Post # 1
Any other April 2014 girls struggling with the wedding being SO far away?
Here’s the background on my situation. FI and I met in 2004 in high school, remained friends, both had crushes on each other, acted on it, but never dated. In 09 after we graduated and were in college we reconnected and started spending a LOT of time together. In Feb 09 we began dating and never looked back. By summer of 09 we knew it was meant to be. Finally got engaged in May of 12 and set a date 2 years out.
On paper, we’re doing everything right. We’re finishing college this year. I graduated in December, him in April, and since we both still live at home, we want to save up money to buy our own home. I’m a teacher and wont have a chance for a permanent job until this summer, hence the reason were waiting. I know it’s the smart choice and the right choice, but I just want to be married already! Several of my friends are getting married summer 2013 and its hard for me to see them getting closer and closer to their wedding (6 months or less) where I’m still over a year out! UGH!
Please tell me I’m not the only one that this is killing?
Post # 3
You are definitely not the only one! Granted, we have only been together for one year, but we fell in love really quickly. We met through mutual friends in summer of 2011, and began dating in December. We are technically not engaged yet, and we probably won’t be until May or June, but we both have agreed that April 2014 will work best. And both of our parents pretty much know we’ll be engaged soon.
It is sooooo hard to be waiting. My SO was the best man in his friend’s wedding last July, and then two of my cousins (one is like my honorary cousin, because we’re not really related) got married in September and October. Another one of my cousins is getting married in February, and then my best friend’s brother is getting married this April. It seems like EVERYONE I know is getting married! Haha.
Post # 4
Really struggling to be honest. We are in our early 30’s and have been together for 5 years. We got engaged Christmas 2011 and wanted to get married quickly. But we currently live in Canada and our families are in Australia. We were supposed to move back this month but we got promotions so decided to stay here a little longer. So now I am just treading water here, waiting to move home so I can start planning this wedding. I’m actually over the whole thing. I just want it over with. It all seems so huge (move home, buy house, new job + wedding) and hard but I have to keep on keeping on.
You are lucky you have a date in mind, I cant even confirm a month until we know when we are moving home! Ugh it’s pretty hard isn’t it.
Post # 5
Glad to know I’m not the only one who wants to move this along!
Post # 6
At least you won’t have scheduling conflict with said friends! I came here from the main page, so I’m not in your month, but I feel you about waiting.
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2014 - Morton Arboretum
I am April 26th, 2014. My little sister was proposed to over the summer. My fiancee bought the ring (unknown to me) before but was waiting for a life long trip we were planning to Jamaica to propose. That happened in October of 2012. Since my sister set her date for Oct. 2013, I decided to set mine for April of 2014. It is difficult waiting, but I am just planning everything in advanced. I booked early, I have save the dates and wedding invites already. And I start dress shopping next weekend.
I figure this way I have alot of details done ahead of time. Once I make a decision I stick with it so I am lucky.
I think I am fine but the Fiancee and friends say I may be jumping the gun. Well so be it, if I am happy and then I think it is ok.
My biggest issue is timeing for the save the dates and invites, I really want to know guest count so I can manage the budget. I am inviting 114 and want about 80-90. I am sending save the dates out 12 months in advance, I have a lot of out of town guests. Some may not attend I think on my dad’s side only 2 came to my brother’s wedding.
I want to send out invites in Late November/Early December with a RSVP before Feb 14th, 2014.
What do you guys think? Msybe I am jumping a but early??? What problems do you think this could bring?
Post # 8
2.5 year engagement over here!!!! Lol. It’s HARD AND LONG AND FRUSTRATING but totally with it 🙂 we’ve been together almost 4 years, we were originally waiting until I finished Uni to get married, but I got impatient. nd now it’s April 24th and I CAN’T WAIT!!!!
Post # 9
My wedding is May 2015 and I’m actually loving my long engagement! I’ve been engaged for over a year already and I feel like the time has flown. I know I’ll get nervous when there’s less than a year to go, so I’m enjoying being able to relax and just know that we are engaged 🙂
That said, we got engaged fairly quickly so if I had been waiting for years I think I might be chomping at the bit a little more!
Post # 10
@PrettyinPink45: TIme is flying by now. I’m April 5 2014 and it feels like after the holidays it will be right around the corner.
Post # 11
I feel like I am waiting forever too. I’m not technically engaged because neither of us really wants to be engaged more than a couple of years, but the only realistic time to get married isn’t for 2.5 more years. In the next 2 years, he has to finish a backbreaking long-hours year-long “internship” new Canadian lawyers have to do, then the next year I have to do the same thing. We also plan on moving cities and buying a house somewhere in there too, and don’t think a wedding would be enjoyable. Hence – we are waiting. Sigh. It’s maddening because we are practically planning a wedding and marriage now.