between a man and a woman, which we SPECIFICALLY kept out of our ceremony because we disagree. Our officiant (also a coworker/friend) was there with her partner and I felt terrible that this happened. I spent the whole toast with a fake smile plastered on my face because I was so upset/uncomfortable. If I had it to do over again, I would have put my foot down and told my husband that there was no way his brother was speaking at the wedding.
Post # 8
Our minister had the most negative homily at our wedding! It talked about the holocaust, mental illness, and infidelity! I couldn’t believe it. But, it’s sort of become a big joke, and everyone laughs about it. Weddings, like life, aren’t perfect, but I think the important thing is to keep laughing and keep positive. I loved my wedding otherwise! 🙂
Post # 9
MY PHOTOGRAPHER! UGH UGH UGH. Don’t even get me started, but you can read all about it here
And made my parents not make me late to my own wedding. That’ll be a tough one to let go as I’m pretty stuck on the fact that WE paid for the wedding, THEY were our guests and they were terribly inconsiderate about that =(
Post # 10
The music is actually a big one for me as well. Our friend stepped in at the last minute to change the songs between the bridesmaids and me. And he didn’t know what to do so their song just kept playing and playing and everyone was watching us waiting. My Husband was at the front tryign to signal him what to do. In the video I have this really panicked look on my face, and instead of having this blissful wait at the end of the aisle, I was all flipped out. Blah!
Post # 11
Definitely the music. We really wanted a certain song to walk down the aisle to after the ceremony and felt completely bullied to change it. So we did, a song both of us love, but felt a little upset that we didn’t just stick to our original song. Also, there were several songs that we asked for, even gave the DJs on cds, that never got played. And this is as in they would start to play it, hear what it was, and then change to another song. We still don’t know why this happened.
Post # 12
This didn’t bother me at the wedding b/c I didn’t notice it, but I just watched our wedding video and realized that our photographer was EVERYWHERE! Her pictures turned out amazing, but there are a few parts during the day where she was a little too close (when i walked down the aisle, father/daughter dance, etc.) Like I said, she took great pictures; I just wish she weren’t everywhere in our wedding video. (My cousin filmed the video for free, so I think she may have been a little more respectful of his filming if he were a pro too.)
Aside from that, the Cubs cake topper on the groom’s cake looked bad, and I still wish I would have just made one myself instead of paying our baker to make one. Then there were also about a dozen DIY projects I didn’t have time to get to, but I’m slowly getting over those. 🙂
Post # 13
So many things went wrong but I had an awesome day…
Gosh, where do I even begin…. here are some of the bigger ones:
1. Hotel spelled “Wedding” as “Weading” for the signs
2. DJ had music issue, we almost had to have our first dance to Pretty Women or something not suitable. Thank goodness we had a backup copy of our first dance song (Can’t help falling in love with you) so DJ could use it.
3. Minister used the vows he wrote instead of the ones we wrote.
4. My father & husband’s aunt and uncle got lost after the welcome dinner (aka night before the wedding). We spent a few hours looking for them. Thank goodness they were safe.
yeah… but it was a great day and nothing could get to me at all 🙂 I was in such a happy mode that I found all of this super funny.
Post # 14
My wedding was only this past Saturday so I haven’t come up with them all but here are the things I noticed…
1. The main cake (3 tier) was never served. Apparently, the baker provided an extra round cake for the wedding and that was served instead. If I knew I was receiving that, I would never have had a dessert table or the extra sheet cake. My parents have desperately been trying to feed anyone and everyone the cake so it doesn’t go to waste.
2. I somehow forgot to buy 16 votives for a set of 4 centerpieces that I had. So 4 tables had 0 votives, just the main candle. Noone cared but I noticed.
3. I wish the ceremony was practiced a bit more. My G’ma (the officiant) was stumbling with the words as if she has never married anyone. Not so much her fault as we tried to rush through it all.
I think that is it. For now.
Post # 15
This is a good post… Before the wedding, I thought that I would be happy with everything since I had put so much work into it. It took me a while to realize that there are a few things that went wrong that I can completely let go of, and there are a few things that went wrong that still bother me a bit.
Something that went wrong but that I’ve gotten over is our DJ- I just didn’t love him. He talked wayyyyyy too much. And when I tried to subtly tell him to stop talking and just get to the music, he put the mike up to his mouth and said WHAT??? really loudly and looked at me. Um, nevermind. I’ve pretty much gotten over that & it helped to hear so many friends and family mention to us that they liked the music and that the DJ kept them dancing all night. My hubby still gets annoyed when he watches the wedding video and fast forwards through everything.
Something that went wrong that I HAVEN’T gotten over is the pictures– my photographer requested a list of pictures that we wanted. Being organized, I sent her a three-tabbed excel spreadsheet with the pictures we wanted. The first tab was pre-ceremony. The second tab was post-ceremony family portraits. And the third was photos we wanted taken at the reception. I CAREFULLY EXPLAINED in my email that there were three tabs and asked them to make sure to print all three. But, of course, they showed up with the first page. After we took all of the “getting ready” and pre-ceremony shots, she said “Looks like we already got all of the shots on your list.” And I told her that that was only the first page and that there were three tabs.
Instead of trying to find a computer and printer (we were at a resort, and the wedding coordinator could have done this for her), she just chose to ignore me. And I was so busy from that point on that I didn’t have time to figure it all out. I tried to remember most of the shots I wanted, but I was too busy to stay on top of the photogs. So I have A LOT of pictures that I didn’t get, like me with my cousins, my entire side of the family, and my husband’s entire side of the family.
It makes me sad because there’s no way to go back and “fix” that…
Post # 16
peeptoe– isn’t it funny how the bad things sort of fade out & we’re left with the happy memories!! I am thankful for that, because all in all, my wedding day was great! Years from now, we won’t remember the annoying little mishaps at all! 🙂
Jessie516 Awww, I’m sorry that happened. But don’t worry too much about it… I am SURE your officiant knows that YOU AND YOUR HUBBY don’t feel that way. Because after all, if you felt that marriage was only between a man and a woman, you probably wouldn’t have asked a gay officiant to be a part of your wedding.
Superstitions– I’m sorry to hear that. If it makes you feel any better, one of my “DO NOT PLAY” songs got played. It was “Baby Got Back.” I just didn’t want that song played at my wedding, but the DJ played it anyway. But, thankfully, it is clear on the wedding video that I didn’t mind too much, because I am on the dance floor dancing my booty off to it. I also think that my husband pretend-slapped my butt during that song, which was also caught on video *covers eyes in embarassment!*