- 7 years ago
In a community this big, I can’t be the only one!
Some questions for you, if you’re comfortable answering (if not, that’s cool, just holla so I know you’re out there!):
When did you first realize you were bisexual?
Did you “come out” at all? If so, when/how/to whom?
Which sex are you? Which sex are you marrying? Did you always think you would marry this sex?
Does your SO know about your sexuality? Are they accepting of it?
I’ll go first.
I am female, and I first started feeling sexual attractions to other girls around the same time I started feeling sexually attracted to boys (age 10 or 11). I couldn’t explain it very well, except that despite being a very feminine person, I would sometimes feel “the way a boy should feel around a girl.” I had just recently found out that about gays and lesbians, but I figured that since I’m attracted to the opposite sex, that must mean I’m straight. (I didn’t know there was an inbetween option at the time.) So I figured it was probably somewhat normal, and didn’t tell anybody about it.
Then I ended up switching to a religious private middle school and high school, which, in a few words, fucked up my sexuality for awhile. I was told that same-sex attraction was wrong, and I felt incredibly guilty for fantasizing about girls, since even thinking about something “sinful” is, apparently, the same as committing the actual sin. So I tried my best to repress any thoughts or feelings I had towards other girls.
In college, I fooled around with both girls and guys, became an atheist, and started officially identifying as bisexual at age 19. I was so happy to finally feel like it was ok to be myself.
I have come out to my friends and to my sister, and it didn’t change our relationships at all. But then, one time, my mom asked to see my facebook page, and noticed that under “Interested in” I had listed both men and women. She asked about it, and so I said, “Yes. I am bisexual. I started identifying as such about a year ago.” In a very saddened tone, she just said, “Somehow, I expected this from you…” She totally ruined it for me. After feeling so rejected, I never got up the courage to tell my father or brother, so they are still in the dark; and I’ve never brought it up with my mother ever since, as I feel she disapproves.
I plan on marrying a male. I don’t think I could live totally without d*ck, lol. I sort of always expected to end up with a guy. However, I’ve never been in a long-term relationship with a female, so maybe if I got that opportunity, I would change my mind. I sort of wish I could marry one of each, haha, but I know that’s not practical.
I am currently in a relationship with a great guy, who has known about my sexuality since the very beginning. He loves it; he thinks it’s hot when I make out with my girl friends, haha. And although it hasn’t happened yet, both of us really would like to have threesomes with other women; I love that he is so open-minded. I feel very accepted by him, which I never expected to find with someone.
OK, your turn bees! Don’t be shy!