Post # 1
Any of you having the same problem? Im about ten months out (forgive my posted date, its no longer correct) and i just cant seem to focus on anything for too long, and i dont feel like im getting ANYTHING done. Part of my feelings can be attributed to my ADHD, but i really feel like i havent accomplished anything (which im sure isnt entirely true) but that’s how i feel.
It’s been super hard for me to get all of my bm’s together to get any work done (heavy dose of DIY in my wedding), and i have no idea how long things will take, if im getting started too late or too soon, where/how to store all of the DIY projects.
in general, i feel very overwhelmed. FI is pretty much no help on anything, on top of it all
Post # 3
Are you a list maker? I am, and lists totally help me stay on track.
Post # 4
This is me for sure! Lol One day I’m all in and the next..Meh. My FI is no help, he only want to discuss food/bar.
I’m going to hire a planner soon, so hopefully she/he can help me stay on track.
Post # 5
Umm, yes. I second the whole hot and cold thing with wedding planning. I have been engaged for two years now and have yet to put any money down or stick to any of the actual wedding dates that could have been… I have finally whittled down all of my vendors to two, but then the wind blows and I change my mind about the kind of wedding that I want and go back to square one for a few days. I go from wanting a huge, lavish white wedding to a small intimate family thing to a destination wedding. The look that I think I want changes all of the time; let alone what kind of music and all of the other stuff. I had settled on a venue and then up and did a 180 after six months of being fine. I enjoy picking things out and exploring ideas, but it kills me not to know ALL of my options and commit to one thing when I know something better may come along tomorrow–it was so much easier picking the man than the superficial details. Oye.
I am such a perfectionist that it is freaking me out to pick just one type of wedding, because I want my guests a) to come and b) to enjoy it instead of pick it apart. I am so beyond ready to be married, but it feels like that last/only time a spotlight will be on us and I want it to be spectacular. I am known to be over-the-top crazy when it comes to things like these, so everyone keeps telling each other how glorious it is going to be (and I will know if it does not meet their expectations one way or another). No pressure, haha… But really, these are unrealistic standards and I know it is my FI’s and my opinions that (should) matter, it’s just a horrid habit of mine to expect the best from myself (above everyone else = problem) and to feed off of that note of supreme recognition from others for a job well done. Problem is, you have to plan something to have a shot at an amazing day. Sigh… I am setting myself up to be disappointed at this point.
My FI has finally given me til the end of 2015 to have the big shebang or he says we’re just signing the papers and calling it good. I have given myself a deadline of the end of January to put a deposit on a venue, and then early March to start looking for a dress. I hope these checkpoints get the ball rolling.
Post # 6
“It’s been super hard for me to get all of my bm’s together to get any work done (heavy dose of DIY in my wedding)”
Maybe take this as a clue from them??
DIY is your responsibility, not theirs. If there is so much, get your FI involved, as he is the one getting married.