Post # 1
Well, you might recall that my cousins/BMs had 9 months to save for their but didn’t. And with 4 months until the wedding day, we went to get dresses they pitched a fit about having to buy them, insisted they had time still, throw a few f-bombs at each other and stormed out. Their mom ended up paying for the dresses.
Well now it’s time to plan for the bridal shower. Still no money and all the expenses are falling on my sister/MOH.
(Side Vent – Yet, they think they can have tons of input and be demanding on their thoughts. For example, my sister want to host it at a hotel, they are demanding it be at a lodge in a park. My sister wants a elegant and traditional tea party. They want all this food they can make at really has nothing to do with the theme)
Money is tight for me but I feel like I should help my sister. Should I? Or should I encourage her to scale things down?
My mom has a point: These people are bringing presents and we need to provide food.
Post # 3
I recently posted about how I’m probably not even going to have a shower unless I pay for it/do it myself so yeah, I’m definitely paying!
Post # 4
Shockingly the one thing I am not paying for is my shower (and the rehearsal dinner)…I would maybe talk to your sister about cost cutting and things you can do to scale back but still make it nice.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I told my bridesmaids that I’d be happy to chip in and they told me I was crazy. But I don’t see anything wrong with it if it makes everyone happy.
Post # 6
@kitty – have you thought about what you are going to do for the shower?
Post # 7
I picked up some food for my showers. My Maid/Matron of Honor was still in college and I know money was tight. Meanwhile, I’d been working for a year. It didn’t hurt to pick up some sodas and some chips and some other stuff. We went really casual though. Like, macaoni salad style. I’d help out my own sister.
Mine was a very inexpensive shower. It was actually held in my own home and like I said, we had casual food. It doesn’t have to be fancy or anything; is there a way to simplify it? Or is your sis stuck on the theme?
Post # 8
@Champagne – The hive gave me the idea to do it potluck style, so maybe just a little potluck party at my parents’ house, which would be free and big enough to have a group thing there. I would do a lot of the cooking ahead of time, get beverages, a little bit of alcohol, etc. and then people could bring a little something if they wanted to. I honestly don’t know yet but it’s just an idea I’m tossing around.
Post # 9
Wow – that’s a tough situation to be in. Sounds like your cousins need a swift kick in the butt. I’m so sorry they’re giving you a hard time. Maybe you should talk to them about whether or not they really want to be in your Bridal Party at all.
My Mom’s all gung-ho about the shower and it’s a surprise so I have no say about mine. I wouldn’t mind helping out where I can though.
We did a really cute shower for a friend of mine when I was her Bridesmaid or Best Man. We had it in her Mom’s backyard – the bridal party and close family & friends chipped in & made food, cupcakes, etc. You could easily do a tea party at someone’s house & have finger sandwiches and hors d’oeuvres, mini cakes, etc.
Post # 10
luckily my dad sponsered my shower, so my bridesmaids didn’t have to worry. (my sister jokingly asked for a sponser and my dad said yes!) i really don’t have any money to help them if they needed it. i would have suggested to scale back. around here, showers are normally just held at someone’s house with friends/family bringing food, and it’s usually really nice.
Post # 11
Aww – I don’t get a shower! I live 300-600 miles away from my bridesmaids, so we can’t hook up and do something fun together other than the actual wedding!