Post # 1
So I’ve been cruising the threads a few weeks now. I’ve made some threads, commented on threads, had some fun, read some without commenting & then I’ve noticed! While there are a wide array of topics here, I’ve yet to see one thread with my own eyes (I’m not saying one didn’t exsist, just I haven’t seen one) about bees who survived addiction and are now successfully recovering addicts like myself. I think a good support thread would be nice, hence why I’m posting. So I’m going to put myself it here and be first to start, feel free to write also. I’m a recovering addict of just over 5yrs from heroin. I’m newly engaged to my best friend who is also in recovery. I still fight daily to stay clean, & I’m excited to say I never thought I’d make it out alive or have a normal and healthy life. I’m also a mother, my son has some issues, it’s really hard at times. I’ve been thru hell and back it all started when I was 13 and was raped. I had a son as a result of that. When he turned 3 I find it he was autistic, my family took him at that point adding more hurt in my life, I ended up in a few abusive relationships which related in injuries. I was prescribed pain medication and my addiction was born. Suddenly a way to fill my pain and function, but after a while it wasn’t enough and I led into heroin addiction. After being in the pits of hell a few years I’ve found a way out, I took the first few years of my recovery to be single and find myself. In that time I realised my best friend (who was already in love with meunknown to me) was in fact my ssoul mate. We officially got together a year ago and quickly built our life together. We were unofficially engaged af few mths after getting together and just officially got engaged on Easter! My happily ever after is in near sight. I never thought I’d have this or deserved it. I hope to help others abd actively try.Just one life saved would be a win for me!
Post # 2
- Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods
I have not experienced addiction myself, but my brother is a former heroin addict. We were always very close until his addiction made him someone I didn’t know anymore. He was able to beat his decade long addiction and will be 3 years clean in July. He met an amazing woman and they are expecting thier first child in July also. I never seen him as happy as he is now.
I have seen the struggle and strength it takes to overcome this disease. My brother hates it when people say that they are ‘proud’ of him. He says there’s nothing to be proud of because he never should have had the problem to begin with. He prefers people to be happy for him and what he has accomplished. So to you I say that I am happy for you, and wish you continued strength and happiness. I wish your fiance strength in his recovery as well. I can’t tell you how great it is to have my brother back, I never thought I would see ‘him’ again. I’m sure the people you love feel the same way about you.
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Aqualov: I am glade you understand that was not your brother during those times, and Im happy hes finally on the right track again with his life, I feel the same way and sometimes even cheated out of where I could have been, but the truth is with out the addiction taking part of my life I never would be as happy, understanding, selfless, or thankful for who I am and what I have today! Thank you for sharing I love hearing from others even though its rrare, because sadly we really only hear about the active addiction to much and not enough about the fact that it can be beaten and you can live life after addiction! 🙂
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Totalkaos1983: I’ve never had any experience with this, but I just wanted to congratulate you on your sobriety. I wish you all the best and a very bright future 🙂
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Totalkaos1983: I have not personally struggled with addiction, but have several family members who do, and have been in relationships with addicts as well. I just want to congratulate you on kicking a tough addiction and wish you the best!
Post # 6
You are not alone here. I have been clean and sober since 1994. My husband since 1988. We had a beautiful sober wedding with all our sober friends and family.
My first marriage, which lasted 25 years was spent mostly in our disease. I raised my 4 kids in the insanity. When I got sober everything changed. I started to get well, and my husband at the time didn’t like that.
He didn’t want to give up his addictions. I stayed until I couldn’t do it any longer and then….I walked out the door.
I met the man I am married to now when I was in treatment. 20 years later we got married.
Now I am someone’s princess, and I will live my happily ever after in a recovery based relationship, with a man who really loves me and respects my sobriety. YAY….
ENJOY YOUR JOURNEY….
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housebee: Thank you very much
MrsA1222: Thank you and I hope one day your family members are able to come thru the addiction and live the life they deserve. Please remember one thing while dealing withthe addict, They are not the real people you know, The addiction hijacks their bady and mind untill they can rid themselfs of that addiction. The things they do are not things or choices they would make with a clean mind! they dont mean to hurt you and unfortunatly cant help it, stop it, or undo it!
Mammy: CONGRATS to you, IM happy you to got your happily ever after. I too and my fiances Princess. Its nice to have someone who does anything for me, Although I have to admit its still very hard to be accepting of the treatment I deserve because its so new to me and out of my comfort zone. Luckily he knows and understands this and is patient and willing to go thru it with me.
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Totalkaos1983: All the best to you on your journey!
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Totalkaos1983: I’m a recovering alcoholic! I have 4 and half years sober, and FI has a little over 14 years sober. Congrats on your clean time, and thank you for trusting us Bees with your story.
Post # 10
Mammy: You’re not alone. I met my now husband at a rehab facility just over two years ago. We were both at the absolute lowest points in our respective lives, but somehow a miracle happened. We are both recovering alcoholics, still sober today and more happy than we ever thought possible for us during this life on Earth.
Post # 11
I am trying to recover from junk food addiction, while not the same as drug or alcohol addiction, it is still pretty powerful. I think seeing positive results from not having whatever it is you’re addicted to really helps. I have fallen off the wagon a few times, but know I can go without, despite the crazy withdrawal. I managed to lose 1.9kg (4lbs) in three days where I didn’t eat junk food except for social drinks (or in my case red bull and nibbles) and exercised 30 minutes a day. After that I have been wanting healthy food more, and junk food doesn’t taste quite so good as it used to, although when I didn’t exercise for a couple of days and ate lots of junk I put the weight back on, but I haven’t gained any more than that. So now I know I can do it and it is fairly easy to lose the weight.
It is a long journey, good on all of you for fighting your addictions and good luck with your journey to recovery!
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I’ve been sober almost 4 years. Fi is sober as well. Keeping the guest list down was very hard because of all our friends in recovery. I never imagined I’d have such a beautiful and fulfilling life.
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Totalkaos1983: I am not an addict. But my younger brother is currently in rehab for alcohol (and other drugs like acid and prescription pills, though his problem is mostly with alcohol). He’s really embracing the program – the first he’s been in – and we have high hopes that he can maintain his sobriety, though we know there is a possibility he might relapse. It is encouraging to hear that you and your FI have gotten your lives on track and are now happier than ever. It gives me even more hope to know that people can and have beaten this disease.
Post # 14
Congrats on your new life! Very happy for you! I have been sober for over 3 years (also heroin) and my FI just celebrated 15 years! Our 2 1/2 year old has his formal autism eval next month and I related to a lot of other things in your story.
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Thank you Windsong_: congrats to you and your fiancee in your time clean as well.
I think sometimes it takes two sillysillybee: to pull each other other out of the depths of hell. Congrats to you both!
Jacqui90: i just want to say food is a addiction too and a deadly one also! It’s also a harder one to beat as you have to eat food to live! You can do it. You just need to remember that it can kill you and be strong. They have meetings and support groups for food addiction to. Maybe that would be some extra help and support. Good luck 🙂
lcutter711: congratulations to you both and I’m happy you were able to have a supportive guest list for your wedding!
FutureMrsJohnson_: prayers for your family and brother! I know he’s making a great choice accepting help& has allot if work to do. Know that he will recover but it takes everyone different time. Relapse is part of recovery. Remember that, a relapse is nit the end but a stepping stone and necessary to learn from.
Allyg: congrats to you both and the new journey with a child with mental health. It’s going to be hard and trying but you can an will do it! Stay strong 🙂