Post # 1
I had about a day of gloominess after our wedding. Kind of a shock “omg it’s REALLY over…I am a wife, and I”ll never be a bride again” type situation. We had an amazing wedding, but I can’t quite bring myself to put my dress totally away in it’s garment bag and hang in the closet. It’s hanging in our guest bedroom doorway with my shoes underneath, sash and garter hanging on the hanger. I’m not sad or weepy or melancholy about it (as of now), but I want to keep it fresh.
I suppose it helps that we’re going on our HM on Saturday, so I have that to look forward to still. I assume when we’re back from that and the reaiity of our other big life-events sets in (we have to move to a new city in a new state for DH to start med school in Aug.), I’ll be distracted again, and maybe have a few more days of “woe is me…it’s all over”.
But the weirdest thing is feeling like I have no hobbies or purpose now that I’m not planning! It’s weird to get online at work or at home and hit my browser drop-down arrow to choose a site I spent so much time on pre-wedding. My history is still full of registry websites, etsy, weddingwire, weddingbee (I’ll never leave the bee, though!), theknot, etc. Now, there’s no reason for me to go to any of those sites. I find myself sitting at my computer during downtimes at work thinking “hmm…what can I look at? Youtube? No…”
It’s so strange!! I feel like I have no purpose anymore 😉
Post # 3
@MrsDrRose612: I bet I’ll be that same way.. my pinterest is full or wedding.. my bookmark pages are all wedding.. all my trips to michael’s are for wedding related stuff… i might have to start up a side business of party planning or else i’ll be restless too after lol
Post # 4
I took to looking for redecorating the house (at the best price possible). I didnt ever really buy much, but I looked post wedding on the internet because like you I needed something to kill the time with.
I also worked on some scrapbooks, gym, cooking etc.
I get it. I wasn’t lost post wedding, but for about 2 months there was a small hole I was looking to fill. Time took care of it mostly
Post # 5
ah, i think i will feel the same way..i heard that your special day comes and goes like nothing…i don’t know what i’l be planning or keep busy on.
Post # 6
http://www.meetup.com has a million-billion hobby meet ups! Hit it up! Take up painting or something.
Post # 7
@Romantigua: It really does!! And it’s such an amazing feeling, but when it’s over, you realize it really is over now. There’s no more prep, no more decisions to be made, no more fittings, no more choices, no more guest list edits, no more seating arrangements, etc. You wake up the next day blissfully happy that you’re married to the love of your life, but in the back of your mind you think…”wow, now it’s really over. It’s not going to happen again. Just 36 hours ago I still had things to pick out and put together, and now there’s no reason to do anything like that”. The day will not extend on into other days…it comes and goes and then it’s gone forever! Realistically, it’s just like any other momentous day…you wait and wait and wait and obsess to the point where it’s so huge in your mind you think it can’t even be real (getting your drivers license, going to college, graduations, huge, life-altering trips or experienes). Then you find yourself on the other side of it thinking damn…that went by in a flash.
Post # 8
akp0702 wow, that makes me sad lol…we’re really talking like something bad has happened…but yes, the way you put it makes me sad already…right now i feel like it’s an eternity for that day to get here but i been to so many weddings lately and they are all beautiful and you can see all the effort that was put into it and i just imagine how they feel once they’re back home….SIGH…..all those things you’ve said i have been thinking of ALREADY…lol
Post # 9
now onto our honeymoon and babies 🙂
Post # 10
hahahaha, I felt like that for maybe one day or two 😛 But soon realized there’s more stuff to do and look forward….on my list included….send out thank you cards, wedding pictures, change last name, host dinner parties using new CHINA :). Redecorate home with wishing well fund 🙂 Look at my videography of wedding, leave great comments on all vendors, sell unused wedding stuff, help a friend plan a wedding, because someone is always getting married, and by now you’re an expert :P, Enjoy newlywed life, going out together, romantic dinners, picnic. I was so stressed before wedding, ugh, weight lifted off my shoulders after the big day, now can enjoy hubby and our new life 🙂
Post # 11
I think I’ll definitely have the “what do I do with my down time” moments, but like Brielle said I think I’ll be focused on finally painting rooms in the house we bought last sept, having time to finally entertain in it and with pretty new stuff, cooking more, talking about babies, having time to read something not wedding related, etc… I’m somewhat ready for normal life to ensue again, but I enjoy the crafts so I know I’ll miss that!
Post # 12
Um, this might be a bit captain obvious here, but how about you focus your newly-found free time on your new husband? Time to enjoy your “happily ever after”!
Post # 13
I was fine for the first few months after the wedding because I had a huge project and performance going on, and I spent all my time and energy on that. Now that that’s done, though… Yeah, I’m feeling pretty useless without any big projects. I’ve been working on planning Dungeons & Dragons stuff for the campaign I’m running (geek alert!), which has helped a bit, though it’s not the same. Fortunately, I just got bridesmaided by one of my friends last week, and so now I can look forward to helping her plan her wedding!
Post # 14
This is a pretty common thing on the Bee. I always think – was your life fulfilling before the wedding? Because you should be going back to old hobbies, and reclaiming your life from wedding insanity! I was soooo happy to get back to my photography, plan trips, teach myself how to cook, etc. Maybe take a fun class or something to jumpstart your post-wedding life?
Post # 15
I put my energies into getting our house in order & cooking. It’s kind of fun to use resources like Fly Lady and figuring out how to be a good “homemaker.”
Post # 16
I’ll be the same, all my free time is spent on wedding stuff! Will definitely miss it, but I’m hoping I can shift the focus to homemaking after that 🙂