any one else stupid enough to be a SAHM and complete a uni degree fully online?

posted 3 years ago in College
Post # 3
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@wifey2be:  Oh my, does your fi know you feel this way? Can you hire a nanny just for an hour a day even so you can study or unwind?

Post # 5
209 posts
Helper bee

@wifey2be:  Do you have any close relations that wouldn’t mind taking her off your hadns for an hour or two a few days a week? It might give you a little time to study.

And if you find any time (what time lol), maybe try and have her swim or play as much as possible to wear her out so she’ll sleep for longer.

Post # 6
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@wifey2be:  Probably obvious, but do you have any family or in laws who might be able to take the kids for a few hours while you study?

What about a neighbour, if you’re close to them?

Post # 7
7039 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@wifey2be:  It sounds to me like you are working more than your FI, and even though he’s working long hours, he needs to pull his weight more at home. Why can’t he cook, or do dishes, or bathe the kids? What is he doing in the evenings? You need to have a talk to him about even-ing up the load.

And if you do fail a subject, it’s not the end of the world, there’s always next year.

p.s. why have you lost government financial support? Is it because you live with your partner? But you should still be getting both Family Benefit A and B. Are you?

Post # 8
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@wifey2be:  I’m a part time hair dresser and omg I know what you mean about the shoulders! Do you have any friends who you could ask for help? I know if any of my friends asked me to help them out I wouldn’t hesitate!  I know your fi works a lot but you also seem over worked, you need a helping hand!

Post # 10
62 posts
Worker bee

I’m going to be honest here – I’m studying online and working full time through Open uni.  I’m doing 2 units a semester.  I leave home at 5.30 am every day to go to gym before work, and don’t get home until about 7 pm, and I’m in bed by 10.30.

While I’m not going to say working full time is the same as being a SAHM, I will say that you probably have more opportunities to do study than I do during the week.  You really need to prioritise your studies as per what’s most important.  Do you need to read 100 pages every week?  Or is it better to just read the lectures and get a head start on your assignment?  Try to focus on ‘quality study’ over ‘quantity’ of study.

Don’t stress over a C on an assignment.  While it’s not ideal, it’s a pass, and getting upset over it will just create anxiety and frustration the next time you do an assignment.  P’s get degrees!  And when you get your degree, almost no one will care about your GPA – it doesn’t say so on your certificate.  (I already have a degree, and really, I can’t really what I got for any of my assignments, let alone my grade.  I got my degree, that’s the main thing).

Make sure your FI is helping more.  I get my best work done between Sunday lunch time and Sunday dinnertime – my SO cooks on a Sunday, so I don’t have to worry.  Your FI needs to step up and help on the weekends, even if that’s him keeping the kids out of your hair or out of the house for a good 4-6 hours on a Saturday or Sunday.

I’m guessing you are pretty close to finished now anyway. right?  Teaching is a 3 year degree + your teaching rounds (that’s if you did two subjects a semester).  So really, if you can hang on for a bit longer, and do your best, you will be laughing!  I tell myself that every week that goes by is another week closer to finishing.


🙂 Good luck for the rest of the semester.

Post # 11
155 posts
Blushing bee

I think I saw you live in Australia? I might be wrong!

Have you ever thought about getting an Au Pair? I used to work as one and think it could help you out. As an Au Pair I worked five days a week and was paid between 200-250 per week. If you were able to get a part time job during the week, say three days a week or something that would pay for the aupair and some. Then you would have two full days a week where you could go to a library or a coffee shop and work on your school work! I loved being an au pair and did lots for my family, I did all their laundry and cooked breakfast for the kids, packed their lunch and prepped dinner for the entire family.

Hope it all works out!


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