(Closed) Any other brides out there just not give a f*ck?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m with you. I have a hard time blaming the vendors though, I think this is fallout from detail obsessed Bridezillas who devolve into hysterics over things like the wrong shade of red or the wrong kind of rose. After some of the ludicrous shit I’ve heard when planning, I think being in the wedding service industry must be a singularly crappy job. They probably feel like “I don’t care” is a trick.

Post # 4
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I saw your previous post where you said the venue has a planner that you’re working with but she is still asking you for all kinds of details. Since it sounds like money isn’t an issue maybe you could hire someone independent to make all the decisions for you? Since you legit don’t care and I understand why the venue would be worried that you’d hate what they do since most people do care, maybe a third party would help.

Or, they would just call you more often. Not sure.

 

Post # 5
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2488 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I tried to care a little at the begging but quickly gave up!

 

Post # 8
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1132 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I agree with PP, it’s the Bridezilla thing that scares many vendors from believing that you will really be okay at the end of the day as long as you end up married. I just keep repeating that and it seems to get the point across.

Usually repeatedly stating what *is* important to you (getting married) will get them to lay off the stuff that isn’t important to you (what shade of red).

Post # 9
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3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I feel ya. I was  just asked this weekend what my cake vision is.

“I don’t care. Does it taste good? Is there maroon (my primary color) on it? Cool.”

Post # 10
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9920 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@kittenbojangles:  lol if you read through this board carefully enough you’ll find brides like that.  even if they’re not nasty about their opinions, they’ve very particular and really care about the differences between shades of color and all that.

 

I would find someone to be your go-between.  Tell them that you REALLY don’t care, that it is super stressful for you to answer all the stupid questions, and that they are in charge.  Good luck!

Post # 11
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1132 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@kittenbojangles:  There really are people like that. And it’s not like the wedding turned them into that, it just makes it worse. Which is why the vendors are so scared.

Post # 12
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Maybe you could just send them some pictures and say “I like this, when in doubt, consult the picture” and ask that instead of calling, because of the time difference, they just send you a weekly email with any questions they haven’t been able to sort out on their own?

Alternatively, you could just start answering all their questions with, “Surprise me!” 🙂 

Also, maybe explain to your venue’s planner that your “dream wedding” is one where you just show up. Make sure you use the phrase “dream wedding.”

Post # 14
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492 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@kittenbojangles:  lol you crack me up. i saw your previous post and i feel like i want to be your friend IRL lol. why even have colors then? just get some tables and eat. I don’t know how to tell them you don’t care. I would just say “I don’t care. You don’t have to call and ask, you’re gonna get the same answer every time. I don’t care.”

Post # 15
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1857 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I really don’t give a damn about any of it to be honest. At the end of the day, I want to a) be married and b) be full of delicious food and good wine. I don’t care about colors or themes or a big poufy dress or flowers or favors or centerpieces or chairs. And I refuse, 100%, to learn about stuff I don’t care about.

So we’re getting married at the courthouse and having a big fancy dinner with a small number of people we love. AND I am having the boy plan it. I just don’t care at all.

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