(Closed) Any nontraditional brides out there?

posted 7 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Busy bee

I sometimes feel like the most untraditional bride on here! My engagement ring is an eternity band. No one knows we are getting married until after it happens except our parents and 2 friends. We are eloping and getting married in Thailand. Our wedding will just be the two of us. We will have an elephant procession, and will go back “down the aisle” on the backs of elephant. We will have  a Buddhist monks blessing during our ceremony. After the ceremony we will have a private dinner in a beautiful outdoor location. I am wearing a long white dress, so that’s one traditional thing!

 

We are having a reception when we get back home, that will have buffet dinner, cocktails and dancing like a traditional wedding reception.  The reception is Thai themed and will serve Thai food, and we are not including traditional dances (father/daughter etc.) or a bouquet or garter toss.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Thanks, I agree! The few people that know are  excited to have something different at a wedding. Our families were both very open to our non-traditional plans.

I now have less than 2 months left until we leave and I can’t wait! 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m changing tons of things: the ceremony will be completely written by us and performed largely by a friend, our wedding shower next weekend is for both genders, neither parent will be walking me down the aisle, no bouquet toss or garter toss, no mother/son or father/daughter dances.

I’ve told people that everything is up for grabs. No tradition is safe!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’d say we’re fairly nontraditional. We’re having a private (about 10 people or less) ceremony and then a outdoor park reception. I’ll be carrying balloons instead of flowers and then releasing them to heaven for our loved ones not with us. I’m a short dress bride ($30 at JcPenny) and my FH is wearing shorts. All of our food is DIY and our favors are sparklers, and there’s no dancing.

Post # 8
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279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Um…

Cupcake stand instead of traditional cake

Not doing the boquet/garter toss

Wedding and reception held at cobblestone house in a park

Dessert buffet and wine instead of sit down dinner

Pictures being done before the wedding–so yes, he will see me before the alter, but this way our guests don’t wait around for 2 hours while we have our formal pictures taken.

 

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We are getting married in the Bahamas with 8 people 2 of them we have never met! (they are our friends guests)

We are having a reception back home. Pretty much dance party with dinner! nothing else really weddingy!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We will have the wedding on the beach during our Hawaiian Family Fun Cruise, no wedding rings and I will be wearing a purple dress. His dad will be walking me down the “beachway”.

We will be having a BBQ reception months after we get back from vacation.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I guess I am not as untraditional as you girls! I love the first response about Thailand. So unique! We got engaged in Thailand and loved it there!

For nontraditional, we planned our entire wedding via the internet from abroad without having seen anything (my dress, the venue, the rings, etc.) But it all worked out perfectly! My e-ring & band cost well under $1G, our invites are printed on wildflower seeded paper and sprout when planted. My dress is just a long ivory babydoll gown instead of a traditional wedding dress. FH had his suit custom made in Vietnam. I didn’t want a bridal party or a lot of people, but FH is more traditional and demanded those things (he’s very demanding 😉  Half the food served is gourmet vegan since we have a lot of vegan and veg. guests.

We’re not doing any entrances or introductions, no bouquet or garter toss. We are doing all the dances and cake cutting. A lot of components will be traditional, but I want to avoid all the things “cheesy” or cookie-cutter components of every wedding. We are having it at a B&B in upstate New York with the ceremony outside in the garden and the reception in their attached ballroom area. Only close family & friends are invited with under 45 guests. Our officiant will read readings we have chosen from hindu spiritual books, since we are both very much influenced by eastern thought. We will have a hindu priest family member (we are all white by the way) offer our vegetarian food to krishna. And another day we may have the traditional hare krishna fire wedding ceremony. Although vows are taken much more seriously than traditional marriage vows (which many people often break).

Overall, I think the wedding itself will be mostly traditional.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t really think it’s so non-traditional, but my mama tends to disagree.  Just a few things that have nearly made her pass out in shock:

1. We’re not having cake.  And we’re not having cupcakes.  We’re having donuts.  And they won’t be on one big stand.  They will be on lots of mini stands.  And they won’t all be glazed either. We’re having about 10 different kinds.  Blueberry pancake donut, anyone?  Yes please! 

2. Our recessional and the bridesmaids’ processional music have words.  My entrance song is pretty fast and, I think, played on a synthesizer.  Have a listen:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6yXh5N3Y5aM

I dare you to listen to that and not be in a good mood.

3.  Men will not have bouts.  Pretty much every man in my wedding is an alpha male (both dads are Vietnam vets, two guys have Harleys, one guy is an army ranger and my brother has a truck that looks like it could eat you) and I don’t want to be the person that says, “Oh yeah, put this flower on your jacket.”

4.  Instead of renting more chairs (100 come with the venue), we’re setting out straw bales for extra seating. 

5.  The ceremony will not be in a church.

Not so shocking to my mom, but a little nontraditional, I suppose:

1.  We’re making all our own food.

2.  My brother is one of my bridesmaids.  And no, I will not give him a more masculine title.

Post # 13
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323 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We’re having an intimate family only wedding in Austria – there will be just 12 of us. I’ll keep tradition by wearing a wedding dress and a veil but the rest will be pretty untraditional.  I love that it’ll be so intimate – we’ll be surrounded by those who love us the most.

 

Post # 14
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733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club

We all sound very cool & interesting. 🙂

We are traditional in some ways and nontraditional in others; we’re older than average (with me being older than the average 1st time bride, at least in this area); I am walking in by myself; we’re hosting the wedding ourselves; it’s not in a church, no garter/bouquet toss or parent dances; I’m a plus size; we’re interracial. I love celebrating all the ways we are different! 🙂

Post # 15
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Worker bee

So far our plans have changed to just getting hitched at the courthouse. I’m planning on wearing a 50s style dress (that I’m going to attempt to make myself), birdcage veil, red pumps, and a brooch bouquet (that I’m also making myself). He’ll be wearing his cracker jacks. Probably have just our families in attendance, so a whopping 6 people. After that dinner with the family somewhere, then a massive text explosion/facebook update letting all of our friends know to come party with us downtown somewhere. Pretty non-traditional, I think!

Post # 16
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Busy bee

We are older too- late 30’s. I guess I didn’t include that as untraditional, because many of my friends married in their mid to late 30’s.

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