Post # 1
I did just read an old thread about overweight/obese bees that were pregnant and did they get treated badly in pregnancy etc and the general consensus was that they didnt but it got me thinking about other things, so i just have a few questions. I myself am a size 22-24 and have had a c-section 4 years ago so i have this awful belly hang which i have been told will never go away even with weight loss =/ back in my first pregnancy i was a size 18 but i never really had many problems i only needed a c-section because i had severe pre-eclampsia at 35 weeks and they needed baby out immediately and i recovered really well.
I have just found out i am pregnant (4 weeks today yay) and i really want a vbac (vaginal birth after caesarean) I am in the UK so its hard to refuse a midwife if they arent supportive as i kind of get what im given but i just wonder;
have any of you overweight ladies had a VBAC?
Were the docs/OBGYN’s/midwives supportive?
Did you manage to lose weight in pregnancy?
Did you have trouble having scans?
Did anybody make you feel bad for being overweight in pregnancy?
I understand that being overweight can be a touchy subject for some ladies but i am in the same boat and i wont ‘bash’ or anything i just cant seem to find any info online except that being overweight in pregnancy is ‘terrible’ and ‘risky’ but surely we can still do it?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I’m extremely interested in the UK’s stance on VBACs. It’s difficult if not impossible to find doctors willing to do VBAC in many parts of the US.
Post # 4
@beachbride1216: I have heard of some docs/midwives encouraging VBAC’s but apparently they are more risky and could have more complications but i cant give up hope of having a baby naturally i just hope my weight doesnt give them an excuse not to let me try.
I would have thought they would be more encouraged in a country where you have to pay a lot of money for the services and ante-natal care etc. your money = your choice but maybe not =/
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@bouncybee: It’s more difficult because we are a litigious society and OBs are afraid of being sued if something goes wrong during a VBAC. OBs carry malpractice insurance but most insurance companies will not cover them for VBAC deliveries so the OBs refuse to take on the liability. Even though we do have the more money, more choice going for us, you may have to travel hundreds of miles or to a different state to find an OB willing to try a VBAC.
Post # 6
@beachbride1216: well i did not know that, thanks for the insights =]
Post # 7
Obese and pregnant here, 28 weeks.
Some of the questions I cannot answer yet, some I can. I’m a size 18, very overweight.
I have had absolutely ZERO trouble seeing the baby at my scans. I lost 16.5 pounds in my first trimester (from eating better portions and drinking lots of water, cutting out alot of pop – NO morning sickness whatsoever). I am still down 10.5 pounds right now.
Both my family doctor and OB have been supportive. My weight was mentioned at the OB, she was very proud that I lost weight and have maintained a loss. She mentioned that if I can keep this up it would be best, but I have not been judged by them at all. (I believe this is because even though I look bigger, I don’t look nearly what I weigh.
People have been very nice to me too, I haven’t had anyone ask me about my weight other than “Have you lost weight? You look fantastic!” Which is shocking but really great to hear.
I have asked the OB what my odds are of having a C-Section, she said the same as anyone else. Other than being overweight, I’m very healthy. My BP is great, baby is doing well, she said she has absolutely no concerns.
Post # 8
@Lyndzo: congrats on the pregancy and the weight loss! Im hoping to lose weight myself but its hard and all i wanna do is eat snacks all day. Hope that feeling goes soon. Im glad nobody is being mean to you about your weight that is reassuring i just hope i can see bean on the scans id rather not have a vaginal scan =/
Post # 9
@Lyndzo: I’ve seen your bump pictures and you are just the cutest!!!
Post # 10
@bouncybee: Unfortunately I think most dating scans (your first u/s) are usually vaginal, no matter what size you are.
Post # 11
I’m not pregnant yet, but I am TTC and also a size 22. I like to read The Well-Rounded Mama blog – they have a lot of great perspectives and medical info for plus size pregnant women!
Post # 12
@bijou214: Just FYI, I had a dating ultrasound at 10 weeks and it was not internal, I am not obese however.
Post # 13
@fresitachulita: perhaps because you were already 10 weeks along?
I had several friends warn me that their initial ultrasounds were vaginal (between 6-8 weeks) and they were all different sizes with 2 of them being super skinny minnies.
Post # 14
@bouncybee: im a tiny girl and had both an abdominal and vaginal dating scan Since it was hard (but not impossible) to see on the abdominal scan. The vaginal scan is no big deal. It just looks like a dildo they put a condom on it and ask you to insert it yourself.
A vaginal scan will be the least invasive and humiliating part of pregnancy! 😉
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
@bouncybee: Congrats on your pregnancy! I’ve had several vaginal ultrasounds (not for pregnancy, but for other reasons). They really are not a big deal, and I promise they are nothing to worry about if you do have one. The idea is much more uncomfortable than the reality.
Post # 16
@MrsJX3: Aw, you’re going to make me cry. Thank you! <3
@bijou214: Yep, my first at 8 weeks was vaginal. All my other U/S afterwards were abdominal.
@bouncybee: I hear you on the snacks, I have days where I just want to eat and eat. But I try to find a craving that’s healthy (for example I have this thing about yogurt these days) and eat more of that if I feel the need to snack.