Post # 1
I literally sit up and night sometimes and think about how everyones eyes are going to be glued on me at the ceremony and reception. I really do hate being the center of attention and I get really nervous about it! Advice? Anyone feel this way too? I wouldn’t say i’m “shy” I really do have an outgoing personality but its almost like public speaking, no one wants to mess up ;/
Post # 3
Yes, me. What’s weird is I didn’t even think about the “all eyes on me” part until I was standing there with my Dad, getting ready to walk down the aisle. When we entered the reception and sat at the table I thought I was going to die, I could not handle all that attention. The dancing was the worst part, OMG. If I could do it all over again I would have had a much more intimate ceremony/reception, perhaps even a destination wedding so I wouldn’t have to go through that!
Post # 4
@MrsStayPuft: my anxiety is unreal!
Post # 5
I do! I didn’t let them ring the bell when I picked my dress, hell no
Post # 6
Both me and my FI hate being the centre of attention which is why we both wish we could just elope, but since our parents would never forgive us we’re having the smallest wedding possible with only a handful of close family members there. All in all just 16 guests which I can juuussst about handle. He, however, deems that 16 people too many, haha.
Post # 7
@foreverlovex: yes! My mom LOVES being the center of attention, but my brother and I don’t like it. I’m very outgoing…but a way to get me nervous is to get all eyes on me. I was hoping to get away without reading our own vows because i am gonna be lucky if i can get a word out…feeling everyone stare at me o_O
Post # 8
This is exactly why I had a 24-guest wedding!
Post # 9
I have pretty bad anxiety. Sometimes I get red even when i just tell people I’m engaged and they ask me questions lol. We are having a DW with about 50ish people, so hopefully I’ll relax a bit more.
Post # 10
@foreverlovex: Me me me me me! I have very bad anxiety and am introverted and I’m absolutely dreading our wedding ceremony. I have a little widget on my computer desktop that tells me how many days until the wedding and when I see it, I think “Oh joy, 61 days until I throw up or pass out from nerves in front of everyone I know!!”
Post # 11
I don’t like it. At all. I don’t know what I’ll do at the wedding, I hope I won’t feel super uncomfortable!
Post # 12
I literally was unaware of the guests at my wedding. It felt like it was just me, DH, and the Pastor!
I was worried about being nervous/emotional/crying, but I was totally cool, calm, and collected for the whole thing!
Post # 13
@MelissaMajoria: This is exactly what we’re doing!
I’m not even shy or insecure, I just don’t think that I’m special enough to make 50+ people stare at me for 30 minutes. It just seems awkward, even though I enjoy attending other people’s ceremonies.
Post # 14
I feel the same way. I even thought about not walking down the isle, but instead wait at the bottom of the isle while people are seated so everyone can see me when they walk in. I’m terrified. My dress is a mermaid style so I’m scared I’m going to fall or something. I have 3 steps to climb to get to the gazebo (my FI said he will come down and escort me up) but OMG what if I fall on those stairs with this stupid long dress and high heels?
I only think the worse will happen. Maybe I’ll have a good stiff drink before I walkd down the isle, this way I could stagger down instead LMAO
Post # 15
I’m totally dreading the ceremony, as well as the first dance. We’re having about 200 people (both have big families, so there wasn’t a good way to cut down). I have some pretty hefty social anxiety, so I’ve been dreading this since we started talking about marriage.
Personally, I plan on having mimosas while getting ready.
Post # 16
I am really nervous about the ceremony part. I get really shaky when I’m the center of attention and I am so worried my voice is going to be really shaky, coupled with the issue of possibly crying (my sister and I cried at my older sister’s wedding, don’t even know why). However, we are really looking forward to having everyone together for once in our lives so our wedding is going to be over 100 people. I am hoping a shot or two before the wedding will calm the nerves.