Any other bee that are in school and getting married

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1888 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@penny2013:  I admire you for taking on all that at once.  My FI and I purposefully waited until after I finished school because of the stress. One of my classmates got married about a week after our classes ended, she was planning her wedding throughout classes, internships, and qualifying exams.  She was a stressed out wreak (and unfortunatly her grades suffered).  One the other hand it’s a testament to your time management and organization skills that you are pulling this all off.  Having a honeymoon that isn’t right after the wedding is not uncommon, it’s done for lots of reasons, so I wouldn’t worry about that.  My advice to to enjoy your wedding, and consider your honeymoon a celebration for not only getting married, but also surviving classes.  It sounds like you’re pulling it off,  cograts!

Post # 4
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57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@penny2013:  I’m not in your situation as I’m getting married after I graduate this May, but I have a friend who got married the winter of our junior year during break, right after finals. 

And I certainly don’t think you’re taking away any excitement because you can’t honeymoon immediately. You also shouldn’t feel guilty about that. My parents didn’t take a honeymoon until 15 years after they got married, and that was only becuase my dad won a cruise off of Good Morning America.

So don’t worry about it. You’re not the sole bee still in school. And your wedding will be lovely despite finals and a post-poned honeymoon. 

Post # 5
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271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@penny2013:  I was planning a wedding last year when I got engaged and we ended up cancelling the whole thing cause I found out I got accepted to nursing school. That along with some financial issues influenced our decision to cancel the wedding and go for something cheaper. We just started getting into planning again in August and I am so worried about how I am going to balance school and wedding planning. We are thinking about doing it in 2015 after I graduate, but if any place we are looking at has a good winter special we are going to end up doing that in winter 2014/2015 and then we will just do what you are doing and postpone the honeymoon till after graduation. I felt the same way about postponing the honeymoon, like it wont be as exciting unless we do it immediately after we get married, but FI assured me if that happens it will still be exciting. I guess after all that hard work in school it will be nice to take a vacation and relax with FI!

Post # 6
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268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@penny2013:  I’m partially with you!  I am currently in school and have never been enrolled in my program without also being engaged/actively planning.  I talked with my advisor when I made my plan of study and am purposely doing a low stress independent study this semester that I don’t have to start until after the wedding.  We did delay our honeymoon until the end of the semester though just in case I couldn’t do the independent study.  

 

 

Post # 7
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365 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I work full time as a special education teacher, am going for two post masters degrees and getting married in 25 days and counting!! It’s definitely doable! Did I mention we are having a 300 person, both ceremony and reception, at our house… During the first month of school! 🙂

One of the pp’s is correct, time management is key! So is asking for help and sometimes delegating a job. And sometimes, it’s easier to do it yourself, the right way, so you don’t have to explain or get frustrated! 

Good luck!

Post # 8
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3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ll also be in school! I’m graduating my undergrad in May, wedding/honeymoon in June and starting grad school and hopefully full time job in July! I honestly don’t think I’ll be that stressed but we’ll see!

Post # 9
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723 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am right in the middle of nursing school! We got engaged in June and were originally planning a decc 2013 wedding we decided that was too quick with school and work and pushed it back until may 2014 -a week after I graduate. I did as much as I could over break even though it was super early to plan some of the stuff. I hardly work any more, and I know I have to stay on top of school first and then wedding stuff. I plan my days out a few weeks in advance and give my schedule to FI and my parents so they can know when to expect me to be free or doing wedding stuff. It’s hard but totally doable when you have the will and support. 

 

Post # 10
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81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m entering my second year law law school which I heard is about 5x worse than the first year ( in which several times I came the nearest to a nervous breakdown than I ever have in my life) and planning a wedding for August while working part time.  I still think it’s doable 🙂

 

 

 

Post # 12
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895 posts
Busy bee

I’m a full time student. I’m getting married 12/21 my last exam is 12/13 so I will have a full week off before my wedding. As for planning, I’m pretty much done, I did a lot over the summer, so it’s a good thing that school started to keep me from obsessing over little things.

Post # 13
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483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@penny2013:  I’m a waiting bee so don’t know if my input is wanted or cared for lol. My SO & I have talked things out and even though there is no set date yet,but we will be getting married while I’m still in school (full time) & work (full time). I think it’s doable honestly as long as everything is properly planned and organized. SO & I have started preplanning just so we can have a clear idea of what is needed when it’s time to book (so we won’t be running around like chickens with our head cut off) and put things into motion. By that time I will be in 8 hour classes per course (fashion design major). It’s one step at a time.. if you look at everything that needs to be done it will overwhelm you. Organise wedding things and your studying outline and take each project and each class info as they come so they all won’t be to much for you. Good luck with all your planning.   

Post # 14
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6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@penny2013:  I am in school. I work full time and go to school at night to become a court reporter. Its been very difficult bc court reporting is not easy. It requires hands on practice, its not like just opening a book abd studying. With all the planning ive been very preoccupied and not focused at all. Ive set myself back a year. Im very stressed and disappointed bc I want to start saving for a house and most importantly a baby. Im 28…the clock is tickin….

Post # 15
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1242 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

I got married in my last semester of law school; I wanted all wedding related activities to be done before I began studying for the bar exam. We decided to save our honeymoon for after my exam so we could both really relax. It’s stressful but doable, feel free to PM me if you need any advice 🙂 

Post # 16
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37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I also am a full-time student and work two part-time jobs. I’m feel the stress too!!! I will be done with my 2nd degree on May 13th (graduation yay!!) and my wedding day is 4 days later. When we picked they day I thought i’d have a full week off before hand but the finals week dates were changed. ugh. I have been stressing out over how much the wedding is going to cost, we live in the midwest so things are a bit cheaper than in NYC or other places but I feel like everytime I look at my budget I’m going to have a stroke. I’d much rather spend part of it on a down payment for a house. Add to that some recent drama with family and we are thinking of eloping or having a small DW during winter break. I feel for all the fellow student bees. It’s really hard to balance it all and still have time to keep your sanity.

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