(Closed) Any one else getting super sad over number of “Declines” on the RSVP?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I can relate.  Our wedding is in my FI’s hometown and all of his friends and family are local.  All my family and a lot of friends are out of town.  I’m fortunate because a lot of my out of town family are coming, however, a lot of my friends from out of town can’t.  I knew this going into it, but yeah, it still kinda sucks.  The only thing I can say is that you aren’t the only one in this situation and just enjoy your day with your FI…regardless of who makes it to your wedding. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I can totally relate. We invited 120 and I expected to be at about 100 but looks more like 80. None of FI fathers side of the FI father’s side of the fam is coming (not that I know them very well) and I know his dad feels bad. A few people we really hoped would come cannot attend. I certainly happy with everyone that can attend but still a little bummed.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh man – I’m there with you all. Our deadline was Friday, and there are still 80 people unaccounted for. We’ve had 25% of our total guest list decline already, and a good 25 people out of the remaining 80 will probably be a no. We invited 230, planned for 175, but I think we’re going to be lucky if we hit 140… very depressing indeed, and most of it is my family not coming (after I’ve been to all of their weddings)…

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I know what you mean- we rescheduled our wedding before we sent out official invites, but still- I went to school out west, and haven’t made really good friends yet here in the midwest where our wedding was to be- long story short- no one could come.  I know many of them have seasonal summer jobs for the forest service, but still- it would have meant so much to me.  I didn’t feel like a priority.  It was sad to have my would-be wedding mainly obnoxious family that I didn’t really want to see anyway.  When I announced I was rescheduling- no one responded except my mother who has gone to no end to make me feel bad.  Anyway, I know how you feel- people should come no matter what- don’t they know how much it means? 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

So now we’re waiting on 65 more people… and it looks like we’re going to have a 45-50% decline rate. Does this seem high?

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Heck I will be GLAD if most the people decline!Our venue is small and its capacity is 150. I’d love only around 60-80 people because then I could save on food. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

What has saddened me is the declines from her family friends for the bridal shower.  Two people who are supposedly very close to her have decided not to come- and I have no idea why.  Doesn’t make sense- unless they were not invited to the wedding… this is something I don’t know since I didn’t send out those invitations, and was instructed by the MOB to invite them to the shower. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We were actually really happy when people started declining ๐Ÿ™‚ When we sent our STDs, it was looking like 95 percent of our guest list were coming, and that terrified me (we wanted a smallish wedding). We invited 100, and our final count ended up being 75 total. It was perfect, and we came in under budget because of the money we saved on our reception food (we budgeted for 90 people to be safe).

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I was on the other side- our wedding was like all my family. his only family who came were his mom sister and grandma. it was really sad for him, but he kept saying he was just glad to be joining my family!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

The deadline for my rspv’s was may 1 and only just a handful has come back LOL  I dont know if people are comeing or not!!  It makes me sad because the rsvps weve gotten were all from my fiance’s family and they are coming from thousands of miles away.  My family on the other hand all live close enough to drive and We havent gotten very many rsvps back!  We have planned for around 50 people; we will be lucky to get 20 at this rate.  But that just means that the ones that do show are the important ones anyhow because they cared enough to show.      You are not alone, except im more angry at my family and friends then sad at this point.      I just keep reminding myself that those that show are the ones who truly care about my fiance and I.   Good luck ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am quite sad about all the no’s as well. We had sent out save the dates quite some time ago, but now people are saying they have birthday parties or something else to do. It makes me very sad because I am constantly doing things for others and never for myself and this is the one day that is for me and my future husband and we are getting no support. Oh well.  What can you do?

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I haven’t got that far but I think it will upset me.  Our goal was to invite 120 max but I think it will be more about 130.  A lot of my family lives in town so i’m sure a lot will come but there are a few people that live far away that I will be very upset if they can’t make it ๐Ÿ™ 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m really upset about the number of declines….I’d only gotten back ~25 RSVPS and 10 were declines, with about 75% unaccounted for. We invited 130, and are at 118 (not counting those who have yet to reply assuming those are yes). It makes me really upset, even more so when people aren’t even sending them back and telling me to my face they are not attending.

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