Post # 1
Although it will seem strange to many, I really don’t like having to hug people even if I am related to them. I would rather shake hands even adding the second hand on the forearm which seems perfectly acceptable for men to do in the very same situations. I especially dislike being forceably hugged and/or kissed which my FMIL is guilty of doing both. It seems like basic manners to read whether or not the other person consents to hug you back.
Anyone else a non-hugger? I’m anxious about the possibility of many people forceably hugging me at the wedding. I would like to have a receiving line but that seems just like a stream of people trying to hug me. I’m hoping that offering a handshake will be enough to avoid that.
Post # 3
I feel super awkward hugging my future in laws.
Post # 4
I’m not a hugger either. It’s rare that I even hug FI.
After getting many hurt looks from people who expect hugs, I’ve become an expert in non-committal one-armed hugs.
It’s even worse when you meet a social kisser. FI’s uncle is a kisser, and I’ve gotten as used to it as I’m going to get, which is not very.
I REALLY hate when people kiss my hand. Especially when I don’t know them at all. At FI’s grandmother’s wake, FMIL’s BF’s friend showed up and totally pulled the hand-kiss. I couldn’t bathe in enough hand sanitizer.
Post # 5
I’m not. I’m generally not a touchy feely person though anyway. I’m lucky though and I only expect to be hugged by my mom, FMIL and FH. Most other people either shake my hand or don’t touch me at all.
What can I say, I like my personal space.
Post # 6
I like hugging people that I am VERY close to: ie, my parents, siblings, FI, and the two girls that are my bridesmaids.
Other than that, I have a pretty big personal bubble and am not a hugger. I am kinda anxious about everyone trying to hug me at the wedding.
Post # 7
Well, no, but I am a big time hugger! I hug my pillow, my DH, my blankets, my dog… everything. So, I always feel bad/embarrassed when I hug someone who I realize doesn’t feel comfortable hugging me back.
Post # 8
I do hug but yeah.. I don’t like hugging people I don’t feel comfortable hugging. Now that I really think about it, I really feel twitchy thinking of all the people my body has been smashed up against that I didn’t really feel comfortable hugging.. I’m grossed out.
Post # 9
I HATE hugging. I really dislike physical contact with most people, and that probably stems from working in a hospital (yucky people! lol).
Post # 10
hahaha – when I read this, I immediately thought you meant non-TREEhugger because when I went to an environmental college it was always just ‘hugger. lol
While I am fairly “green” ;0 No, I am not a hugger either, and I feel like extending the hand only works rarely when someone is stepping in for that hug! We are not doing a receiving line, going table to table at the reception, so I am really hoping that will cut down on some of the hugs 🙂
Post # 11
I am not a hugger. The only people who I like to hug are immediate family and FI. My friends know this about me and when we get together, they’ll hug and my really close friends look at me and we laugh because they know I don’t want to hug- so we wave. Just one of my many quirks that my friends find strange, but they still love me 🙂
Post # 12
I’m not really into hugs either…I don’t like people inside my “personal bubble.” It is different when it is my husband or mom/dad/brother/sister…but extended family?? Kind of dread it!!! Glad I’m not alone!
Post # 13
I only like to hug people I’m very close with so the prospect of being hugged by the 20 relatives of dh that I never met except at our wedding was definitely uncomfortable. Especially sincE I wore strapless and it was super hot so it was like “nice to meet you, oh you’re going to hug me and there’s going to be sweaty chest skin contact; nasty”. With all but the most aggressive I’vemastered a noncommittal, lean in with one shoulder and pat the hugger on the back move.
Post # 14
I dislike hugging.. and I’ve gotten scolded it many a times from FI’s family and him, and a lot of ex’s I need to stop dating Italian families.
Post # 15
With you on this one! My exFIL was a huge hugger…and a touchy feely type person…to the point where women in the church would disappear if they knew he was coming in the door. Finally one day I told him ‘This is my personal space. No one enters it without my permission except for my children’. He tried to negate that but I just repeated it over and over. He finally got the not so subtle hint! lol
Post # 16
Non-hugger right here! I catch alot of flack for it too. Especially from my mom…because my two brothers are huggers and my fiance’ is a hugger so it makes family gathers super akward when I’m the only one running out the door without hugging people. I do tend to stiffle my discomfort when I see my older relatives, or those who I haven’t seen in a long time and I just hug them, because it makes them happy. But personally, I don’t like touching people who I don’t normally touche….and the only person I like hugging is my FI. I think hugs are more genuine when it’s a special moment or something or a moment of fear or sadness. I just don’t feel the need to hug people everytime I see them or say goodbye.
Anywayss…I don’t think there is any way to avoid hugging people at your wedding. You can extend your hand for a shake and hope they don’t go in for more than that.