Post # 1
Im going towards not having any bridesmaids or groomsmen. I dont have any sisters and other family members arent the type that I want to have walk down the aisle on my special day. The wedding is a destination wedding and I really dont want the drama that comes along with it as well. I am a very different when it comes to everything. Not always the traditional type.I do have a best friend that I wanted to walk but she is now pregnant and may not be able to take part when the time comes. I have decided to have my youngest daughter who will be 3 1/2 in june and my neice 5 yrs old and my FI neice 5 yrs be flower girls. My brother would walk my mom, My soon to be husband would walk his mom, my son would be a ring bearer and my middle daughter the junior bride. what are your thoughts.
Post # 2
I had no bridal party. No flower girl or ring bearer. I had a dw in the Caribbean. Best decision I ever made. We had zero drama, and saved hundreds not having the expense of bm dresses, shoes, bouquets, hair makeup etc and saved a ton of time on the wedding day. We also had a super short reception, only two hours long. Enough for first dance, dinner, cake cutting and sparkler exit. We did not do dancing, bouquet or garter toss, and didn’t have to hire a dj. It was PERFECT. I still had amazing getting ready pics with mom. And our dads signed our certificate.
I will say this, no bridesmaids meant I had no one to throw me a shower (so, zero wedding gifts) or bachelorette party. Not that I missed any of it, but it was just something I sacrificed. Hubbys friends still had a bachelor “out night” not really a proper party, but I didn’t even get that.
So there may be some sacrifices with no bridal party, but it was worth it to have the wedding of my dreams the way I wanted it.
Post # 3
I LOVE that!! I love personalizing a wedding, no matter how it may be. We are only having 3 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen: no flower girls, no ring bearers, no ushers, no master of ceremony, we are even ‘giving ourselves away to each other’ rather than having someone walk me down the aisle. I think it’s going to be too adoravle having your daughter and nieces walking down the aisle! So precious! Have fun!! 🙂
Post # 4
Oh ya we had my brother walk my mom and hubby walked his mom, his dad walked his grandma. I held my bouquet the whole ceremony, which was pretty typical for island weddings. My coordinator assured me that most weddings she coordinates do not have bridal parties and they usually don’t even have guests, most of the time it’s just the couple themselves.
Post # 5
Thank you sooooo very much ladies! I felt bad for a minute. Not being the traditional one. sure there will be ppl talking but who cares. I do hair and make up and will be doing my own so I will be saving quite a bit as well! I love this site everyone is so helpful
Post # 6
terriberryinluv: I’m not at all either. This is why:
1. Our wedding is small (less than 40 people). It would look strange having a bridal party.
2. I have sisters and they all drive me crazy. As much as I would love to put them in identical dresses like they were little kids again and force them to get along for one day, it’s not worth the headache.
3. We are having a strict NO CHILDREN wedding. If we had a bridal party then I know people would volunteer their kids (some already have) and once we invite one, we have to invite them all.
4. I just want to be married. I don’t want to coordinate with other people about what colors/dresses/fits they like. Organizing a bunch of grown women is the LAST thing I care to do on my wedding day.
5. FI says we’re too old and all our friends are married already 🙂 (I’m in my early 30’s and FI is on the scary side of 30)
Post # 7
I didn’t have one too. It was great.
Post # 8
I am definitely leaning towards the no Briday party. I have 1 half sister I barely know and 1 best friend. My FI however wants to have one because he wants his brother and best friend to be a part of it. I feel like if I let him have 2 guys, next think you know he has a group of 8 people walking with him!!
Post # 9
I’m having a destination wedding and there is no bridal party. We only invited immediate family. The call with the planner to make all my selections at Sandals took 45 minutes. Easiest wedding planning ever.
Post # 10
I have sisters and a few close girlfriends, but DH and I elected not to have a bridal party about 5 months before our wedding. We just didn’t want to deal with any potential drama or the extra cost. We wanted our friends to enjoy it as guests. In both of our opinions, too often the wedding day becomes about all of these people when really it’s just about the celebration of the two of you. Even though our friends aren’t necessarily dramatic people, we thought it would be okay to make our wedding day just about the two of us. Best decision ever.
*We did have a flower girl though. We had already promised my 4-year-old niece and wouldn’t take that away from her.
Post # 11
I didn’t have one either. My best friend did a reading and DH’s friend gave a speech- but no one standing up with us, matching dresses etc. Best decision!
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2015 - Dreams Las Mareas - Costa Rica
not having one either… kind of… My cousin and his brother will be the witnesses…. so i guess they might be considered maid of honor and best man… but we havent given any titles… I have too many friends (I dont want to pick and choose) and a sister that I had a huge fight with recently so I dont want to be bothered….
plus the scary stories on here about friends falling out but now they are all over your wedding album… no thanks!
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2014 - Merritt Winery
terriberryinluv: I don’t think there is anything odd about that at all. My bridal party is very small. I’m having a MOH (my sister) and a BM (a close friend) and my FI isn’t having any GMs. Whatever you feel is right, is right!
Post # 14
coffeedrinker: I am totally on board with #4!! I am in my mid 30s too. Im eally feeling better about it now
Post # 15
rosegoldgirl: Now thats right!! lol