Post # 1
Okay, to start, I had a horrible time in High School, not academically but socially. I was a debate geek and hated everyone and everything about school. I was constantly bored with the curriculum and constantly thought I was smarter than any of my teachers and hated having to be taught by such ignorant people. Stupid adolescent, I think I know everything thinking, I know. Anyways, I’m nearly 26 years old now and never went to college, my parents waited nine years and had 4 children before they decided to go back and both finished with double Master’s Degrees so going to college right after high school was not something shoved down my throat, or even generally talked about, so I never got around to continuing my education.
FI and I will be married May 26th, 2013. We have a 1 year old together and have been together, when we marry, five years. My sister just recently became and RN and I believe that’s what I want to do, not just because it’s a great job, but also job security. The medical industry will always be around and will always have positions to be filled. FI’s uncle is the most recognized and well-known cardiologist in the region, my mother works in IT at the same hospital as him, my sister is a nurse on his floor, finding a job after i get my license will not be a problem.
However, I’m scared S**tless about going back to school, working full time, and raising our little girl. FI is behind me 100% and has already stated he will do everything he can to help me so I can get through school. But it just freaks me out thinking about going back. Any other Bees late bloomers on this front or have any advice/good outcomes to this type situation? Thanks in advance for reading and replying.
Also, I can only get on here during my lunch hour again so please don’t take my lag on responding as not wanting advice. I have no computer at home so replies may be far between but I will be checking in randomly and reading responses.
Post # 3
@BushelAndAPeck: I’m not a late bloomer academically, but I know a ton of people who are, and it usually works out really well. My mom started out as a kindergarten teacher, quit her job to be a SAHM for my brother and I and then re-entered the workforce as an entry level claims payer for a large insurance company when she was about 35 years old. She worked her way up through the ranks and eventually got her Master’s degree after I graduated from college, and she’s now an executive with the same insurance company. Getting a late start didn’t hurt her at all! My dad also finished his Bachelor’s degree after I was done with college – it was tough for him to balance school and work, but he did it – and was so happy that he did!
My FI just started college this semester, too, at age 36. He only has a high school diploma and jobs are hard to come by without a college degree, so he decided he would become a paralegal. We’ll probably TTC while he’s in his second year of school, so there’s a definite possibility that he’ll be a new dad and a full time student at the same time. I know it’ll be tough, but it’s going to be so worth it when he graduates with a skill that can get him a good-paying job! Just remember that it’s a temporary hardship with really wonderful rewards at the end.
Post # 4
I am a college instructor. My non-traditional students (defined as being out of HS for more than 3 years) ALWAYS do well UNLESS they are over-extended – like the ones who try to work full-time while attending school full-time and have small kids. With adequate support at home and with a firm eye on your goals – you will do very well. I did not go back to college until I was 27 years old and graduated with a 3.96GPA!
Post # 5
@KatieBklyn: Thank you so much for your story! I know my parents did it with the 4 of us, but they also didn’t work and had their parents available for daycare and such. I’m so glad to hear good outcomes from starting late! Thansk again, I feel deep in my soul that I can do it, I just have to truly, without a doubt, BELIEVE that I can accomplish this for myself and for my little girl. I want to be a better role-model for her!
@trueblue14: Oh my! Thank you so much for this, it gave me a great boost of confidence! FI is behind me 100% and knows it will be a tough journey for the 3 of us but he says he knows we can do this and will be a stronger, better family in the end.
Thank you both for your kind words of encouragement. I will go back and continue to read these over and over to remind myself that it can be done!